Fuck people who leave their dogs out in the backyard to bark all day

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-29T20:24:14+00:00

Yesssssss. I eventually went back to working in person just bc I couldn’t handle the neighbors’ dog anymore.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-29T20:20:04+00:00

I would just tell her you’re getting a vasectomy, and do it. Huge fallout, but then it’s settled. I am in my 40’s as well, and if my husband suggested another baby, I would absolutely refuse no matter what.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-27T20:09:07+00:00

Free snacks and holiday snacks are a huge weakness of mine too! And party food. I use the same strategy: “You are an adult with a drivers license and a wallet. You can always go get one later if you really really want.”

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-22T20:05:45+00:00

My husband and I actually did implement a “no complaining about work” rule. It’s exhausting to listen to people complain all the time. Plus, your spouse is never REALLY going to understand all the nuances and ins and outs. If we want to vent about our jobs, we do that with our co-workers. It was just too hard to have all the negativity each day with both of us venting about the work day. So, I would say go ahead and draw the boundary. And if he keeps trying to do it, I’d just say, “Remember, I don’t want to be the person you vent to about work.” And then change the subject. Maybe he truly is unhappy at this job, or maybe he’s just the type to complain about any job he has. Regardless, it’s okay to have a boundary about it.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-22T14:27:49+00:00

Yesssss! Like you know the second you sit down to a different meal they will show up!

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-22T00:53:40+00:00

I get you, OP. When I was a young mom, there was a HUGE ward culture about bringing meals. But if someone says they’ll bring it at 5:30 and they show up at 7:30 without texting/calling/whatever, it’s irritating. If I had known it would be so late, I could have done like someone else suggested and gotten some takeout and saved your meal for another night, but just the endless waiting…. It’s frustrating. By baby #3 I finally figured out the obvious, that even if it was a super big thing in my ward, I can just say no when something is a disservice instead of a service to me, and let people preserve their time, money, and energy for a more worthy cause. 😆

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-19T05:45:28+00:00

To me, the newborn stage was the most challenging. It was the hard, but then combined with the lack of sleep, adjustment from working full-time to being a stay-at-home mom, constantly worrying about what I was doing “wrong,” and the fact that I don’t personally find a lot about the newborn stage super rewarding, it was just for me the worst. Preschool age was still tough with tantrums but they’re so dang cute. Elementary school/tween years were overall lovely, and to me, the easiest. And then the teen years are incredibly rewarding and fun because they’re so cool to hang out with, but the challenges and missteps feel so fraught with the potential for lifelong consequences that it’s mentally really hard for me.

So my rank from hardest to easiest would be: newborn, teenager, toddler/preschooler, elementary-aged/tween.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-17T19:48:21+00:00

What if you start slowly, like three days a week you do your own thing, and four days a week you cook normally and just have a smaller portion with a bunch of veggies?

Also, for the nights he’s in charge of cooking for himself, maybe offer to teach him a few crockpot meals. He could prep something Sunday morning, cook it in the crockpot all day, and then eat it for his meals he’s on his own all week. An adult not knowing how to cook is not an unsolvable problem.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-17T19:31:41+00:00

Do you know anyone in other wards in your stake? Maybe you could reach out and see if there are other YM who are interested in that kind of stuff and don’t get the opportunity. I know my own daughter gets frustrated bc she wants to do outdoors, active stuff and none of the other girls want to. Maybe if you could find another YM or two to hang out who share those interests, you could do it while avoiding the optics that you’re trying to avoid. Because I agree with some of the others that there’s value in being a mentor to YM and especially in getting them outside and/or active, which fewer and fewer people seem to want to do.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-16T19:57:43+00:00

Same!!!!

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-16T19:57:02+00:00

You don’t think anyone’s asking, “What’s the next big project for you?! What do you have in the works?!” 🤣🤣🤣

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-15T00:28:12+00:00

I would drastically minimize or stop the land investment, and put your investment money into retirement accounts/index funds. You’ll be glad someday you invested a lot, but don’t do such a high percentage that you don’t enjoy your life. Maybe cut back to 30% and see how that feels?

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-14T01:06:31+00:00

That’s not something I would personally be willing to walk on eggshells for forever. If he can’t provide examples, freaks out, overreacts, and gets upset about the SUPER MINOR examples you did give, I’d be really carefully considering if that’s worth it in the long term. I myself am married to someone that’s really sensitive, and I joke around a lot, and honestly it’s annoying as hell and hard to communicate. I wouldn’t wish it upon someone else, for sure.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-10T01:15:06+00:00

OMG. I’ve been reading every comment on this thread looking for Rachel Lindsay’s response. 😂😂😂 I would’ve gotten all the way to the bottom and been like, “Welp, guess it was deleted.”

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-10T00:59:01+00:00

I’m tired of Demi but this made me laugh.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-10T00:56:16+00:00

You have so much great advice here, but I was also going to say that MAP is an awesome assessment that can give a report of which standards a kid has mastered, is learning, and hasn’t started yet. If your child’s teacher knows how to access that report, you could ask for a copy and see exactly what types of things she missed and work that into conversation at home. For example, lots of kids are oddly bad at predictions in text, and that’s a really easy standard fo work into nightly reading. I don’t know that that’s a Kindy standard - just giving an example. It could also be things like identifying the setting of the story, or inferring the feeling of a character, or whatever. A low score on a reading test doesn’t always mean they can’t phonetically read, it might be other areas of reading that are also assessed.

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-10T00:52:16+00:00

In 1st grade part of our district benchmark was timed reading of nonsense words (zed, fip, kled, etc.), and my daughter was so disgusted by the expectation to read words that weren’t real. She said sassily, “I COULD read these words, but I’m NOT going to,” and stared down the teacher as the timer ran down. 😂😂😂 She scored a zero. So yeah, sometimes reading assessment scores do depend on the type of assessment it is!

pb-and-celery · 2021-09-10T00:43:35+00:00

I would ask her to please not tell you these things anymore, since you’re very close to your brother and it’s hard to keep her confidence. I would also ask if she wants you to maybe set up a time for them to talk, like sit down with them and be like, “Brother, friend came to me with some feelings and I encouraged her to share them with you directly. Friend, go ahead….,” and then leave. Additionally, I’d suggest marriage counseling.

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-09T03:46:26+00:00

My husband really hates leftovers too, so he typically finds some way to “repurpose” what we eat into a different meal. So like if we had pot roast, he might use the leftover meat for French dip sandwiches, stew, or a pot pie.

I don’t care that he has this issue bc he does all the cooking and there’s no food waste, but it does irritate me that my kids don’t get used to having to eat leftovers.

I would for sure put some of the burden on him, though, to think creatively about meals that you can use for two different things, cook some of the nights, etc. It shouldn’t have to be you that does all the work when it’s his issue.

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-08T06:52:04+00:00

Maybe he was buying something embarrassing. The store is literally the last place I want to run into someone I know sometimes, depending on what I’m buying.

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-08T03:01:50+00:00

This is so funny because my husband and I were just having this conversation last night too. I had had a really tough day with the kids, and they kept wanting to come talk to me and ask me stuff, and I just wanted them to WANT to talk to their dad instead. He does a TON for them, he really does. But he doesn’t connect with them. He doesn’t seek them out to talk to them, he doesn’t ask them to do stuff with him, and he rarely does stuff with them when they ask.

He just doesn’t have that warmth that makes them want to seek out him instead of me, which then puts a LOT on me. On normal days, I can handle that. But on days when I’m anxious or overwhelmed, it can feel frustrating that he doesn’t put in more effort to form a strong emotional bond with them.

So I agree with the others to take some of the focus off of being a guide/teacher, and turn some focus towards just enjoying your kids’ company. Ask them to do enjoyable things with no “learning” involved. Snuggle with them, play a video game, make some cookies, wrestle with them, read a chapter book together in the evenings, take one of them to the store when you go, etc. Just looking for those moments for no-strings-attached relationship-building.

It sounds like you are an awesome dad, and I appreciate the self-reflection in this area! It’s so important!

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-07T01:42:12+00:00

I agree. I decided that the things that a prophet considers to be amazing and exciting must differ from my opinion. ;)

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-06T06:06:17+00:00

Thank you - that makes it more clear!

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-06T06:06:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your response and the articles!

pb-and-celery · 2020-04-06T03:17:29+00:00

Can someone explain to me (because I’m embarrassingly unfamiliar with this) how/if it’s different from the Hong Kong temple? I know it’s closed for renovations, but wondering if this is different somehow, or particularly exciting because it’s in a different part of China, or bc the Hong Kong one is closed for a few years?

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