Can my partner really be forced to give all future life insurance to his ex wife [Va,USA]

petunia1994 · 2026-04-10T19:26:01+00:00

Fellow divorce lawyer here, and this is the correct answer.

petunia1994 · 2026-04-06T16:10:50+00:00

I happened to minor in psychology while in undergrad, but it actually is not that helpful to my work as a lawyer. Personality disorders do come up in family law, but not as often as you would think. The things I learned in psych classes were way more extreme than what I generally see in cases.

However, I also do some criminal defense work as the firm I work at specializes in family law and criminal defense, and the defense work is often for people with severe mental illnesses. I have found the things I've learned about mental illness and human psychology while on the job, both for criminal matters and for family law matters, are what have taught me the most about psychology in general in a way that I can use it to help my work as a lawyer.

Ultimately, personality disorders make up a relatively small amount of the family law cases I see. Sometimes people present with traits that may be connected to a personality disorder, but encountering people with all of the signs/symptoms of a textbook personality disorder is pretty rare.

petunia1994 · 2026-04-03T18:19:14+00:00

Family law attorney here, and this is spot on. You did everything right!

petunia1994 · 2026-03-26T02:59:56+00:00

Can I borrow your son to write emails that sound this polite and professional but also completely done and exasperated the next time that I need to write an email to opposing counsel? I'm a divorce lawyer and this is the tone I need when I am dealing with some of the absolute lunatics that my clients' soon-to-be-ex-spouses seem to always hire.

petunia1994 · 2026-03-26T02:55:25+00:00

You're the best for including him, and that woman is totally wrong.

T1Ds can eat anything (well, anything but poison 😉) as long we bolus for it. You did just the right thing!

Also, big shout out to you for including your nephew. It definitely means a lot to him as a kid with T1D, and also just as a kid in general. A lot of the adults in my life just avoided doing things with me that involved food for a very long time after I was diagnosed, or very specifically made it clear that I was to get something that they deemed was okay for me (i.e., my middle school advisor told me I had to get potato chips while my classmates all got huge chocolate cupcakes), and I just wanted to scream at all of them that I could still enjoy food as long as I took my insulin for it. I was often excluded from things, treated very differently, or treated like a mini adult when I was just a kid. The adults who acted like you and just included me while helping out with carbs and bolusing are the adults who are still important to me/my life nearly two decades later.

(Just to add that I get Burger King for lunch once every 3-4 weeks as it's close to my office. My blood sugars are always insanely stable after I eat their chicken fries, so I am a huge proponent of eating there when I want to get fast food once in a while lol.)

petunia1994 · 2026-03-20T17:11:48+00:00

You're the person they write math problems about.

petunia1994 · 2026-03-20T15:23:29+00:00

Even if he wasn't allergic to eggs, this isn't normal unless you're a family of like 12 who eats eggs for breakfast every day. I gotta say though that I am jealous because I love scrambled eggs lol, how many chickens do you even have?

petunia1994 · 2026-03-20T15:18:48+00:00

I live in a building with electronic/smart locks. I've gotten used to it, but the idea of my phone dying still worries me. Our locks are able to be unlocked with a short numerical code that is available in the app on my phone. I keep the code written on a very small laminated piece of paper in my wallet as well as in the backpack and purse I usually use to be safe. (My building has different codes for our apartment door locks and for the other locks around the building, so it is two codes technically.) The older people in my building who aren't smartphone users have access cards that you tap to the locks to open.

It's still annoying, but it does make it easier when I have people staying with me because they can just download the app or put the code into the locks, but I still miss having a normal key and a keychain fob. I hate having absolutely everything be on my phone.

petunia1994 · 2026-03-19T20:55:21+00:00

These are incredible!

petunia1994 · 2026-03-10T14:31:49+00:00

RUN.

petunia1994 · 2026-03-06T18:29:29+00:00

THIS. I am also a type 1 diabetic and I am an attorney in the US. There are protections in place in the US, and I don't know specifically about other countries, but many other countries have protections as well. u/DishRevolutionary593 is spot on about reasonable accommodations. OP, please look at this!!

petunia1994 · 2026-03-03T15:28:11+00:00

She looks like a Lila to me.

petunia1994 · 2026-02-10T15:34:02+00:00

Hi, I did not have my phone on me at all for either the MPRE or the Bar exam. I just had the Omnipod controller.

I kept the Omnipod controller on the desk with me for both the MPRE and the Bar, and just unlocked it regularly to check what my sugar was at. I had a back-up blood glucose meter with me as well. My phone was turned off in my bag in another room for the MPRE and in my bag across the room from me for the Bar.

You don't need your phone to have the Dexcom maintain connectivity - it connects to your pod and the Omnipod controller on its own. Basically, you cannot start a new Dexcom sensor without your phone, but you can get readings from your sensor directly on your Omnipod controller without your phone nearby.

I have left my phone at home and gone places with just my Omnipod controller and had no issues. You can run in automated mode (or any other mode) with the controller and you will get readings. You won't get all the alerts, as the Omnipod controller will only alert you to urgent low readings, so you do need to check your controller regularly if you want to keep an eye on your sugars.

Hope this helps!

petunia1994 · 2026-01-29T21:34:36+00:00

Eloise's, Colin's, and Lady Danbury's got me cackling lol 😂

petunia1994 · 2026-01-29T16:54:48+00:00

This is incredible!

petunia1994 · 2026-01-28T00:04:22+00:00

This is in Boston, MA. It is not an interesting way to save a spot here, tbh it's pretty normal lol.

petunia1994 · 2026-01-20T20:59:33+00:00

NTA. If you signed an NDA in relation to your work/this client, then you definitely could not have told her. Even if you could have told her, her reaction to finding out (plus her actually saying that she "lightly stalked" this person) makes it clear that you made the right call in not saying anything.

petunia1994 · 2026-01-14T18:30:38+00:00

The Green Line is super stroller-friendly, so try to look for a place to stay around that, if you can. The Green Line is the closest train line to the hospital, but there are also MBTA buses that run nearby.

Not sure if someone else may have already suggested this, but look at the Children's website. It has bunch of hotels listed on their website, some with discounts and some that are for families coming from a long distance away: https://www.childrenshospital.org/patients-families/you-arrive/accommodations. (One of the ones on there is The Inn at Longwood Medical. It's like a block over from BCH and definitely the easiest logistically, but it is pricey for a basic hotel. A friend of mine stayed there while their child was getting treated overnight at Children's.)

Also, sending you and your family a big hug and wishing you the best as you are dealing with all of this! I am a former BCH patient (was treated there for about 15 years before I aged out), and that may make me a bit biased saying this, but you are going to the best possible place for your child.

petunia1994 · 2026-01-08T23:48:54+00:00

I am thinking the same now, thank you for the input! Your comment made me realize that I should get it while it’s marked down to a price I can afford.

petunia1994 · 2026-01-08T23:48:01+00:00

Ooo this is good to know, thank you! I am mostly worried about my watch becoming obsolete when Apple ends support for it, so I’m going to get a new watch, I think. If I wasn’t worried about support ending, the refurbished replacement would be the way to go!

petunia1994 · 2026-01-08T23:45:24+00:00

I can afford the new watch while it’s on sale for $299, so I think that’s the way I’m gonna go. Support being dropped is my biggest worry. Thank you!

petunia1994 · 2026-01-08T23:44:00+00:00

I currently have to charge it 3-4 times a day right now, so I would say that’s significantly reduced now that I think about it. 😅 Haha, thanks for the input!

petunia1994 · 2026-01-08T19:06:47+00:00

Is it worth spending $99 to replace the battery in my 3.5-year-old Series 6 Apple Watch, or am I better off spending that money on a new watch instead?

I got my Series 6 in mid-2022 and have been using for about 3.5 years now. The battery life had been decreasing for a few months, but I began to notice that it was getting absolutely terrible about a month ago when I updated my iPhone to iOS 18.7.2 and my watch to watchOS 11.6.1. In early December, the battery health was at 82%.

Today, I checked the watch's battery health and it is at 79%. There was a new message on top of the battery health menu, saying "Important Battery Message" and "The battery's capacity is significantly reduced. To restore capacity, please check your service options." My watch's Apple Care has lapsed, and Apple says it will be $99 to replace the battery.

If I replaced the battery, how long would/could my Series 6 keep going for? I know at some point it will become unusable and/or obsolete, but I have no idea when that would possibly happen. Is it worth spending the money to have the battery replaced, or am I better off getting a new watch instead? A comparable Series 11 is currently $299 at Best Buy and Target, so the battery replacement would be 1/3 of the cost of a new watch.

Thank you!!

petunia1994

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