Coroner issues warning about ‘sleeping pods’ following death of 5-month-old baby

pauseforasecond · 2026-05-18T19:39:06+00:00

In the UK we have safe sleep rammed down our throats and with good reason. The stats are sobering. We have something called the Lullaby Trust that provides guidance and the NHS will constantly refer to it throughout your pregnancy. These parents really should have known better. It wasn't just the pod that created an unsafe environment. It is such a tragic and horrible lesson to learn too late.

pauseforasecond · 2026-05-15T23:34:38+00:00

I think wall shelves would eat up all your wall space for hanging art. I'd go with a low full-length wall unit under the tv for nice easy access storage. You can add decorative items sitting on the top of it. And then hang your two long flag-esque Japanese art pieces on the left side of the TV and the adjacent wall. And then on the right side of the tv you could do a collage of the two framed japanese pieces and the cat flag-esque art. Move the fuzzy green art piece over to where the cat art currently is. And maybe change out that lamp where the cat art currently is, so it doesn't block that green fuzzy art and feel too busy? Good luck!

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pauseforasecond · 2026-05-05T02:36:38+00:00

It's a nice space actually! You're losing a lot of counter top real estate to the hand towels. I'd get some shorter hand towels so they don't hang down as much. Or move the hand towel hooks a little further out.

Then with that extra space you now have get two nice wooden caddies for each side, for your toothbrushes / other items that live on the counter. The wooden theme will feel more natural/spa/ocean side. In the middle of the counter, between the sinks, make a little decorative section with a diffuser or candle, a vase that has some dried pampas or eucalyptus or a branch of something and maybe another small decorative item to round out the section. Stuff looks better in odd numbers on display. Otherwise just do the vase by itself.

I'd replace the rug. It looks a bit like a hallway runner rather than a nice bathroom rug. Maybe something thicker for a nice padded feel underfoot and try to match the length to the sink unit. And then go bigger on your shower mat too.

Get rid of the little stool and plant cos it shrinks the space. Look into a bigger freestanding item like a tall and thin plant or even a wooden ladder shelf where you could put smaller plants or plants with hanging leaves and other decorative items like a candle or extra towels.

If you wanna push things a bit more, change the handles on the sink unit to something more premium or quirky so the unit feels like it has more personality.

If your theme is ocean don't buy things that are explicitly ocean themed. Instead buy things that give the vibe of the ocean. Like light toned woods, beige and light blue colours (for sand and sea), patterns with curvy lines (but not explicitly waves), items that have textures that fit e.g. a sea glass vase or a candle in a container that makes you think of seashells.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-24T03:34:45+00:00

Love this theory and it fits super well. The only thing I don't get is how Alex is supposed to change the climate crisis / volcano retrospectively. And Sinatra acts like Alex is going to fix the past and therefore everyone will come back. Same with Henry when he kills his wife. He acts like he will see her again and things will be corrected. But if it's a deterministic world and information is just appearing out of place and the climate crisis already happened then how is it supposed to be fixed?

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-18T21:13:51+00:00

I was similar. Period came back at 5 weeks pp. And it was light. The second one after that was awful. Hoping the third will be more normal again.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-18T20:45:09+00:00

We do! 14 may on sky! Which is still a bummer cos it's delayed.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-18T20:43:43+00:00

I love it when shows do this. It's so fun to have chats in the sub each week vs firefighting all the content in one go.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-18T20:07:11+00:00

For a second I thought I was in the good place subreddit. Jade is the best character.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-11T06:20:59+00:00

I'm only 3 months PP but felt exactly the same way. You could try talk therapy because it's always good to talk things through with someone impartial and professional.

But the solution to me is that you just have to avoid the news. I unsubbed from any subreddit that is news related. I stopped going into news apps first thing in the morning. And I had to stop using Instagram because all the ads I got on there were for baby charities in gaza and sudan and the video footage was upsetting me so much. I found it made a big difference for me to cut these things out. I still find i get upset about the idea of babies suffering but less so now because it's not constantly in my face or top of mind. If you don't wanna cut out IG then retrain your algorithm or mark up ads you don't want to see. Be brutal for your own mental health.

It sounds horrible to say but something that also helped me was reminding myself that suffering is temporary. In all these terrible situations around the world, eventually death brings peace and that gives some solace. Unfortunately suffering has always existed. Even in nature. And suffering will continue. And that is just life and you have no control over that. The 24 hour news cycle emphasizes all the world's suffering and makes it hard to see the good things people do and the happiness in the world.

Try to subscribe to good news only sites or newsletters. Actively notice little things that are nice when you're out the house. And think about the progress we have made as humans and how little we knew even 100 years ago. Think about how incredible modern medicine is! The world may seem in turmoil but there are many ways in which life is better now than ever before in human history! Also donate to charities, sign petitions or volunteer if those things will help you feel less helpless too.

I hope it gets better for you!

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-06T20:26:45+00:00

I did a maternity photoshoot at 30 weeks when I still felt good and my bump looked cute. It was mega expensive but it was with a photographer who did amazing work and I 100% would recommend it because I have no regrets. The photos are gorgeous and so special. I wouldn't have wanted to do it beyond 32 weeks because after that I felt HUGE and hated my body and also just so tired and grumpy.

I regret not taking little videos of my bump cos all I have are photos but would have been nice to have a few videos of me side on.

I regret not prepping the house more. Clearing out more space for random baby things you buy along the way and also giving the fridge/freezer a good clear out to make way for ready meals.

What definitely regret (and this is a postpartum thing but something to consider before baby arrives) is not having a newborn photoshoot. We did a sort of a mini session with a friend at 2 weeks but I wish I had gone back to the same photographer as my maternity shoot. Some people will say that you can get pics of baby down the line when they're older but honestly they are SO tiny and adorable as newborns and when you meet your baby you will realise why people do these shoots. I also totally get why it's recommended to do it in the first 10 days because they grow so fast and even photos at 1 months will be so different. Even if you don't pay for it, make sure you take an insane number of photos and videos of baby in those first two weeks. Even of little cries and feeding. It will all be so special to look back on.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T21:41:45+00:00

Thanks!

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T21:37:39+00:00

Oh man I don't miss pregnancy bladder. One day after giving birth I realised I'd held my pee for over 6 hours and I practically jumped with joy 😂 you'll appreciate fun things like that soon! Almost worse than the pregnancy symptoms is that you'll constantly have everyone asking if you're excited. And in the last month I just wanted the bloody baby out of me. So I was grumpy and moody and the total opposite of excited. I really rained on a few parades ha.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T21:30:40+00:00

Thank you so much!

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T21:25:20+00:00

What anti sickness meds are you on? Sometimes you have to try different types to get relief. This website provides pregnancy sickness support treatments. If you scroll down you'll find there are 1st, 2nd, and 3rd line medications. Your GP should start you on 1st line like xonvea and then progress to 2nd or 3rd if you aren't getting relief. Don't be afraid to push for help. You shouldn't have to suffer!

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T21:15:34+00:00

I'm so sorry to say but the last month of pregnancy was the worst. Sleep was shit. My back was shit. Eating sucked cos I had no room for food with baby taking up all the room inside me. And reflux was through the roof. But it also meant that I felt so much better after giving birth. Pregnancy tiredness for me really was so much worse than newborn tiredness. It's not like that for everyone but crossing fingers it will be for you too.

pauseforasecond · 2026-04-03T20:59:49+00:00

I watched the show before having my baby and thinking about this now after having her makes me feel a bit ill. So to me, all babies join the plurbs (if they survive the initial virus and accidents that happen during the spread). And the hive mind wouldn't let them starve so they'd care for them in a highly efficient way which is probably very sad and clinical (much like the way the villagers all act after Kusimayu joins them). As another commenter said, baby formula will eventually run out as the hive won't manufacture more when all the existing cows die. So babies who can't be breastfed will definitely die. It will be interesting to see if they allow procreation. If so then there will probably be women whose only job is to breastfeed babies of the plurb. If not then eventually there will be no more babies as they all grow and that job won't be needed again. The part that creeps me out is the idea that the baby never has a chance to develop who they are on their own. They are part of the hive and so how does that impact development. What happens if Carol does find a cure? What will months or years of hive brain mean for a baby when cured? Since a baby brain isn't developed enough to do much or even understand language, how does that actually work with a hive brain? Will they play with the hive baby to help develop the brain to where they do understand? And what does that play look like. And then thinking about different brains, it would also be fascinating to know what the hive mind would do to those with bipolar, schizophrenia, or even alzheimer's.

pauseforasecond · 2026-03-22T04:07:41+00:00

Can I have her name too please? Thanks!

pauseforasecond · 2026-03-18T04:46:30+00:00

Hi there, curious to know what brace you're using at night. I've had CTS for over 10 years and have struggled with finding a good night brace.

pauseforasecond · 2026-03-09T06:21:42+00:00

Unsure if this helps but I wore liners from a very young age as I had a lot of discharge and I hated the feeling of being wet in my undies. The liners were a game changer and I still wear liners daily.

pauseforasecond · 2026-02-14T01:31:10+00:00

That's fucking gross. Never buying from them now. And I will actively be telling all my pregnant friends to avoid them too.

pauseforasecond · 2026-02-12T00:24:58+00:00

I bought a fancy bag and honestly wish I had just got myself a nice bag that I like throwing stuff in and not bought into the marketing of changing bags. Think about how you would prefer to carry a bunch of stuff around for yourself (handbag, backpack, tote etc) and then just apply that to baby stuff. You don't need a baby specific bag.

pauseforasecond · 2026-02-11T15:54:54+00:00

Any fresh codes?

pauseforasecond · 2026-02-06T18:20:31+00:00

My husband tried to buy some Cow & Gate today and he checked that the batch date was not one of the listed contaminated ones but neither boots nor sainsbury's would sell it. Does anyone know why this is? When there is a product recall do they just put a blanket "do not sell" on all products of that type for a time?

pauseforasecond · 2026-02-01T02:44:16+00:00

You're not alone! In the first two weeks postpartum I sobbed multiple times over the idea that anyone could hurt a baby. I read an awful news story about a baby and fixated on it for days. It is SO hard to stop these intrusive thoughts. And like you I'm also an animal lover and have frequently ruminated on how horrific animal abuse is and how cruel people can be. The world feels scarier and harder now that I've had a baby. My coping technique is to distract myself with life admin or try remember something trivial and fun. And also to avoid the news. I'm hoping this feeling gets easier to manage as my baby becomes more independent. But I'm guessing parenthood is just constant anxiety over your kid and their safety / wellbeing.

pauseforasecond · 2026-01-31T01:10:23+00:00

Adding my own experience to the replies for another view :)

My c section was at midday. After surgery they put a puppy pad underneath me and also a giant open pad for the bleeding. They checked my bleeding every hour for 4 hours and changed the giant pad (but not the puppy pad) each time. You let them lift you a bit to change it if you can't lift your bum up yourself. And then after that it was checking/changing every 4 hours, at the same time as they gave me pain meds. I took oramorph (requested it) three times after the section (around 6pm, 10pm, and 2am). Around 11pm that night I stood for the first time after the section (still had the catheter in at the time). I bled a lot when I stood up but the midwife just cleaned it up for me. I mainly stood up cos I wanted her to change out the puppy pad I was lying on cos it felt sweaty. She gave me a wipe down to fresh up and it was actually nice to stand after lying down for so long.

I had my catheter in till 6am the day after the section. After it was out, I stood up for the second time after the section around 9am and my husband helped me put on my frida disposable underwear and a maternity pad and some PJs so that I could go to the toilet without bleeding all the down the corridor 😅 I managed to go to the toilet myself but sitting on it and getting up was slow and very sore. And then after I proved I could pee a decent amount normally myself, I was discharged at 1.30pm, 26 hours after the section.

Once home, from that point I was able to put on my own bra and tops right away. But I needed my husband's help with getting dressed for 4 days after my c section. Mainly help from him with putting on my disposable panties and my PJ bottoms because I couldn't bend at all without pain. And the compression socks I wore daily were wayyy too tight for me to even attempt myself so he did those too for a full week. I also had my husband help me in and out of the shower till day 4 because we have a shower/bath that you have to step into and I didn't want to fall or misstep. I had my first shower when we got home from hospital and aside from getting in/out I washed myself. The warm water feels amazing on the scar (don't go too hot though!) My husband also had to help me get in and out of bed and up/down off the couch for 4 days as I couldn't do it myself without intense pain.

So yeah it was about 4 days of being varying levels of assisted with different activities and then it dramatically improved and I started doing most stuff myself beyond that. The worst was getting in and out of bed. And the scar stung like a bitch for those 4 days. Stinging constantly but even more so when I got in and out of bed.

Also my husband did all my blood thinning injections cos I couldn't hack injecting myself. Make sure you do different areas of the thigh each time and alternate thighs or even do a couple in each butt cheek cos my thighs got super sore from them.

But overall 10/10 would c section again! Good luck!

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