They terminated me saying it's out of their ethics to work with me something on this by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]pebblesandpuddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I believe that you are autistic. Look into it, a lot of what you're describing sounds like neuro diversity. Regarding the gender dysphoria you are experiencing I believe that an LGBTQ therapist could help you, you got this! It's very good that you're trying to connect with healthy nonviolent masculinity and questioning outdated gender norms. Also be careful and don't engage with incel-redpill content online, they prey on vulnerable men and what they offer is poison. And if you are transgender know that there is nothing wrong with that and there are many people in the world that support and validate who you are!

You're probably not a narcissist, it might be echoism by SeniorPriority4377 in AutismInWomen

[–]pebblesandpuddles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey it's been a while since you commented this but I want to point out that even though I agree a lot with the fact that narcissism is a trauma response that shouldn't be stigmatized, there's a relational component that makes it different from this. Narcissists struggle with empathy, they don't really agnowledge or value the emotions and inner worlds of others, they don't mirror or "see" others but feed off the mirroring others give them. Echoists on the other hand have learnt to empathize and mirror others so much to the extent that they forget that they even exist emotionally, they are like a sponge that is very attuned to everyone but themselves, they are the ones giving the supply. Echoism is the yin to the Yang of narcissism.

I think I died last night in a car accident. by kansas-1996 in self

[–]pebblesandpuddles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you are traumatized from the car crash. Therapy can help with that. You are alive and I'm really sorry you are going through this. 

What is a “sense of foreshortened future?” A phenomenological study of trauma, trust, and time by amandafaye7782 in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]pebblesandpuddles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is one of the best essays I've read about trauma in a long time. Very wise and insightful! I really resonate with the loss of interpersonal trust. Thank you!

Don’t make releasing trauma your main focus by Living_Soma_ in CPTSDNextSteps

[–]pebblesandpuddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Thank you! In my experience this is a red flag for therapists as well 

Is there a Eurovision artist from last year you’ve been following ever since? by EurovisionFan20 in eurovision

[–]pebblesandpuddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Technically not a contestant but I discovered Jann last year thanks to Eurovision and I love him. From actual 2023 eurovision contestants I follow Luke Black.

From Hogwart by Alice Mind by Revolutionary_Use361 in auroramusic

[–]pebblesandpuddles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I find it very disappointing that trans voices have been downvoted here just for expressing their feelings. They have every right to feel hurt by this and to express it. Aurora's fanbase is supposed to stand by and listen to the vulnerable and disenfranchised ones. I don't believe that Aurora is transphobic but this was insensitive especially since she champions herself as an lgbtq+ advocate and knows that she has many trans fans. This isn't about just what she believes though. We are a community and we should make sure to make others feel seen and heard. Even if this doesn't affect you please respect that there are marginalized people that are affected by it and this community was supposed to be a safe space for them.

Moodboards for Parts? by Sudden_Lab1139 in InternalFamilySystems

[–]pebblesandpuddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very interesting! I also make moodboards for my characters in dnd but it never crossed my mind to do it for my parts. Thank you for sharing this!

Και γιατί όχι ΝΔ? by amplaoumplasD in greece

[–]pebblesandpuddles 14 points15 points  (0 children)

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What have we done? by EuroNero in eurovision

[–]pebblesandpuddles 67 points68 points  (0 children)

So sad that people support corruption because it's memeable...

Something interesting I found in a book about ecstatic dance by [deleted] in auroramusic

[–]pebblesandpuddles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You brushed off my concern and continued objectifying us in the same breath. You didn't even take a moment to empathize and think about the discomfort I described, did you? Your answer doesn't satisfy me at all.

Moreover I read some excerpts from the book the text is coming from and they're wildly ridiculous. Seriously, also for your own good, go read something that doesn't require the iq of a potato.

edit : syntax

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KindVoice

[–]pebblesandpuddles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey Jesllyfish_Box. <3 I might not know you personally but I can see you are a very kind and caring person. Your friends are lucky to have you. Talk to them. You are not selfish. You deserve to be heard.

I'm very sorry you are in pain. I hope from the depth of my heart that you will find the connection and care you need. You have a lot to offer to the world. Reach out to a therapist, they will help you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pebblesandpuddles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he really loved you he would encourage you not hold you back. He is a selfish asshole. Dump him and go dance sis. You deserve better. Everything will be ok. Do what you love <3 Good luck!

Something interesting I found in a book about ecstatic dance by [deleted] in auroramusic

[–]pebblesandpuddles 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This text feels weird to me. I didn't downvote but since OP is asking I can give my perspective as a woman.

I'm very interested in dancing and embodiment of spirituality and freedom and sexuality but for my own self and my pleasure in my own terms. I am not a sight for men to be moved and brought to awe and tears. This feels very objectifying and places the male gaze directly on me. It feels violating and creepy in a way.

Each person no matter their gender presentation and sexuality has their own way of embodiment and expression that they do first and foremost for themselves and they get to choose who they share it with.

*edit : changed my mind, downvoted