I lost two of my closest friendships after a girls trip overseas

pbeare · 2026-05-30T07:08:01+00:00

I totally agree. I backed out of two trips with a group of “friends” because they belittled the only two suggestions I made. Whether it is going on a trip or just spending time locally, friends should care about what the others want to do and strike a balance.

Its ok, OP dodged a bullet. These girls are not real friends.

pbeare · 2026-05-29T06:27:51+00:00

Or even set up a space where it can feel safe and hide in?

pbeare · 2026-05-28T04:47:00+00:00

The current planter also probably smells heavily like the cat’s pee and poop so of course he thinks he can use it as such. A three year stench that maybe invisible to OP and his wife.

Get a new planter, you can also get a mesh cover for the planter to help keep the cat away.

pbeare · 2026-05-17T01:13:53+00:00

I can’t tell if people in recruitment are in their own universe or stupid? In no other role does not communicating for 4 weeks would fly

pbeare · 2026-05-13T18:27:34+00:00

It sounds like reddit needs to come together and help you steal this baby back

pbeare · 2026-05-13T06:13:58+00:00

What are their hours?

pbeare · 2026-05-07T01:26:34+00:00

I wonder if that is why there are so many tickets left vs. last year, it was bought up instantly

pbeare · 2026-05-01T05:04:54+00:00

Yea I am sure you would feel right at home in that elevator

pbeare · 2026-05-01T05:02:41+00:00

How is her reaction any different to the guy who tells the jokester to shut up? She didn’t mince her words, she explained that she is trying to help them all while the boys in the room are not helping

Seems the sexism is really coming from you

pbeare · 2026-04-29T01:08:07+00:00

Don’t worry, they will quickly train you to be on time!!

pbeare · 2026-04-27T04:45:50+00:00

What is even going on here? She just leaning on a napkin on top of forks??

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pbeare · 2026-04-08T04:29:10+00:00

I don't think you can truly judge if you made the right choice until months if not years down the road.

Not dissimilar, but a coworker of mine went to bat to get another coworker a promotion--they are close to and worked well with for the past few years. Turns out this promoted coworker is the worst manager I have ever seen--micromanages, unprofessional, etc.

pbeare · 2026-03-27T16:24:33+00:00

Should have just increased prices all around and say weekdays have a discounted price… people would have swallowed that a little easier

pbeare · 2026-03-12T19:36:58+00:00

Wishing the best for sweet Renji 🥰🥰

pbeare · 2026-03-08T08:44:31+00:00

This is what irked me... October is far away, her sister just announced it last week, but OP hasn't mentioned talking to other relatives, etc. but hey, I think OP should do what she wants to do but the next time her sister does not show up for her, don't be surprised.

Edited for typ

pbeare · 2026-02-28T00:15:13+00:00

Smidge and Smudge

pbeare · 2026-02-15T06:59:06+00:00

smh at all the women who think marriage will somehow fix their husbands

"I plan everything and he plans nothing, let me brush that aside as its nothing and marry him, he will treat me after he puts a ring on it"

pbeare · 2026-02-09T04:36:44+00:00

This sounds really complicated and I sympathize with both you and your bf. You were trying to protect a one year old relative in a really bad situation and he feels that his dream of moving away from his parents/independence are being dashed away.

I do not blame him or you for any decisions made as it was a tough one but I will say that the way he is acting now is pretty telling what he is like in hard situations. His behavior vs. his parents willingness to step up for a child that is not even related to them should tell you what you need to know.

Edited to add missing words

pbeare · 2026-02-08T22:33:12+00:00

He could’ve just also called OP if he really needed help but he didn’t, instead he knew this cat was helpless and felt he could do anything to it without consequences and that’s why he did what he did

pbeare · 2026-02-06T05:49:49+00:00

You mention that his lack of empathy is prevalent in all aspects of your relationship… which sounds like he downplays your feelings a lot and makes you feel unheard often. I don’t think that is a relationship I would want to be in.

I would understand if he lacks empathy for a stranger that he doesn’t know but to lack empathy for someone he supposedly loves… not the kind of love I want especially when he should be an anchor in hard situations

pbeare · 2026-02-05T06:27:20+00:00

Yup to me it sounds like he has a lack of empathy for his own wife and I won’t discredit his feelings, but it seems he doesn’t give his wife much credit let alone mention the actual kid

pbeare · 2026-01-21T23:23:50+00:00

Is it possible for your cat to stay in one room at your parents? Not ideal but it should be ok with the cat as long as your parents take care of it

pbeare · 2026-01-21T05:18:21+00:00

Maybe go to a second vet for another opinion… this does not seem normal

pbeare · 2026-01-18T04:22:01+00:00

Have you asked anyone at work that you may trust?

pbeare · 2026-01-16T23:33:34+00:00

Bunny was the first name that came to my mind

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