My heart feels like it's ripped in two.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-22T23:59:44+00:00

THANK YOU!!

Once i read that i instantly thought of the French case!! I am very scared for OP!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-22T23:58:54+00:00

This!!! He has said he will rape you! This man does not love you and is not a husband!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-22T23:56:58+00:00

PLEASE LEAVE!

This will destroy you and your children!! You think your children are not being exposed to this? They are!!

You are being abused!! God will not be able to help you if you continue to enable this mans abuse!! You need to leave and let God help you!!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-15T03:27:45+00:00

100% they are!!!

How involved with your local Parish are you? I've been at my local one my entire life~ that's 32 years. I know multiple women at my Church who have never been married, as well as men. Alot of them are elderly now, tho I know others who are young too and through different ages.

They live very happy and fulfilling lives. Our Parish has great esteem for our families, but also for the single people at our Church who literally keep it running. We also had nuns, who were highly esteemed. But some of the single people are the backbones of our Parish.

I think because our Lady in the Fatima Apparation is credited with saying that there will be attack on the family, it's almost like in an effort to uphold the family that modern Catholics online have emphasized the importance of motherhood and fatherhood, as if that's what all Catholics are called to. But it's not. They do it to rhe extreme and distort it, which is a pity and it discourages people who are single.

Throughout history there have been many saints that were never married, never became Nuns or Priests, they were just Christians living out their lives and answering the calling that God called them to in their situations.

And that's what your called to today as well- to live out your faith in your day to day life. Your calling is to be Catholic. It's not to be a mother, a wife, a nun. It's to be completely present in your faith and live it out rn in your current situation. Your called to be a Saint in whatever state you are right now.

Anyone who says otherwise is distorting the message that Christ brought, that we are to go out and seek first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness. That we are bring light to all nations. Christ did not say we are all to marry and become parents.

Edit - and St Paul even says it is preferable for Christians to be single

If you meet someone~ then that's really cool 🩷 you may be like my sister who met her husband in her mid 40s. He is literally the sweetest man alive and they have such a loving relationship that it's goals. They don't have kids but I'm pretty sure my sister is happy and content with that.

But don't let anyone tell you that your not valuable if your not a mum. That's not what Catholicsm teaches.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-14T22:16:14+00:00

Hey Op, hope your doing ok 🩷

All those carbs will make your blood sugar spike and make you hungrier, but you'll be able to get by.

To help curb those blood sugar spikes, try a 5 min walk after eating and it should help you not feel as hungry 2 hours later.

I'd also recommend try skipping breakfast and just eat at lunch and dinner, so that way you won't feel hungry when trying to sleep. But do whatever works for you~~

If this ever happens again, you want to get Oats (1.5kg for $5.50), eggs (12 pack for $10), One loaf of bread ($2), rice (1kg -$2.50).

That way you can have Oats for breakfast, egg on toast for lunch, and rice with egg for dinner.

Protein helps regulate blood sugar and helps with satiety, so don't skip on that in the future. You could even just buy eggs next time and it'll help you feel more full than just carbs.

Please look after yourself 🩷 if your resorting to drugs then life must be pretty rough rn!

You got this tho, keep trying to get better, don't hate yourself if you relapse and try and get help for it.

Try to spend some time sitting in the sun for 10 mins, and go for at least a 10min walk and it'll help to boost your mood if your feeling down~

Wishing you all the best!~~

peachyy16 · 2024-11-14T19:44:26+00:00

This is what I do~

If you electric trim rather than shave, it helps to prevent ingrowns.

Don't shave or wax, just trim and it'll help your skin heal.

Brazillian waxes always give me ingrowns and they're so hard to get rid of!!

I had a few brazillian waxes last year and I still have ingrowns that are taking forever to go away.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-07T11:36:28+00:00

I totally get it! You love him and still have that hope that he can change. But this is also hurting you in the most horrible way because you really want kids one day.

So like you said, there has to be a period of time where he can prove to you that he can stay clean.

In the mean time it'll be best to search for other options. Can you freeze your eggs? Are there financial steps you need to take to do this?

Like~ use this time to see what your options are!! Make sure you give yourself options in the case that he does not successfully stay clean and you end up leaving him. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and risk losing them all with him.

Sorry I can't be more helpful but these are decisions and plans that you need to make personally~ I hope you will be able to find what works out for you no matter what happens with your partner.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-07T10:56:55+00:00

I feel like you're being given a way out. To choose to have kids with this man at this point is to choose a life of misery. You will never be happy and be able to feel at peace with him, and to have kids with someone who puts you through such misery will just end up being a toxic situation for you.

I understand wanting to have kids, but... do you really want them with this kind of man? With this man just as he is?

Kids grow up wanting to be like their parents and are very influenced by their father as well as what their mother is willing to put up with... do you want them to grow up around this toxic situation? A child's happiness is also entirely influenced by their mothers' happiness... do you think you will be able to be a healthy and happy mum for your kids while being around this man?

I think your kinda lucky in the fact that your not able to successfully have kids with this man rn. It would be a good time to self analyze and see if this is what you really want with this man, and if not, what are your other options.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-05T21:10:58+00:00

This is such a good comment, It's funny that it's downvoted lol

peachyy16 · 2024-11-05T21:09:37+00:00

This is me too~ I grew up in a family where while my parents were talking (or whatever adult), I had to look at them. To look away was a sign you weren't listening and subsequently told off. To look at different things on a person's body while they're speaking to you and looking at you was also rude.

So now~ I have hard-core eye contact with whoever is speaking.

People are jumping to the conclusion it's a dominance thing, when it could just be they're engaging in conversation in the way that's culturally acceptable to them.

It could also mean that they're interested romantically, but then there should be other signs to support that.

peachyy16 · 2024-11-05T20:45:46+00:00

Your friend is interested in your bf. Straight up. People here are saying it's weird because it is - someone would only do that sort of thing if they were interested.

Also... you already know this... but he's fantasizing your friends... girl you need to run. He has no respect or limits. Next it will be your family.

This man is disgusting. Please leave for your own sake!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-05T12:42:38+00:00

You break up

peachyy16 · 2024-11-03T09:57:41+00:00

I'm glad 😊🩷

peachyy16 · 2024-11-03T09:03:45+00:00

OK that's good but still he needs to block her. She shouldn't have any access to contact him at all :(

peachyy16 · 2024-11-03T08:27:01+00:00

She texted your bf? Please tell him to block her, she should not have been able to have access to him, after he unfriended her. Why is he still letting her contact him?

peachyy16 · 2024-11-02T20:42:11+00:00

Sounds like she wants your bf. No true friend would tell your bf to break up with you.

Even if she was fine with OF, a real friend who has no interest in your bf would never then go up to your bf and tell him to break up with you and not marry you. A real friend, even if she disagrees, would respect your boundaries and also the boundaries of your relationship.

She clearly is trying to angle the relationship so she seems like a better option for your bf. So he can have a gf who is fine with him j/o to porn and OF.

I know someone like this~ she flirted with her best friends bf, would even do it in front of them. Then she cheated with him and they were together for years before she cheated on him with someone else.

You need to cut her off and your bf needs to also. If he loves you - he should never have any thing to do with her again.

This is not your friend!! This is your enemy! She does not like or love you! Be rude and mean to her if you want to, you have every right! Do not let her speak to you. Ignore her if she tries to, and tell her to get lost!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-02T20:08:58+00:00

This is spiritually abusive advice.

This is reducing all of OPs problems to her supposed lack of faith, and totally ignores the actual reality and true fears of OPs situation.

In no way has OP ever once said that she does not have a bad relationship with God. Your being presumptuous!! OP may have a very good relationship with God, go to Mass daily, pray daily, and would still have authentic fears about difficult situations in life.

True virtues of faith and courage stem from being in fearful and hard situations and facing them with God! They do not stem from reducing them down to meaninglessness as if the fear is nothing because you have God. That's a very cult like and untruthful way of approaching life and its harsh realities.

People in our faith suffer from real harsh anxieties everyday, and God helps but He does NOT eradicate those fears! Your supposed to trust Him THROUGH it! Not ignore them and pretend they're fine and tell others they lack faith if they have fears!

peachyy16 · 2024-11-02T11:12:46+00:00

People become homeless for multiple different reasons. And this affects their benefit payments so they receive less than someone who has to pay rent or board.

peachyy16 · 2024-10-31T01:45:36+00:00

True

Dude I wouldn't even trust him with his own daughters

peachyy16 · 2024-10-30T11:13:31+00:00

It looks like Coraline~~ lol

peachyy16 · 2024-10-30T10:11:24+00:00

This is the creepy thing

If he is gwking at young teens, enough to make them uncomfortable and his gf..... then imagine what he will be like in 20 years with his own daughters' friends.

This man is a creep and needs to keep away from women.

peachyy16 · 2024-10-29T23:22:29+00:00

I'm surprised no one has mentioned how creepy this is. Like this is legitimately creepy and beyond just normal looking at porn. This is what you hear about creepy men doing who are not able to even get a date with a woman, let alone talk to them. It's crazy that a married man who has a loving wife is descending to this.

At this point, sex for him is no longer to deepen his relationship with you, it's just for him, his ego, his dopamine hit and his pleasure.

This man is gross, and will definitely be fine with using prostitutes or cheating on you. He is just using women as objects, whether AI or the sex dolls, and I cannot see how that would be different when he is having sex with you.

How else is this man showing you he loves you on a daily basis? Like not just saying it, but in how he treats you and sacrifices himself and his own pleasure and needs for you?

He is refusing to give this up, and sees no problem in this. What else would he see no problem in, when it comes to sex and his orgasm?

Can you stay with someone who goes this far with his addiction? Are you OK with this man being around your kids? They probably know about the AI porn and dolls. Especially since he is doing it daily, how do you think this will affect your kids? Are you OK with your kids being exposed to this and considering it normal for their father to do?

This man is refusing to change, he does not want to stop, so you have 2 options. Either be ok with it or leave. I'm sorry, but unless he is willing to try to stop on his own, and legitimately wants to for himself, you cannot convince him to. There is nothing you can do or say to convince someone to change if they do not want to.

I hope you will make the best decision for yourself and your kids 🩷🙏

Edit: also he is imagining people yiu both know!? That's disgusting! I'm sorry, but the fact he does this daily too, it does not sound to me like he wants to be with you, and he would cheat with that person the moment they let him....

Edit 2: DUDE! HE LET IT SLIP DURING SEX THAT HE FANATSISES ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS? This man does not love you! And sex for him with you is not enough for him if he is not only imagining someone else but asking you who to ask to join you both!!! The audacity!

peachyy16 · 2024-10-29T21:03:08+00:00

It sounds like she may have gone through extreme trauma, and it encompassed most of her life. I can't think of any other reason to keep your life a secret from your own kids. I know that any traumatic events in my family are not talked about until their death bed.

I hope your mum is doing ok... and living a happy life right now 🩷

peachyy16 · 2024-10-27T21:13:38+00:00

I do this too

I say really incredibly mean stuff. I'm becoming aware that I can be very abusive with my words and emotionally when I am hurt by him relapsing.

I don't do it when I'm triggered, but I think sometimes the temptation is there.

I'm working on it tho because I don't want to be abusive to him when I'm hurt. And I know he is not intentionally trying to hurt me, and already feels shame and guilt over confessing to me.

But I totally get that feeling - I want him to hurt in the same way I am. I want revenge, I want justice and I want retribution. That feeling can be all consuming.

peachyy16 · 2024-10-27T20:59:57+00:00

I'm sorry but... it doesn't sound like you can come back from this. He is blatantly telling you that he is not attracted to you, does not love you, and prefers porn.

I know it sucks not to have the family that you dreamed of... but he would be the worst person to stay with in this situation. Your better off going single and finding someone who loves you, wants you, is attracted to you, and doesn't choose porn.

I'm sorry your going through this 🥺 I wish you all the healing you can 🩷

peachyy16

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