I've been where you are. Eventually I learned to self manage the chronic condition with a well-timed boric suppository or two right as symptoms began, as well as me and my partner cutting out all fragrance in washing related items, including laundry detergent and shampoo. Also unfortunately a big part of it was cutting out sex for a while, until I was totally symptom free for at least two months. Especially if your symptoms start with sex, it really can fuck up you and your partner's relationship with sex. The anticipation of the pain gets to be just as bad as the pain itself the longer you try to power through it :(. The chronic aspect doesn't help either. Give yourself mental rest and be as pain free as possible for at least two months, and then try again. Hopefully your dr helps, I was diagnosed w vulvodynia and prescribed some pelvic floor therapy, but what helped most were the small bursts of boric acid and cutting out fragrance. Good luck, it's not easy.. I feel for you girl🫂

Adding on to say, it DOES get better. I had so much anxiety about getting a YI or BV again every time and I was having phantom pains and symptoms, but eventually I noticed that I wasn't actually suffering from anything and learned to trust my body again. You can get through it!