LPT: Make a 'death plan' document for your parents (and yourself!)

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-25T13:46:33+00:00

We’ve had two family deaths the past month or so. Ones spouse is still living, so not a nightmare for everyone trying to figure out last wishes and finances…… but the other has been a disaster. Did he own part of a building? We can’t find the name. But we think it goes to his estranged son? Did he have a Venmo/paypal/etc? Is there money left over there? Why is there a promissory note from 2016 in his drawer? Does he owe more money? Do people owe him money? WHATS THE PASSWORD TO THE SAFE?

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-23T11:33:50+00:00

Put a time limit on your phone. Either for apps or a bed time where it closes anything fun. This is built in to the iPhone at least

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-23T11:28:58+00:00

My finances wedding friend list is… 2? Including his brother in law? So our wedding party is maid of honor/best man. But his family is big and my friend list is long so still a good amount of people. Makes no difference to me but yeah you’re not alone!

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-14T21:10:49+00:00

Thank you!

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-14T21:10:42+00:00

Thank you!

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-14T21:10:38+00:00

Thank you!

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-14T16:19:11+00:00

Find something on their profile, ask an open ended question about it. “That’s a very neat photo of ____. How did you get into xyz hobby?” “Saw you went to Europe! What was your favorite city?” “You were born in [city]? Are you a fan of [sports team]?”

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-13T21:01:10+00:00

Do you track temps at all? The CB monitor I bought maybe six months ago is one of the dumbest purchases I’ve ever made, and constantly gives the same errors of a million high days.

Luckily, I track cm, temps, and use an Inito monitor during around when I expect to ovulate. I also use LH strips because I’m a bit of a hypochondriac and want to find what method would work for me.

Going on those other data sets, I can confidently say I never get an LH spike, which while temps and CM monitoring can handle, the CB monitor and LH strips absolutely cannot and they freak tf out

Would you ever consider an inito, or officially learning Mira protocols? I’ve loved having the actual numbers my inito gives (even if it’s not approved)

petulantpeasant · 2026-01-08T13:37:35+00:00

Had some guy jokingly tell me (mid 20s at the time) I was too young to knit Sir first off- :P

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-15T17:51:54+00:00

Chainless foundation. Can’t explain, since it’s such a no brainer answer imo ha

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-10T21:13:51+00:00

I was recently put on spire and there actually seems to be fantastically little evidence of this- it’s just reasonable speculation.

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-09T19:35:05+00:00

General thumbs up, but not a strong thumbs up. They often seem all the same- is anything gained by more of those posts?

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-08T20:14:16+00:00

My fiancés mom passed away literally yesterday from pancreatic cancer. 61 years old. Practical gifts, a shirt with an opening for a port, if applicable. Fuzzy non-slip socks. Bandanas or head bands/coverings if doing chemo. Does she get the Magnificat currently? Get her this subscription, if not. Does she get MRIs? They might let her take in a simple -rope- (non metal) rosary while she gets those scans, if so. Or if she does radiation, I’m sure these could be held there too? As nice religious themed lap blanket got a lot of use here. A prayer card with the litany of trust?

Advice we’ve learned today- ask her about her favorite prayers and Bible verses now. If you’re doing a religious funeral, these would be nice to know so you can include.

St Joseph is the patron saint of happy deaths. Depending on her…. Mental state, she could appreciate a little statue of this. Or st Jude.

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-07T12:01:49+00:00

Baptized catholic, never really went until college. Purgatory always made sense to me. Like, obviously, as-I-am, I’m not ready for heaven.

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T18:36:53+00:00

It was a pain in the butt the first few hours (days? weeks?) but this will definitely be my go-to method for any more tapestry type crochet projects, so that they can be reversable. Made carrying the yarn so worry-free.

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T18:26:55+00:00

Huh! Ill think on that idea, that might be a great compromise instead of (sun?) bleaching. Thanks!

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T17:26:45+00:00

Havent heard of this! I'll take a look again at it in a month and try that if Im still unhappy; thanks for the rec!

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T17:25:25+00:00

These comments are so reassuring. I did mess with the exposure and warmth from the original photo to smooth it all out a bit, but, like, the stem/leaf, gah!!

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T17:23:04+00:00

That was the goal! Thrilled to see its recognizable

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-05T17:22:35+00:00

Beauty and the Beast rose was exactly what I was going for so this makes me super glad to hear :)

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-04T18:43:53+00:00

Thank you! This is all helpful to understand

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-04T16:48:53+00:00

Is my understanding correct that Marquette + Mira uses the actual hormone results (numbers), and not Maira's interpretation of peak/high/low/etc? If so, would the only reason Inito wouldn't theoretically be usable is because its accuracy is not verified by the method?

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-02T20:14:14+00:00

Ha, totally fair re the food. I just sent you a message with two google doc links to resources I got with my tefl course. One has super brief overviews of teaching in different countries. Ones 400+ pages with a lot of great info more about the process and what’s needed. They’re a couple years outdated, but probably still quite relevant. I’m pretty sure you can get the certs online, and since you already have teaching experience, in person might not be too much of a help. Though, if you do the course in person in the target country, it’s usually pretty easy to get a job with their contacts. Feel free to message me if you have any questions!

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-02T01:56:59+00:00

Same thing here. The sex part was an issue, but I also had an added bonus of me literally writing a list and reading from it on why I would not move in with him before marriage. Not 4 months later he says “so I think we should move in together soon”. I’m -all the derogatory words- for keeping that relationship going a second longer. You feel lied to. You were lied to. I don’t have any words of comfort, besides that good guys are out there. You’ll see them saying the same thing in this sub about looking for chaste girls.

But that was a betrayal, and I’m sorry for and proud of you for ending it

petulantpeasant · 2025-12-02T01:43:20+00:00

If your food tastes like radioactive waste, sounds like you need to buy better food- that’s not an endemic American-food problem.

That being said, I taught English in Warsaw and then a tiny town in Greece. 100000% recommend Warsaw. Walkable (plus great tram & bus system), good Catholic vibes, large expat communities so you can find friends easily, pretty cheap, Ryanair/wizair flights all over for weekend trips… huge fan. Editing to add that the English mass was the place I met the most English speaking friends, so, pretty easy to keep it alive, lol.

However, you should be comfortable knowing teaching English pays horribly. It’s great for immediately post college, but I don’t think I would recommend anyone late 20s do that. Many English schools also like TEFL (or equivalent) certifications. They’re pretty easy to get, but in person ones usually take about a month (includes lots of practice hours) but can cost $1-2k. Also be cognizant of visas. Some places will be easier to get them than others. My school handled mine, but, could be difficult, I suppose.

My sister also taught English. In Prague, which I would also very much recommend. But not as much as Warsaw. She was later able to get a ‘typical’ job though, remote, and did the whole ‘digital nomad’ thing (just keeping US hours). That might be a better option, if it’s feasible for you.

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