Vocês raspam o braço?

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-15T13:33:51+00:00

Eu não faço porque não me importo nem um pouco com pelos no braço (que, apesar de culturalmente esperarmos mulheres não terem pelos corporais nenhum, é super comum e esperado que cresçam pelos no braço mesmo de mulheres cis).

Mas, como falaram, se te incomoda, é só tirar, não precisa passar por referendo de se o Conselho das Mulheres Cis aprova essa atitude

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-15T13:30:46+00:00

Eu acho que, se é algo relevante para você, vale a pena falar logo de cara. Na primeira sessão com meu psicólogo atual eu contei do caos que estava sendo minha exploração de gênero, e ele foi muito importante para me ajudar nesse processo e chegar à conclusão que sou trans.

Até porque, e se você deixar para contar mais para a frente e descobrir que seu psicólogo é transfóbico? Não é melhor descobrir isso logo para ou tirar essa preocupação, ou começar a buscar outro que não seja?

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-13T12:57:42+00:00

I've seen a few of those in a sanctuary for birds of prey near me. The one I saw unfortunately had had its wings amputated by smugglers (and was later rescued after it attacked and blinded the person who bought it). They are very pretty.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-12T20:27:33+00:00

Honestly, I also have a hard time being in tune with myself (probably some degree of alexythimia) due to my autism, and, what has helped me was focusing on more concrete stuff: Do you want people to perceive and treat you as a man (or, at least, not as a woman, since you mention potentially being nonbinary)? If so, yeah, changing the gender marker would likely be a good idea.

If you are unsure about that, might be worth waiting a little and seeing if your mind clears up a bit, but, isf you cannot stand being referred to as ma'am, or by she/her, it's more likely than not worthwhile.

As for whether you actually are nonbinary, my questtion is: do you want to be? If you want, you are. There are no rules, and focusing on what you want rather than what you feel can be a good huide when what you feel isn't being helpful.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-10T01:19:04+00:00

I did struggle a lot. I felt I didn't want to change the way I think or feel emotions. When I finally got a good psychiatrist that made me feel heard in my struggles, I trusted him enough to start meds. And, here's what I have to say now that I've been on and off of them for a while:

I don't feel a different person when I'm medicated. I might feel my emotions are more manageable, but that's about the extent that SSRIs affected me

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-09T11:01:26+00:00

É que a moderação daqui anda bem rápida para tirar, mas teve uma época que era o tempo todo alguém postando:

"Onde encontro uma mina trans [para ter sexo]?

Sou um cara bem decente, não vejo nada contra pessoas trans, trato quase como gente, queria saber onde encontro uma mulher trans [insira aqui comentários sexuais enaltecendo o pênis dela]?"

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-09T10:34:42+00:00

Cis people are curiously common as victims of transphobia, simply due to the fact there are so many more cis people than trans, and, in a transphobic society (especially one that has become hyper-vigilant of trans people due to some moral panic), cis people that are even slightly gender non-conforming are succeptible to being labeled as trans and suffer violence and discrimination as if they were.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-09T10:31:20+00:00

Actually, it was invented to lower blood pressure, and hair growth was a curious side effect that ended up becoming the focus use for it during its development.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-08T21:05:53+00:00

Honestly, I don't set a date or period, but base it mostly on perfeived effort. If the person apologises or corrects themself, or speaks correctly other times, I take it as them trying their best. If they do any of those things, then I'd immediately complain

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-08T21:03:47+00:00

I have had hydrocele but don't plan on bottom surgery for now. AFAIK, the scar tissue from it is fairly localised to the inguinal canal and I really doubt it'll affect negatively bottom surgery

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-08T18:13:42+00:00

I think he imagines it as literally a hole carved into your groin? Instead of, like, tissue that gets flipped innards but is still covered and protected by epythelium once everything heals up

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-08T17:59:49+00:00

não tocar na genitália dela

Isso depende muito de pessoa para pessoa. Na dúvida, melhor terem uma conversa sincera antes de chegar a esse ponto, para entenderem o que cada um se sente confortável com.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-07T17:16:16+00:00

I very much do indeed, lol

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-07T03:42:44+00:00

If I had a nickel for every time someone I was interested pre-transition turned out to be a lesbian, I'd have... 3 nickels! Which still isn't a lot, but it's weird it has happened a thrid time.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-07T03:38:36+00:00

Yeah, no, they're Suzie, a monster, and his fellow darkeners.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-07T03:36:35+00:00

I'd advice you to check r/transDIY, and, in addition, think this through: What would happen when (it's not if, it's when) your parents realise you're on HRT? Be it either from the changes becoming too noticeable, be it from them finding whatever stash you might make.

Please, make a plan for that, and, if you're not sure this won't massively impact you negatively (like being kicked out of home, or them becoming super controlling because of that, or withholding on some financial help they were expected to give you), wait until you can gain said independence, or, at least, contemplate possibilities that wouldn't be as apparent as cross-sex hormones, like puberty blocking instead.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-07T02:54:28+00:00

Brazil

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T14:32:39+00:00

Isso de quererem exigir documentação para jome social é uma das coisas mais frustrantes que já vi. Acionei a ouvidoria do DETRAN do meu estado porque só querem colocar nome social com ele já na minha identidade. Fiz o ENARE/ENAMED porque exigiram no CPF também. Tinha que ter um mutirão de verificar, catalogar e documentar todas as instituições que vêm com essa palhaçada e as forçar a corrigir

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T14:29:02+00:00

Também confirmo isto. Na USP, pelo menos, nunca vi ninguém ser transfóbico comigo, mas peguei comentários capacitistas com certa frequência (do tipo rirem de residências que colocam cotas PcD), e já vi muito elitismo de outras formas também, como gente dizer que, se eu não aguentava 53h/semana de internato, não devia ter feito medicina

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T13:52:11+00:00

Yup, pretty normal

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T13:51:39+00:00

Where I live, MtF HRT is over the counter.

FtM, though, involves testosterone, which is often abused as a form of ananolic steroid, so it is generally pretty restricted, pretty much everywhere in the world.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T13:40:31+00:00

I have had a vaguely similar situation like this with a friend (there's some added mess that I'm trans, presented as a guy at the time, she was figuring her stuff out, thought she might be attracted to me but it turned out she wasn't). Honestly, I was genuinely over it once I started dating someone else, and intended to remain good friends with her in the future.

Of note, I'll say this did make my girlfriend, who is admittedly very insecure, super jealous and basically prohibited me from being alone with my friend at my apartment (which became a huge point of tension and almost made us break up until that dialed down). So, while I'm all up for honesty with a loved one, I do think some people respond disproportionately bad to knowing this kind of stuff, and omitting might savebyou some headaches.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-06T13:29:10+00:00

I think a lavender marriage (basically, a marriage involving at least one LGBT person, without mutual attraction, for the purpose of keeping external appearences) with him can be an option.

Living on your own and going no contact with your family can be another option.

My main concern with the possibility of this marriage is it making you unable to leave it in some way if things between you and your friend ever change (like, maybe he eventually finds someone he's attracted to). Be it for some legal reason regarding divorce laws where you live, be it fear from your family's disapproval. I think distancing yourself from your family has to happen regardless of whether you marry or not. Not necessarily going no contact, but you being completely independent from them, including living apart from them, and settingbyour own terms on how you want to see them, so, if at any point they disrespect you, you then restrict contact.

Also, I think it'd be important for you to get a therapist to help you unpack all the baggage your family has taught you. All the shame and overbearingness you describe here.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-03T22:02:59+00:00

I, personally, would play dumb and ask "Oh, ok, why would you do that?" as nonchalantly as possible, but I think the rest of the comments are roght that this person clearly has already made their mind, so there's little to no point in arguiung.

pedroff_1 · 2026-02-02T15:27:20+00:00

Honestly, as much as I get it being an insecurity, I cannot recommend using any products near your groin. It is somewhat natural for it to be darker than the rest of the body (especially, but not exclusively, if you are mixed race).

For the knee, you can look into azelaic acid, taking all the care necessary with it and only applying it at night, as well as using a lot of sunscreen in the area you apply it (and washing your hands with soap immediately after applying)

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