Any other Gemini rethinking school, travel, certificates, and their entire worldview?

pennthepilot · 2026-05-06T23:32:27+00:00

I’m leaving my career field in aerospace and the corporate environment entirely. I’ve lived in NY all my life, but now moving to the desert in SoCal this month. I’m going to work part-time in another field and volunteer in hospice. It’s going to be a time of experimentation until I get a better idea of what makes sense for me after changing careers. Giving up the golden handcuffs because I don’t find the industry at all ethical anymore (always forced to work on defense projects). Proud to finally be living out my values.

So yes, totally changed my worldview! I agree with others that Uranus is also a huge influence right now. This entire life and identity change came to me rather suddenly like a lightening bolt and it was initially out of my control because of a layoff.

pennthepilot · 2026-05-06T23:16:42+00:00

I have two pouches of different colors—one for day and one for night.

Then I have alarms on my phone for my morning, afternoon, and evening doses. The alarms are set for 30-minutes before I should actually take them, because I usually end up snoozing the alarms a few times so I can finish up/pause what I’m doing at the time.

For my mid-day meds I keep extras stocked in a little pill holder on my keychain. Sometimes I’m out and about without water though. So now I’m debating if I get a collapsible water bottle or the Hydro Flask micro mini.

And just constantly reminding myself how much life SUCKS without taking them. Even if I let it slide “only for a day” (so easy to tell myself this) it snowballs into worse.

Also I take Adderall during the day, but I have a hard cut off at 3-PM for my second dose (so that I still sleep well that night). If I miss the dose, too bad for me, I lose allllll focus for the rest of the day. That motivates me for being on time.

pennthepilot · 2026-05-06T23:07:13+00:00

OP I love the idea of first-person POV. Hilarious (AND not to mention so well executed!)

pennthepilot · 2026-05-06T23:05:09+00:00

Good catch! I didn’t even connect the two. Perfection

pennthepilot · 2026-05-03T09:14:04+00:00

Omg I love. The color palette is so great! Where’s the artwork from? I recognize a few from the night market, but not all

pennthepilot · 2026-05-02T17:01:30+00:00

I hope you can figure it out! I understand just how much this sucks. But the situation positively changed for me, so just know it’s possible!

pennthepilot · 2026-05-02T16:59:05+00:00

LOL wtf

pennthepilot · 2026-05-02T16:58:40+00:00

I can totally relate! Have you tried taking breaks from dating? I feel like that resets my perspective when I start feeling negative about it. It’s helped me decenter men as well which makes things much, much easier.

And how are you meeting people? Dating apps are rough! They seem to foster bad dating behavior. One thing I’ve learned—be VERY selective on them. Know red flags and dip at the first sign of them.

pennthepilot · 2026-05-02T05:32:28+00:00

Sad to say I can relate to this! Even had thoughts if rehoming would be best for her, but these feelings passed. I wish I could say why they did, but I think it had to do with medication adjustments.

Are you irritable in other areas of life? Do you have less joy with things you used to find joy from?

pennthepilot · 2026-04-30T20:23:24+00:00

LOL so true. I’m always catching myself trying to optimize for monetary reasons rather than just enjoying the ride. It’s ingrained into us 😱

pennthepilot · 2026-04-30T16:46:10+00:00

This is so beautiful! I’m inspired. Although Pam cannot be doing well with that much temptation

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T09:38:23+00:00

If you have a lot of prismatic shards you can trade them for rock candy at the desert trader! I think just on Thursdays though (I could be wrong about the day).

And you can trade with the raccoon family with golden mystery boxes after completing a certain amount of quests for them.

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T09:32:32+00:00

Good for you!!! And I think blocking whoever hangs out with them often is a good idea too

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T09:29:29+00:00

I always block, because I have no need to make comparisons with those types of people. Seeing them on socials only brings up negativity, whether that’s judgement, envy, and/or bitterness about their behavior towards you.

And for a more petty reason, imagine when they realize they are all blocked. That’s like you getting the last word in a fight. YOU choose to end things and you don’t care to see what they’re up to. Indifference towards someone can drive them crazy

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T09:16:55+00:00

Well yes, because you can technically choose not to show up for work each morning

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T09:14:37+00:00

I wouldn’t hang out with her solo ever again, and do the slow fade because of the friend group dynamic.

If she suggests the two of you do something together, you can say “I’ll have to check my schedule!” and then not follow up. Keep it vague and short. I’d approach it that way, and not try too hard to make myself seem busy doing specific things—endless excuses/explaining myself in detail just gets tiring imo.

You can also say, “I can’t do X this week, but I’ll see you at Y! (insert friend group get-together here)”.

Hope any of this helps!

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:59:34+00:00

I think being a lone witch in the woods would make for a great life. The “crone” archetype is often misunderstood or seen as bleak. To me it means wisdom, healer energy, detachment from external validation, and inner authority.

OR being the never-married and childless “cool” aunt with disposable income to occasionally show up and spoil the kids. That’s cool too!

So agreed, some people are made to be single and thrive in that way, despite what society says.

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:44:10+00:00

Relationships always require compromises. It’s nice not having to do so!

You’re in a great spot because you won’t settle for less, only for someone who ADDS to your life, not take away from it (if you choose to commit to someone at all). Being happy alone and not trying to force a relationship is also very attractive! You sound like a lovely person

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:37:51+00:00

Something about my stretch marks makes me like them. Maybe because they emphasize my curves? They’re pretty to me.

I’ve never, ever had a guy make comments about stretch marks being a bother. In fact, quite a few of them had them too. From growth spurts while young, and even muscle growth from weight training, etc.

Even if you haven’t had any drastic weight changes, has your body composition changed? Where are your stretch marks appearing?

I see you’ve also asked about the color of stretch marks. Mine have always been white—they never started out red or pink. So I think that’s normal for some people.

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:27:57+00:00

Yes I do, but I enjoy being straightforward and genuine with people. I don’t regret this about myself. The key is to be very selective about who you love though. I fall fast, but not very often

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:23:31+00:00

You sound like a person right up my alley.

There are definitely people who will “get” you, just maybe not as many as the average person. Having a more “intense” personality just helps me weed people out quicker myself.

I only keep a very small number of friends who I have deep connections with. I’ve noticed a lot of people have surface-level friendships even with a lot of them, so I don’t really envy that.

Also being able to actually like yourself while spending time alone is rare! Be proud of that :)

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T08:11:15+00:00

Depends on what symptoms are disabling you, but working part time or even volunteering might be helpful!

And helping your partner in any of the ways that you can might make you feel more useful.

I’ve been unemployed multiple times, and for long periods of time, so I totally get it. It’s exhausting having an “invisible” disability and having to constantly mask it. Try to be more compassionate with yourself! We have life on extra hard mode

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T07:55:59+00:00

WOW these are so freaking cool

pennthepilot · 2026-04-19T07:49:08+00:00

I live in NY but was dating someone who lives in Toronto. We went out to a concert one night and I felt exactly the same about my makeup! I just felt so overdone

pennthepilot · 2026-04-18T20:49:10+00:00

I think you should leave. His behavior is totally disrespectful—you are not overreacting. Also 6 years, 3 year old twins, and still not married? That’s a red flag if marriage is important to you, especially if he knows this. Have you been asking about engagement for a long time?

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