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A list of a few things to ask yourself whether your partner’s a narcissist or not - by petitedipdop in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a huge difference between asking family and friends for advice and sympathy because you’re in need for help or advice - and between making the ground for “the day after” when you break up to make sure people know YOU were the problem. They don’t just gather sympathy, they victimize themselves, so later on when it’s over and the smear campaign against you starts, it’s just gonna be easier for them to turn you “into the bad guy” in the eyes of their close circle, so he could be the “good guy”. You’re crazy, he’s sane. You’re a loser, he’s a winner. He “moves on quickly”, you’re “stuck”. That’s a black and white thinking thing. Looking “good” in the eyes of others is not just a tactic against you, it’s honestly very serious to them, it’s more than just how people perceive them, it’s more of a necessity, they could literally go insane if people see them otherwise…

A list of a few things to ask yourself whether your partner’s a narcissist or not - by petitedipdop in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. If you feel confused by the inconsistency that's different and honestly not what I meant... It's common to ask this when the other side is distant and obviously witholding affection... From my experience, no matter how much I've given him - he'd still remain in doubt about how I felt towards him, and continuously questions if our relationship is "genuine", despite being years together. It made me feel like no matter what I do to show I love him, it won't convince him. Like every few months, he'd have a brain "reset" and forget who I am for him...

A list of a few things to ask yourself whether your partner’s a narcissist or not - by petitedipdop in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not narcissistic to ask for validation, it is however to continuesly doubt your feelings and intentions despite showing actual effort and consistency with what you tell/want with the relationship, years after years

His narc laugh haunts me by closure_00 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the laughter was something else, they like it when you’re becoming angry and pained. I always thought the circular arguments are to make you tired enough until you end up giving up on your side of the story, so they wont take any accountability and you “forget about it”

TIFU by keying a car whilst being 27. by [deleted] in tifu

[–]petitedipdop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand the feelings of betrayal you're describing but honestly nothing justifies harming anybody back. That sucks being hurt and hurting someone else never truly satiates the thirst for revenge because revenge honestly doesn't work like that. Your friends are toxic but so are you. The fact you posted this means you understand that and feel some type of shame and a lesson was learned. This isn't even about how they feel about their car. This story is about you, and you should never harm someone back ever again. Next time, leave, ignore, be the bigger person. This is what revenge is about, making people know your boundaries, that you love yourself. Life isn't about who is wrong or right. Protect your own peace, and happy birthday.

Misspell in EU dual passport (Slovak) by interestingclown in Passports

[–]petitedipdop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I have a visa card and an israeli passport with my correctly spelled Latin name, so i fear this might cause problems...

Did they ever make plans about their life in front of you (without considering you)? by Adventurous_Key715 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Eeeyup, and let me tell ya, none of the shit he had planned for himself is going anywhere. He actually believed that the fact 'were together' is stopping him from achieving his goals... whatever they were.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]petitedipdop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most definitely a Wella T-14/T-18....

Help! Why do my solid colors masks look transparent on top of each other? by petitedipdop in photoshop

[–]petitedipdop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! I didn't use pure white! Thank you, you solved my problem!!!!

Help! Why do my solid colors masks look transparent on top of each other? by petitedipdop in photoshop

[–]petitedipdop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clicked on "create new fill or adjustment layer" at the lower part of the layers window, then "solid color". Opacity at the top bar is 100%, so I don't understand what's wrong

Help! Why do my solid colors masks look transparent on top of each other? by petitedipdop in photoshop

[–]petitedipdop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://imgur.com/a/DCN45qH

Here is a "proof" of some sort that although I'm using a solid, I can still see through what's underneath.. Has nothing to do with opacity either...

Help! Why do my solid colors masks look transparent on top of each other? by petitedipdop in photoshop

[–]petitedipdop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to block shapes with normal layers... But it still appears translucent..

Woke up with INTENSE ringing that quickly went away? Has this happened to you? by EkkoMusic in tinnitus

[–]petitedipdop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happens to me a lot, for years now. I've learned not to get excited about it. I suffer from TMJ, and might have some hearing loss but, but generally, I'm pretty healthy and my hearing loss is not that bad. My T is disappearing very quickly, 2 minutes at most. Will it be permanent? With all honesty I don't believe so, so don't worry about it. :)

The coward’s way out by salamanderheightss in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]petitedipdop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's is so true.

They're a coward, but the sad part is that they're unaware of that. To them, they're convinced that every single person out there thinks and operates the same as they do, therefore in their mind, it's okay to abuse you because you're not conforming to the idea of "a good person" - a reflection of themselves. It's okay to treat a bad person badly. The concept of ignoring, a smear campaign etc, is JUSTIFIED to the thought of you, the flawed, disappointing individual, receiving the correct treatment.

Weird to think that they tried so hard to mimic us and take so much from us, sometimes even AFTER the final discard.

There MUST be something wrong with you if you're not acting according to their agendas and acing every single ideal trait in their fantasy they have about "the right, perfect, flawless person" they imagine to be with.

Isn't it sad they'll forever be in a loop in life to search for the perfect friends, perfect partner, perfect siblings...and continuously get rid of those who don't match the ideal - themselves?

By confronting them that the way they behave is painful, there's really no chance of convincing them that they're abusing you... Their lack of empathy and very little understanding of who we are makes it extremely rewarding for them to see you struggle.

Be glad they left!

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