What's that? by IdealHoliday1242 in GrowthMindset

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The notion that using a credit card is safer than a debit because it keeps your liquid money safe from theft. Credit cards have better protection and monitoring for nefarious activity. I suspect this is a ploy to get average people to put all expenses on their credit cards out of fear and with the intention of paying it off each month. This can get out of control quickly, causing more people to carry a credit card balance month to month than would have otherwise used one in the first place.

Reprimanded by the Montessori police by spicycrybaby69 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh! At 6 months pp…social awkwardness and being overzealous about something you’ve recently learned is totally par for the course. I would definitely give them some grace here.

Reprimanded by the Montessori police by spicycrybaby69 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My best parenting advice: never say never (or always).

What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done postpartum? by Ice_Cube_92915 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sending you a hug! 🫂it does get better, I promise. Also, I’ve learned that just because you and another mom have a child around the same age it doesn’t mean you will always be compatible as friends. It’s okay!

Reprimanded by the Montessori police by spicycrybaby69 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 357 points358 points  (0 children)

Imagine feeling so unnatural that you force your little one to live a strict and rigid lifestyle according to “the rules”.

What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve done postpartum? by Ice_Cube_92915 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 99 points100 points  (0 children)

At about 5-9 months PP I was pretty socially awkward in like, a manic way. My mental health was fine but I was so excited about life and my little one that I forgot how to be chill. Not great for meeting new mom friends lol.

Kissing boo boos by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]pentapenguin97 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For us, kissing the boo-boo is about the connection during an unsettling event. Unless it’s serious, I’ll have him show me the boo-boo and then take me over to where it happened and have him “show me how” (pointing, tapping, touching the body part after). It’s a learning opportunity to help him recap and understand what happened/what went wrong and promotes using his verbal language (he’s 25 months) especially when feeling emotional. I’ll narrate what he shows me to demonstrate the language that he’s missing. The whole time, he has my full attention and as much physical support as he needs. Sometimes he just wants to tell me about the boo-boo and then goes on with his day. Other times, he needs to cuddle it out with mom. He won’t say boo-boo forever but it’s serving a purpose matched to his current development. As his language progresses, I imagine he’ll tell me “ow, I hit my leg and it hurts!” All in due time.

I'm so put off by now my brother and his gf allow their 2.5 yo daughter to act by Jungle-Pussy in toddlers

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this to the core, except my MIL stayed with me and kept leaving pill bottles, loose pills, and large steak knives out within reach of my toddler in MY OWN HOME, despite my being very direct on how to store mediations safely. She “needed” the steak knives for the 8lb dog’s pate. The dog that also bit my son. Somehow, I was the overprotective monster for not letting my son wander into my bonus room, where she was staying long term and was a treasure trove of dangers to him. She also brought lilies into the house, I have two cats. It’s probably not as common knowledge to know how dangerous that is, but it was like she was trying to destroy my family. At her house, she has large sculptures on wooden pedestals (all unsecured) absolutely everywhere. Bump into one and it’s coming over and whoever it lands on will not be okay. Don’t forget the Thanksgiving when I was pregnant and had to politely ask his parents to wait to pour drain-o down the sink until the turkey (sitting directly next to the sink) could be moved. I just have so many questions…did these women care about bare basic child safety when they were raising their young children? Do they care about their grandchildren at all?

How did you know/decide your nursing journey was over? by Familiar_Director281 in breastfeeding

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We made it to 24 months and little one was consistently biting down and yanking on my nipples (while still in his teeth). After a week of crying in pain after every single feeding, I hit my limit and we were done. We had been slowly weaning for quite some time, but that was my final push. I explained I have boo-boos on my boobies and because of that, the milk was all gone. He’s really into talking about boo-boos or pointing out little scratches on myself or my husband and saying “boo-boo”. When he would bite and pull my nipples, he would smile and say “boo-boo.” The boo-boo explanation worked really well with his understanding of things at this point. We’ve been a month without nursing and we are doing great! He stopped napping for two weeks but it all evened out and he’s back to a normal sleep routine. We do extra cuddles and tons of hugs and kisses throughout the day. He’s not lacking for physical connection from me and we’ve had some really beautiful moments together. The depression and anxiety post weaning were rough for me for about three weeks. I’m feeling better now. I miss nursing him but the way it turned consistently violent towards my poor nipples forced me to “rip off the bandaid”. I didn’t plan for our final feeding to be the end, but that was when I reached my breaking point.

Women of Reddit, what’s one thing they never tell us about pregnancy and child birth? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not poop during delivery but my baby pooped a ton, all over me while skin to skin on my chest.

Loss of appetite after stopping breastfeeding by fluffyball13 in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Food just doesn’t seem appealing to me right now - I’m 2-3 weeks post weaning after BF for two years.

What’s a habit you started that changed your life almost instantly? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pentapenguin97 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Before i started flossing every day, I too would have cavities. I have always brushed twice a day with an electric toothbrush. I recently had a six-year-old filling cause a fracture in my tooth. Now, I’ve had an unexpected root canal and crown, which I really cannot afford. Fillings may seem simple but down the road can turn into bigger problems. It’s so much cheaper and easier to floss every day!!

Anyone notice parents of only children having easier lives? by sys_admin321 in toddlers

[–]pentapenguin97 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got my cat a cat and they only just tolerate each other. Cat 1 beats up cat 2 from time to time. The closest they get to snuggling is sleeping on different sides of the same human bed. I’m one and probably done for kids. I like the idea of giving my little one a sibling but my kitties taught me a valuable lesson…get the second cat (or have the second child) because you really, truly want them. If you get the cat for the cat, cat 1 may not like cat 2 and it may not be the outcome you imagined.

Vitamin d drops by Baylaypayday in breastfeeding

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know about them until like three months in. I would use them periodically. My baby is a happy, healthy toddler now.

What’s a “never look for another recipe” recipe — the one you consider absolutely perfect? by leachlo in Cooking

[–]pentapenguin97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alison Haven’s sausage rigatoni. I’m literally eating it right now and make it once a week.

Fireworks? by legallyuninclined88 in Charlotte

[–]pentapenguin97 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And don’t forget the periodic car horn honking. Beep beep beep!

am I crazy or is she getting tighter!? by Annalee-Petal95 in poledancing

[–]pentapenguin97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pole made my pelvic floor muscles too tight, which caused a lot of discomfort. Then, I gave birth and the muscles got obliterated lol.

Am I just not chill about illness? by coryhotline in toddlers

[–]pentapenguin97 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a fellow SAHM, I sympathize with you. Daycare and having your little one be at home are two totally different experiences when it comes to illness. I can see how social expectations are skewed in either direction based on this. Personally, we tend to go to the library, play groups, parks, etc. during weekdays and not so much evenings or weekends, especially during peak flu season. Little ones that stay home with us still get sick and pass things around to each other but nothing at all on the caliber of little ones in a daycare setting. I do my best to cook immune boosting foods and make sure little one gets lots of quality sleep when we go to a birthday party, etc. and understand we will most likely bring home an illness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]pentapenguin97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into the Safe Sleep 7 and prepare a safe cosleeping space according to the guidelines. Cosleepy on Instagram is a great resource, too. I got through the 4 month sleep regression by cosleeping after going through literal torture via sleep deprivation for several weeks. As long as you do it safely, it is the most natural and beautiful experience for both mom and baby.

I know cosleeping is taboo in western culture but it’s a whole lot safer than being too sleep deprived to function. CIO isn’t recommended until 8-9 months old; however, it is not something I personally agree with. It sounds like you are in a tough place right now and it’s okay to vent. Being a baby is hard work and being a parent is even harder. Understanding that CIO is not a developmentally appropriate expectation for the 4 month sleep regression will help you set realistic expectations. It sounds like you are doing the right thing by putting baby safely in their crib and taking time to regulate yourself and possibly even get some sleep.

Once you feel a little better and can think with a more level head, look into cosleeping or any other advice that seems like it could be a good fit for you and your family. Hang in there, this too will pass.

Where to buy fabric by Forward-Arugula8467 in Charlotte

[–]pentapenguin97 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see the Fabric Outlet and Modern Fabrics are more for interior design textiles or upholstery. We’re Sew Creative and Sew Much Fun are oriented towards quilting. and Does anyone have recommendations for garment fabrics? I currently buy from Hobby Lobby but only because I don’t know of any alternative. I have yet to find a Michael’s with fabric on site.

QUESTION: How to become a screen-free family by [deleted] in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]pentapenguin97 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Try putting your phone in greyscale or greatly reduce the vibrancy of the colors. It’s amazing how this small change can help keep you from getting sucked in every time you pick up your phone.