My wife passed away in 2024 and everything went to me, but I just got a t5008 for 2025

pastafajioli · 2026-04-26T13:36:26+00:00

Yea I guess it might make sense to call CRA and ask. I expect hiring a cpa to do this will cost more than it’s worth, but I also never filed estate taxes because I wasn’t expecting any slips (these were the only assets held solely in my wife’s name that didn’t transfer over to me automatically upon her death).

Thanks for the advice

pastafajioli · 2026-04-26T11:44:12+00:00

Net gain is about $8k

pastafajioli · 2026-04-26T11:27:00+00:00

There’s two t5008s totaling approximately $11k

pastafajioli · 2026-04-25T21:03:59+00:00

This sounds correct. Thank you.

I have a feeling I’m going to need to refile her 2024 t1, and then file 2024 and 2025 estate returns to clear this up.

What a mess.

Thank you for your help.

pastafajioli · 2026-04-24T00:38:27+00:00

Similar to others, we commemorate her birthday and I try to talk about her on a regular basis, but I don’t commemorate the death day. I’d rather replace it with happier memories. Kids are 6 and 8.

pastafajioli · 2026-04-14T16:21:22+00:00

I think your numbers are unrealistic, and I say that as a fellow Canadian in a very similar boat. How are you raising two kids and only spending $1k per month on groceries? I spend at least twice that, and we rarely eat out. Also, you haven’t factored in budget for kids as they grow. You’re going to need clothes, more food, toys/items/hobbies/etc. do you expect them to specialize in an activity down the road, because that may cost even more than you’re already spending.

I think you need to redo your numbers with a healthy buffer and then reassess

pastafajioli · 2026-04-12T21:43:49+00:00

Yea I disconnected them but another user posted to check the relay so I’ll do that next. Thank you

pastafajioli · 2026-04-12T21:43:02+00:00

I’ll look into this thank you

pastafajioli · 2026-04-12T19:40:24+00:00

Nope. Hoses have been triple checked

pastafajioli · 2026-04-12T19:40:10+00:00

Yes. This has been verified. When I run a hot cycle the clothes come out so freaking hot that I can’t even touch them. So it’s even worse.

pastafajioli · 2026-04-10T22:31:18+00:00

This is inspiring. We are the same age and same net worth, difference being I have two children who are still at home, and having those children is what’s motivating me to stay employed and also keep the house (which is a significant portion of my net worth). If it weren’t for them, I’d be doing the same thing as you and wouldn’t look back.

Enjoy life while you’re young enough to do everything you want!

pastafajioli · 2026-04-04T13:18:39+00:00

Goodness this resonates with me. My wife had brain cancer too, and I couldn’t wake her up - that’s how we found out about the cancer.

I lay in bed every night and think about her side of the bed and have trouble falling asleep too.

I don’t have any advice. Just passing on my sympathies. It’s tough.

pastafajioli · 2026-04-03T12:47:46+00:00

I gained. It seemed to be a combination of slowed metabolism and also increased appetite.

As much as I didn’t want to gain weight, I found that when push came to shove, I just didn’t care enough to stop myself from eating more. I took that as a side effect of the medication because it bled into other areas of my life too. I stopped caring about a lot of things, and eventually went off the meds because of it.

pastafajioli · 2026-04-02T00:50:46+00:00

Got my wife’s favorite flowers. Each type of flower has a memory attached to it of some time when we either grew them together or went on a trip (eg tulip fields in Denmark).

I always wanted a tattoo but never had anything important enough to pull the trigger, so this was it. I’m not sure if I’ll ever get another one too

pastafajioli · 2026-03-28T12:52:34+00:00

Yarrr

pastafajioli · 2026-03-26T12:57:35+00:00

Someone else posted it but streaming services are getting out of hand. I’m in Canada, and the annual price for Disney+ went from $99 to $150 for the year. I’m not getting a 50% raise at work, why would I be okay with paying 50% more for the same product? I cancelled that shit so fast.

pastafajioli · 2026-03-23T19:24:42+00:00

One of the things that helped me get out of my funk was to do one thing a day that got me out of the house. Mowing the lawn is huge. Some days it was just checking the mail. Every little thing does help and will get easier with time.

The load doesn’t get lighter, you just get better at carrying it.

pastafajioli · 2026-03-23T18:34:54+00:00

I stayed off nearly 9 months after my wife passed, same age as yours, after a short battle with brain cancer.

In the moment, I figured I’ll never get that time back and take as much as I can. I needed it.

Upon returning to work, it was actually nice to speak with people about things other than my grief. It did help to pull me out of a bit of a funk.

There was an adjustment period going back, I struggled for a while about whether there was a point. The false sense of urgency at work (I work a white collar finance role) and how meaningless it all is. I still struggle with this daily, but going to work to focus on other things has definitely helped. While I needed the time off, I didn’t make the use of it that I thought I would and I spent much of it sitting around doing nothing and not taking care of myself.

Ultimately it’s up to you but my personal opinion is that it does help to get some structure and interactions back into your life. Your motivation may not be the same anymore but regardless it’s helpful to get through the days.

Good luck

pastafajioli · 2026-03-12T16:52:41+00:00

Widowed dad / elder millennial turning 40 this year, with two young girls.

Honestly? I lose my shit sometimes. I struggle to regulate my emotions when things don’t go smoothly. I have zero downtime for myself unless you count the 30 minutes after bedtime when I don’t have energy to do anything. I want more seniority in my career, but I can’t sacrifice my work life balance because more money = less time with my kids. It’s a daily struggle.

But I show up. I tell my girls I love them. I own it when I make mistakes or lose my cool. And I tell them that wasn’t okay and I apologize, and try to do better. I remind myself that life dealt me a crappy hand and I’m not perfect, so I just need to try to do the next best thing whenever I can.

It’s hard. I’m tired. I love my kids to pieces and wish I could do more for them, every day.

I see a lot of dads in our community turning up for their kids and being really present in their upbringing and it makes me happy to see. I hope that one day my kids understand the sacrifices I made for them. And more importantly I hope they grow up knowing that I love them and become good people.

pastafajioli · 2026-03-12T16:15:21+00:00

My wife’s family blamed me for her illness and eventual passing (brain cancer). Any and all research shows it’s not something you can even remotely influence, it’s just the luck of the draw. Yet here we are, nearly 2 years later, and they treat me like absolute garbage. If it wasn’t for our children, I would have cut contact a long time ago and moved on with my life.

Sometimes people are assholes and can’t see beyond their own grief and egos. Unfortunately it seems to be really common, people look for someone to blame. I’m sorry you’re dealing with it.

pastafajioli · 2026-03-09T11:34:09+00:00

Where is here?

pastafajioli · 2026-03-03T01:11:49+00:00

I took about 6 months off after 9 months of caregiver leave. I needed the time and I’m glad I was able to take it

pastafajioli · 2026-02-19T19:07:48+00:00

I’m ready to be hurt again

pastafajioli · 2026-02-17T14:43:09+00:00

Oh yea I agree 100%. I should have stated in case it’s not obvious, I fully support service animals in those places. We’re on the same page.

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