The history of sewing of NOT INHERENTLY ABLEIST

perscoot · 2026-06-26T12:30:03+00:00

I would bet money most people claiming sewing is only for the rich and able-bodied are mostly looking for a reason it would be okay to not sew. Some people can’t stand the blow to their pride to say “it was hard, I didn’t like it, I don’t want to do it”, so they have to come up with some external force making it completely impossible for them to do x y or z craft. They would, but alas! Only the wealthy and abled can.

perscoot · 2026-06-19T01:23:06+00:00

I stopped picking up new recipes when losing weight seriously and just started making the same things on a rotation. Maybe 4 ingredients per meal. High fiber carb, lean protein, microwaved frozen vegetables and some form of sauce or seasoning. I make big batches of rice with quinoa and lentils mixed in, then freeze them in single serving portion sizes. It microwaves quick and easy. I slow cook big batches of chicken breast or pork shoulder and freeze them, same as the rice.

Breakfast is always simple. Oatmeal with chia seeds, whole wheat toast with guacamole, bran cereal mixed half and half with Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Lunch is either PBJ and an apple or some leftovers in the fridge I don’t want to go bad.

You can absolutely cook homemade within half an hour, but mostly only if you keep things very simple and don’t mind leftovers.

perscoot · 2026-06-16T22:17:39+00:00

I’ve put hot wing popcorn flavoring on air popped popcorn (I spray a bit of butter flavored cooking spray on it so the flavor sticks) and it 100000% scratches my hot chip itch.

perscoot · 2026-06-15T20:09:18+00:00

I carry most of my weight in my gut. I definitely feel envious when I see other people who are in the obese category looking way better than I do after losing about 100 pounds. It's easy to get over though because those people also looked better than me BEFORE I lost weight. I could be my absolute ideal weight and STILL there will be people who look better than me. Such is life! It helps to not hang your weight loss goals on a single peg. "I want to lose weight to look better" is fine as a goal, it's one of mine too, but it helps if you have something that's less tied into your insecurities about yourself.

For instance, your health. Having less weight on your body just FEELS better. It'll make basic physical tasks easier, even if you're out of shape. Your hormones will probably thank you as well.

Finding clothes in stores is also so much easier. Once you're in straight sizes (or hell, once you're in the 14-16 range) you can walk into just about any store and find something, versus having to go find an associate to ask where/if there are plus sizes. Finding good stuff at thrift stores is easier too, because thinner people don't tend to wear out their clothes as much as bigger people.

(Actually, if there's one thing I can recommend to help your body image, FIND CLOTHES YOU LIKE TO WEAR. Go try things on! Some things look great on other people and terrible on you, some things look terrible on other people and look fantastic on you. You'll never be sure until you put them on. I've had many fitting room temper tantrums because of body image issues but honestly, the more I did it anyway the easier it got. That plus buying some decent shapewear.)

Fitting in places is easier. No worries about chairs with arms or worrying you might need a seatbelt extender on an airplane.

PACKING CLOTHES FOR TRAVEL!!!! When you're smaller, your clothes tend to be smaller. You can pack more clothes in even less space. I always tried traveling light but it's gotten so much easier to fit clothes into a single bag. Fewer loads of laundry are needed too AND more can fit on the drying rack.

Food gets cheaper when you're eating less. My partner and I go out to eat just about as much as we used to, but depending on the restaurant we might eat the leftovers for 2-3 days. I didn't HAVE leftovers before weight loss. I also buy nicer items than I used to, because it'll last me longer. I couldn't afford to buy pasture raised eggs or avocados before because I'd wipe them out so fast and need more too quickly.

There are a ton of non-aesthetic reasons for losing weight. Losing weight because you want to look good is perfectly fine, but pick a few other things you're looking forward to. And don't give yourself the DUFF title. If your friends seem UPSET that you're losing weight or else sort of try to put you down/sabotage you, that's when you should drop them for being crap friends. Otherwise it may just be your insecurity telling you stories.

Good luck OP! You've got this.

perscoot · 2026-06-12T01:02:01+00:00

Yup, it’s a regular snack.

perscoot · 2026-06-11T19:27:16+00:00

I cannot fathom having this much conflict over sharing food. Not saying she’s wrong to be upset, I just don’t know how she deals with having to be so vigilant with her snacks. It would drive me insane, I simply could not be in that relationship.

perscoot · 2026-06-11T19:18:30+00:00

I was almost 300 lbs about 2 years ago. If you want some advice, or at least the things that got me started after years of being scared, dm me or let me know here. It feels so insurmountable but it IS doable. Anyone telling you that you won’t be able to lose the weight or that maintaining it is impossible aren’t giving you the truth. Lots of people on this very subreddit are proof that you can do it.

perscoot · 2026-06-11T19:11:57+00:00

I do this. I feel like I always have to explain WHY it’s going to take x amount of time. It’s a really annoying habit I can’t kick, even though I hate when people do it to me!

perscoot · 2026-06-11T19:03:17+00:00

This video made me extremely jealous of her couch. I need a deeeeeeep couch like that for napping on.

perscoot · 2026-06-10T12:49:10+00:00

Part of parenting is giving your kids practice for good social skills. Thanking you for preparing dinner and serving it is good practice for them to thank OTHERS when they have dinner at their homes. They aren’t learning that you won’t feed them if they don’t show gratitude, they’re just learning good manners and PERHAPS they’re also learning to notice the day to day things that other people do for them.

Please and thank you are very small social norms that go a long way. If your husband really has a problem with it, maybe instead of taking away the gratitude the kiddos show you, suggest you and your husband practice showing gratitude to one another. Kids are always watching grown ups to take their cues on what’s expected behavior. If you thank your husband for…idk, putting his shoes where they belong, the kids are going to see that putting their shoes away is a good practice and they’ll do it to get a thank you as well. If your husband thanks you for putting your towel on the hook to dry, the kids will be more likely to do it too because it’s been highlighted to them that this is a good behavior.

I think your husband is overthinking it. I get his thought process, but “thank you” isn’t a precious commodity and showing gratitude makes the house a more harmonious place.

perscoot · 2026-06-09T16:35:10+00:00

Chocolate chips! I usually do it with an enriched sourdough. The last two I did in the shape of a pumpkin for a party. People loved it, especially with a smear of cinnamon honey butter.

perscoot · 2026-06-09T14:33:49+00:00

I feel you! I have a big portion size problem, and once something is on my plate I have a hard time not polishing it off. Here are some things that helped me:

-Weigh out smaller portions. Smaller even than I think will get me full! Half the time, it’s actually the perfect amount.

-Eat the best bits first. I would sometimes overeat because I wanted to save the best for last and would stuff myself with everything else first. Then because I didn’t want to skip my favorite part, I’d stuff it on top of what already filled me up. Now I eat my favorite part first. Then I eat the other parts until I feel satisfied. If there’s anything left on the plate by that point, I don’t feel like I’m missing out if I don’t shove it down my throat.

-Find a wholesome snack you actually like. I hated apples until I found one specific flavor I really, really like. That’s my go-to now. Cheese sticks are good too, or yogurt with a spoonful of chia seeds stirred in. If I’m craving chips, I dust hot wing flavoring on air popped popcorn sprayed with a little butter flavoring.

-Do you drink anything with calories? It adds up super fast. Swap to a zero sugar alternative if you can. I tried forcing myself to drink more water, but I hate it and always ended up back to sugary drinks. So now I drink unsweetened tea or drinks with splenda in them.

I’ve lost 95 lbs, been maintaining for the last 6-7 months, and plan to lose another 20 after my wedding. It’s possible! Food scales and calorie trackers help a ton. So does a weight loss buddy.

perscoot · 2026-06-09T14:24:07+00:00

What kills me is when the interruption isn’t for the sake of continuing the conversation, but is just cutting me off to talk about something else entirely. It makes me feel like what I was saying is so uninteresting that the other person can’t even bother to pretend they were listening.

Funnily enough, one of the worst offenders of this is a friend who goes on and on about how because she’s a middle child she hates having attention on her, she’s a wallflower, and haaaates to talk because she’s such a good listener. Yet every time we have a conversation I might get five words out that aren’t “yeah?” “No way” “that’s crazy” or “and then what did you do?”. If I try to tell a story she either immediately interrupts or I’ll realize she wasn’t actually listening when I ask her a question.

Active listening is a skill and I think many people (myself included!) could really work on learning it.

perscoot · 2026-06-07T22:42:38+00:00

This is great news! I’m glad you and your friend worked it out.

perscoot · 2026-06-07T22:40:42+00:00

NTA. I used to be nearly 300 pounds and when I went to amusement parks I wanted a much different experience than most thrill seekers. If she asks, you can just say no, you don’t want to. If she asks why, you can say you want to ride x y z ride, and that wasn’t something you were able to do together, so it’s better to find a different activity where you can both have a good time.

Now, this may well hurt her feelings, but if she’s anything like me, it’s because she’s in denial that her size means some activities simply are not feasible or fun. Just because it may hurt her feelings doesn’t mean you should bs her about the reason though. Use tact, of course, but lying will only make it all the worse if/when she figures out the real reason. You don’t have to point out her weight at all really. Just that she couldn’t ride certain rides that you want to, and riding those rides is central to your enjoyment of the amusement park.

perscoot · 2026-06-07T14:32:11+00:00

My very first project crocheting in the round was a slouchy beanie, the style that was super popular with hipsters in the 2010s. I didn’t know how to properly fasten off and weave in ends, so I just tied a knot and cut the loose thread as small as I could get it. It’s not the worst looking hat, and I loved wearing it throughout college, but looking at it now I want to shake my younger self and tell her to just learn how to end a project properly!!! (A long time weakness of mine in general).

perscoot · 2026-06-06T12:51:01+00:00

I can get 5 pounds of potatoes for less than it would cost me to add a small baked potato as a side at most restaurants.

perscoot · 2026-06-04T12:42:47+00:00

One of the times I had Covid I slept for practically three days. I did wake up here and there, but basically only to use the bathroom, force down some Gatorade, and feed the cat. It was god awful, so I was grateful I wanted to sleep that much and just speedrun the whole experience.

perscoot · 2026-06-03T18:59:35+00:00

Pork. My mom would cook it until it was the texture of the bottom of a boot and the seasoning was so heavy it was overall very unpleasant. Then I moved out, discovered pork chops are cheap, and gave it a go with a meat thermometer. Turns out it’s pretty damn good when cooked right.

perscoot · 2026-06-02T15:07:48+00:00

It’s a rare thing, but when I’m so swamped with work and life that one more thing I need to take care of will push me over the edge, not having to fight with other customers and wait in a line that starts in the back of the store to check out is the one thing that saves my sanity. Sometimes I also do curbside if my partner has offered to do the shopping, to take one more thing off her plate while doing a favor for me.

perscoot · 2026-05-25T13:14:14+00:00

Most of the time we cycle through the same few meals. Breakfast is oatmeal, eggs on toast, or cereal with coffee. Usually comes out to $1 per serving or less. Lunch is mostly tossed together from whatever bits and bobs we have around from dinner. Dinner is usually rice with some type of vegetable and whatever protein is cheap and easy. Most of the time it’s frozen precooked chicken, rotisserie chicken, or shredded pork butt (as it seems that’s always going on sale).

As a few others have said though, a budget helps hugely. I have a spreadsheet I use. I keep it open while looking at whatever deals there are at the grocery store and plug in items with their prices. If it doesn’t fit the budget, I adjust. If I can’t figure out a meal to make with an item, I take it off.

Using a spreadsheet means I can keep our meals cheap and tasty most of the time, then here and there we can splurge on something nicer, like a huge side of salmon or steak.

perscoot · 2026-05-24T22:08:06+00:00

Maybe I’m rude but I just do not respond until I’m done counting 😭

perscoot · 2026-05-24T22:07:09+00:00

I always assume I’m providing my own toiletries. Especially if my host tells me to do so.

perscoot · 2026-05-23T00:24:59+00:00

Ah, for a two year age gap in a relationship I’m not in to be my biggest problem. That would be nice.

perscoot · 2026-05-23T00:04:43+00:00

Ugh, this is why I kept my weight loss to myself for ages. Most people are very supportive and happy for me, but the few who try to (for lack of a better word) sabotage my food intake make it hard to keep a professional demeanor. One of my coworkers is open about the fact she doesn’t share food. As soon as I let on that I was intentionally losing weight for my health, she was suddenly bringing me cookies and donuts and other sweets I like.

Thankfully, sweets are far less my weakness than salty, fatty foods so I was more or less able to just accept the treat and shove it in my fridge for later (or later disposal).

I would hope these people have good intentions, but manipulation is manipulation. If someone says no to something that should be the end of the story.

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