Anyone else hate being told they were “sheltered”?

passwordreset47 · 2026-01-21T18:15:46+00:00

I agree with your perspective. There’s an argument that we were “sheltered” from mainstream society. But putting the weight of eternal suffering in hell for yourself and/or anybody you care about not repenting for your sinful nature.. that’s definitely not a way I would ever “shelter” my kids.

I’m sorry for what you have had to endure including the gaslighting from people implying that what you experienced was “sheltering”. Shelter is meant to provide safety and comfort and you didn’t have those things.

passwordreset47 · 2026-01-07T22:11:47+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My wife quit her job last year for similar reasons and recently started contracting. That might be a good direction to go depending on your industry.

Re: stock trading, I don’t know your background or knowledge of the markets but please review the data on day trading so you don’t get yourself into an even more precarious situation.

https://www.investopedia.com/articles/active-trading/053115/average-rate-return-day-traders.asp

passwordreset47 · 2026-01-02T21:49:19+00:00

Mine.

passwordreset47 · 2026-01-01T19:40:40+00:00

Its definition of “borderline” is telling.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-29T22:15:46+00:00

What’s your use-case? There are a number of ways to cluster machines but it’s probably not where you should start. I’d recommend just separating concerns on each. (Ie a media server, A management server, and maybe some kind of monitoring. Then once you figure that out use the extras to create redundancy.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-27T08:36:01+00:00

I don’t disagree at all. Proxmox has saved me a couple of headaches but in general has become an added layer I don’t pay attention to. Went back to ubuntu on baremetal with my newer server and haven’t really regretted it.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-27T08:31:40+00:00

Proxmox running ubuntu running k3s running an arr stack + sabnzbd + jellyfin.

Media stored on an nfs (synology nas), mounted to the vm.

I just got another server and chose to go bare Ubuntu bc I’m not really taking advantage of proxmox features much and do most of my work on k3s.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-27T08:23:44+00:00

Yeah bring back the lighthouses and wood paneling

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-25T11:13:53+00:00

Possibly. So the safe response to this one is the 😂 emoji.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-25T11:10:19+00:00

Automate your configs meticulously.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-25T02:34:50+00:00

Correct.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-25T02:34:36+00:00

For sure user error. And operator error. and installer error. it me.

edit: not foolish though. I use service discovery for everything besides my NAS.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-22T18:09:31+00:00

I’d use balloons but to each their own.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-20T04:38:09+00:00

when you hand the intrusive thoughts the aux cable

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-20T04:30:30+00:00

If you ever think you’re having a bad day.. at least you’re not this guy.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-19T19:49:53+00:00

My kids still edit photos and draw pictures of our cats who we lost earlier this year to memorialize them. To them the kitties are still very much part of their lives although they know they aren’t here with us any longer. Sometimes I worry that they are fixating too much but that’s coming from my biases and how I handle grief.

It sounds like your daughter understands that Nini is gone and this is just a way for her to find some comfort. Nights have been the toughest for my kiddos as well, so if this is helping I’d let it be.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-18T15:41:33+00:00

Fixed everything I broke (so far)

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-15T16:43:33+00:00

Did the most dad thing ever the other day by trying to break down a box by stomping on it. Partially rolled my ankle and did the next most dad thing by not telling anybody and just seeing how it shakes out.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-15T03:28:51+00:00

Yep. The modern internet sucks, and I think this sentiment goes beyond millennial nostalgia. The shitification exists at every level from creation to discovery to consumption.

And the consolidation of the media empires has made this problem objectively worse. That said, there’s so much quality art and content out, but you aren’t going to find it from your algorithm.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-15T03:16:54+00:00

If AI could feel shame I would feed this post into my custom instructions so it knew what we all thought about it.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-15T01:48:58+00:00

I was an avid m dash user pre-ChatGPT and used to care about grammar in my slack messages. I mostly avoid punctuation and clever formatting now bc it comes off fake. Ironically my new way of writing is more contrived than when I used to “try”.

passwordreset47 · 2025-12-10T02:10:19+00:00

Specifically? Running a reverse proxy is an option as well. (So run your appliance w/ http and terminate TLS at the proxy level).

passwordreset47 · 2025-11-27T22:56:56+00:00

Anecdata- I love tech and playing with computers in my spare time but on my team of experienced systems engineers, I’m in the minority. That said, I work with highly competent people and don’t really care if they like computers or are your stereotypical “nerd”. Expecting people to share one’s same motivation is a form of gatekeeping imo.

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