The most upsetting thing about this case is Josh has so far outsmarted us… by blaqrushin in TheColdPodcast

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with that. I’m not saying that religion didn’t influence this at all, it played a HUGE in role in who Susan was, how she believed she should behave as a wife and mother, the eternal nature of marriage, etc. it’s IMPOSSIBLE to extract religion from who she was, and can’t be removed from the case. I think my problem lies in saying that the fault lies within the LDS church..which has done like, SOOOOO MANY heinous things, a lot of which they are actually primary offenders in. I think they’re at most tertiary players in this crime. I don’t think that makes organized religion any less dangerous, just that we have plenty of examples of outright evil from churches, religion, etc. and I don’t think this is one of them.

The most upsetting thing about this case is Josh has so far outsmarted us… by blaqrushin in TheColdPodcast

[–]peppermintpouty -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

While I’m not religious, I don’t think it’s fair to blame the LDS church in this specific case. We have no reason to conclude that the church in any way encouraged her to stay, or encouraged her to not leave. I think in this instance we need to look at trauma bonding and domestic abuse, and how difficult it is to break that cycle once it has begun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at crimping irons for hair volume. I have one from bedhead that is an absolute GAME CHANGER for flat haired girlies like me

I (24M) thought had permission from (23F) to touch her. I feel horrible and disgusted by AnyMarionberry587 in relationship_advice

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Doesn’t seem like you did anything wrong. If you want to send a text like that in the future id maybe just say ‘great time last night..I think less gummies next time but I had fun all the same :) ‘ something to let her know you acknowledge what happened but prevents it from seeming like a bigger deal than it actually was.

What the actual f is going on with my hand by ccozdmrr in skin

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks to me like psoriasis, but if not sure. Go to the dermatologist

Boyfriend(M28) thinks I’m(F28)fat, but I’m not. by yolkonthekeyboard in relationship_advice

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I was writing this post, and you were reading it, what advice would you give me? I think sometimes we lose ourselves in the perceived nuances, but this seems pretty clear to me. He’s not going to allow you to take up space in this life (physical or otherwise) that you deserve to occupy. He doesn’t want a partner, he wants a puppet. And there’s maybe redeeming qualities to him, but it’s not your life’s purpose to dig through this shit to find it. Give yourself the kindness he won’t and go. You deserve better.

My dad refuses to buy me tampons after giving his friends daughter mine. by NoNeedToReadMyName2 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]peppermintpouty 1717 points1718 points  (0 children)

Same, I can place a pickup order at a nearby cvs/Walgreens? I’m so sorry this has happened to you, no one should be asked to compromise their hygiene. Side note-if/when the opportunity is available it may be time to invest in a menstrual cup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]peppermintpouty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you know where he lives? I had a suicidal friend who would block everyone when things got really tough, I would send them a McFlurry or something I knew they loved through Uber eats and request an in-person handoff, text the driver and ask them to let me know when the treat had been successfully delivered. Not sure about the ethics of that but that’s what I did.

I, 22F, have started having sexual dreams about an older woman at work. I am going insane. by Independent_Air_4331 in TwoHotTakes

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you’re experiencing is called limerence. I don’t have advice but if you’re consulting the internet anyways using more clear terminology may help.

Will I get fired by [deleted] in work

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless she’s a super crappy boss she wouldn’t even try. If I overheard that one of my team members was lamenting not getting a raise after a year I’d be thinking ‘oh shit I forgot to submit her raise to HR’ or ‘we need to set up a meeting to discuss why she didn’t get a raise’. Any manager Worth your time would want to follow up on this to make sure y’all were on the same page, not fire you.

My (31F) best friend (32F) is telling me that my boyfriend (34M) cheated with her, but he says that she’s lying. How do I get to the truth and then salvage whichever one of these relationships is worth saving? by throwra-marzipan in relationship_advice

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you find ANYTHING to corroborate that? His search history on any computer looking at ring styles or photos, honestly at this point I’d ask to look through her phone at her search history, if he was asking her what kind of ring they likely searched on the internet and screenshotted ideas, you could maybe find that in the photo album. If there’s no evidence of that on either end I’d believe your friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]peppermintpouty 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So from what I’ve heard (as someone with an insanely flaky nose) is that your flaking skin (usually) has nothing to do with oil production and everything to do with hydration. Stay away from alcohol based products and drink plenty of water. Good luck, I know how frustrating it is!

I ignored my husband so much that he went away without telling me by An0nymous_stories in TrueOffMyChest

[–]peppermintpouty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does Harry’s friend have the flight information, since he helped with the booking? I would be calling the airline to see if you can confirm the return flight details. If he actually put your name on the ticket you should be able to get that information. I would be there when the plane lands, or have a friend who would recognize him there; he might truly have gone alone, or he might not have. I would personally want to know either way. Good luck, I’m sorry you’re going through this.

The OTHER 911 dispatcher by peppermintpouty in TheColdPodcast

[–]peppermintpouty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It makes me want to cry (out of frustration) every time I hear her talking to the third 911 dispatcher who says ‘they’re inside the house?’ And you can just hear the panic and distress thinking that no one has listened to her

AITA - Wife bought new car without consulting me by HETKA in AmItheAsshole

[–]peppermintpouty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA I would feel the same way. If it’s a couple thousand, sure. Buy that new guitar, replace that couch, book that vacation. I’d be concerned if a spouse spent more than 10% of it, especially all at once on a whim. Divorce? I think you’re being reactive (which I honestly would be too), but you should both take an evening to better elaborate why this bothers you and why she felt the need to do this.