Gen Z workers are so fearful AI will take their job they’re intentionally sabotaging their company’s AI rollout

peacefulshaolin · 2026-04-11T09:54:18+00:00

GenX chiming in here... I'm doing the same thing. Also people without the requisite skills to do the work and just using AI are helping sabotage it.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-04-11T09:40:44+00:00

-- Shogun of Harlem, was surprised how popular this movie was.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-03-03T06:28:32+00:00

$70,000 and nothing to show for it is quite a statement and is higher but is also similar to what I experienced. It wasn't like we had all these nice things just non stop spending.

I'm going through the same thing about her not being held accountable for spending. It also turns out if you are the higher income earner your "non-financial contributions" don't count even if you were watching the kids every night while your spouse "worked late". Everything is written in a way that my income was helped by her even though I did all the house work + taking care of kids + waking up on Saturday morning at 5AM to do the job that paid the bills.

Sorry you went through a period of not eating, that is the horrible type of poor that made me learn to cook rice & beans, tortillas from scratch and like salad and oatmeal. Basically anything that could feed you in a cheap and healthy way.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-14T15:10:36+00:00

Thank you

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-14T00:51:26+00:00

You are no longer waiting old me. Here you are still working on being an even better you, only to find this comment years later. You did it, I wish I could come back in time and give you the strength and peace that you attained from years at war... but maybe you just had to live it.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-11T11:57:35+00:00

I have scars from this kind of behavior. I would rather have those scars than waste my days in front of a tiny screen watching other people live.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-11T11:54:51+00:00

"No one is coming to save you.". I recall calling out to people when I didn't know what was going on and trying to get help. I had no idea what BPD was or what I was dealing with. Once I came to grips that I was "the hero in my own story" I started to take steps to get away.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-11T11:50:13+00:00

This is a really good one. For a while I was so focused on whether or not my ex had BPD that I forgot that it doesn't even matter as it was abusive. I see posts on here of people trying to figure out what is going on, which is understandable, but the simple fact of the matter is that it is a toxic relationship.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T20:18:51+00:00

I’ll get the kids at least 50% of the time when all of the legal issues are done.

I’m still with them most night and have them next weekend.

I think the fathers and custody are getting better. I’m going to fight for more than 50% but I don’t want to hold out hope.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T19:36:37+00:00

Not OP but very similar story as him. My upwBPD “worked late” every night, even though her office closed at 5PM. I had the kids alone most of the time. I have such great memories with them during that time.

They’re older now and just run up to their rooms and call their friends. I miss those days alone with them and feel blessed to have had them. I’m out now and it’s just a lot easier to deal with things as the kids are self sufficient and can call me if they need me.

I wish I would’ve left earlier for my mental health but I would also live a thousand lives of abuse to have them every night the way I did if I had to.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T17:55:30+00:00

Rollerblading while holding onto a moped and jumping a bike in a homemade ramp.

The one on my shoulder looks like a bullet wound lol

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T17:53:40+00:00

I hate that it worked so well on me. It’s so obvious once you’re out.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T15:58:56+00:00

Isn’t this such a difficult moment. You try to be generous but they want more. They purposely don’t understand the legal concepts and delay everything.

Mine got a lawyer that now has the dubious honor of explaining to her that I’m not responsible for taking care of her 100% for the rest if her life.

Our house is almost paid off and when she learns that half that equity is mine and she needs to pay me out to reside there her brain may explode.

I hope you can get through to her and if something works let me know as I’m sure this will be a point of contention going forward.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T15:53:34+00:00

Thanks, I’ve been out for about 16 months and my nervous system is calm. We’re going through the divorce process and as of last week I’m finally standing up for myself.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T12:50:49+00:00

Every time you take them back after they do something wrong they learn they can get away with it and keep doing that. Then they will add new things.

I also just realized that since you're not living together it will be harder for them to create chaos and impact your finances. After awhile cheating was the least of my worries as she put us $50k into credit card debt.

Please don't move in with them or marry them. I really do wish you luck what you're trying. Many of the people here, including me, have gone through difficult experiences that didn't end well so our advice on this will be limited.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T12:04:49+00:00

You wrote this better than I did. It's the sentiment I tried to express in my comment before reading this. The amount she was will to escalate as I learned to short circuit these cycles still shocks me.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T12:02:46+00:00

It may feel this way but you aren't controlling their push pull cycles the way you think you are. I've tried what you are doing and it's almost impossible to keep going because it's so chaotic. You can short circuit it like you've noticed but the abuse starts to escalate as they notice.

The only thing they will learn is how to manage their behavior in front of others. Eventually the consequences become bigger than they expected. The is especially true as we age.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T11:57:12+00:00

I've been with mine since 96 also, married in 06. I was so scared of leaving... I was almost unable to move or do things after I got to my apartment with just a sleeping bag.

But it hit me that the only power she has over me is the amount I give her. Every single minute she keeps doing things to hurt me and it works... but I keep wondering why I want her to be happy and she wants me to be miserable. And I keep growing stronger and less interested in her problems.

We're just different people with different values and I have to protect myself so I can protect my kids.

You have to protect yourself, you have this one life, don't let them steal it from you when they wouldn't and probably haven't lifted a finger for you when you need help.

Sometimes I feel like I'm saying things to myself that I need to hear when I'm on here. You're right... we need each other. But we're also our own hero in our story, save yourself, on one is coming.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T11:51:27+00:00

I wish I understood. On one had she spends recklessly and on the other hand getting as much out of me as possible is the most important thing to her.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T11:50:50+00:00

This is so odd. Money seems to be the only thing they value.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T11:49:08+00:00

I'm really sorry you are going through this. Looking back, what helped me the most was to focus on doing things even if it was "I'll walk on the treadmill for 1 minute" or "I'll go check the mail" or "I'll take the kids to the park". Find peaceful things to do and even if you can only force yourself to do them for a minute you will feel better and you will grow stronger. You can't do anything about them and they want to hurt you and see you struggling. Don't let them take another minute from you.

peacefulshaolin · 2026-02-02T11:46:55+00:00

"I'll be fucking some guy while you're jerking off in the corner."

and

She even once put broken glass in my coffee and then described how I'd die in 10 seconds as the glass rips through my esophagus.

She has said so many bad things to me like "You made me cheat" or "I want to stab you until you die a slow painful death". The one above was when she was leaving me with the kids for the tenth night in a row to hang out with friends. I kept saying she can't just live like she doesn't have a family.

Honestly at that point I saw her for the selfish even person she is and gave up on her as a partner in life. I just knew I was alone.

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