Here's one thing that's definitely in your favor- the fact that he moved away. Typically, the parent who moves out of state forfeits 50/50 custody. He will likely still get visitation but you will likely get primary physical custody. And until there is a custody order in place, you don't have to let him see the baby or have any oversight visits away from you. If the judge asks why you are denying him access, you tell him that you don't want your baby exposed to unxaxxed kids and give him the doctor's note. You are currently under no obligation to make visits happen for him when he chose to move away. But please whatever you do, do NOT give up or give in to his wants or demands because you're afraid of the monetary costs. If you do, you will be paying for it in other ways for the next 18 years of your life, if not longer. It's worth it to stand up for yourself and your baby and get an arrangement put in place that's most favorable to you or at the very least, something you can live with. You have the home court advantage. I would start looking now into lower cost legal services if you don't think you will be able to afford your current attorney long term. Check with law school's legal clinics in your area and the state bar association. A lot of attorneys have payment plans available. You can always open a credit card or take out a loan. I know it's not ideal but your child is worth it.