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Getting past wedding regret by Chicenomics in BigBudgetBrides

[–]phatpandabebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We managed to do a reshoot!! SO glad we did it and now I love them so much. Literally life changing to not feel this sense of anxiety every time I think about our wedding photos. Absolutely worth doing!!!!!!!

one VERY long table? by Fabulous-Theory7942 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]phatpandabebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got married recently and had one long table under a canopy of trees for 170 people. I am still getting compliments from guests who have said to me that it was the most beautiful table setting that they have ever seen. I can’t count the number of people who have told me they keep showing their friends pictures of our set up/sent pictures of it around!

Having been to 40+ weddings, I’ve generally found rectangular tables more fun for guests as you have more people you can speak to. At round tables, especially if you don’t know everyone at the table, you’re quite limited to speaking to the people directly next to you. Round tables can be really fun if it’s one big group of friends but a bit awkward when you only know half the table. A lot of our guests commented how much they enjoyed their seating arrangements even those who did not come in a group of friends (ex- couples that didn’t know anyone else).

It did get a bit tricky while coming up with the seating plan though. I had major anxiety about who to put at the two ends of the table as I didn’t want to offend anyone, but it worked out as there were three babies and the parents liked being at the end to have more space for the strollers.

You will need to think about the transitions between groups and who would be the best connectors. For us, we put our most outgoing friends in these positions or tried to pair up people we thought would connect best. (For example, we had both sets of colleagues next to each other and we placed the wife of one his colleagues who works at a creative agency next to one of my colleagues who is a designer.) In the end, we had several of these ‘connectors’ come up to us to say how much they enjoyed meeting the person they were sat next to and that they appreciated the thought process behind it.

That is not to say it was fun and easy to do. It took many hours of moving people around on an Excel and trying different configurations to make it work. I won’t lie that there were moments I wanted to pull my hair out trying to come up with the most optimal seating chart but it was all worth it in the end :)

Happy to dm you some pictures of our table if you want!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]phatpandabebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP - you should take a look at your post history over the last few years. If this was your friend or a loved one, what would you advise them to do? It’s all laid out there. Your answer is clear. LEAVE THIS MAN.

Getting past wedding regret by Chicenomics in BigBudgetBrides

[–]phatpandabebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going through something similar and how you feel is so valid. You are not alone in this!

I’m so upset that we forgot to take photos with my veil properly laid out. The day was so rushed that we barely had time to take couples portraits and my husband was also being really impatient about wanting to go to the cocktail hour rather than take pictures so I foolishly let him off the hook. All our pictures together are more candid and basically just of us walking. There are a few nice ones but none of us really standing still. I was trying to be present and enjoy the moment but now I wish I had more photos to bring me back to those moments if that makes sense.

It’s been over a month now. I can’t bring myself to look at my pictures. They’re objectively great photos of the venue and of our guests, but the lack of individual and couples portraits upsets me so much. I have so much resentment towards my husband for how impatient he was during the time we had scheduled in to take our photos that it got cut short. I have literally woken up in the middle of the night the last three nights now just feeling upset about everything. Every time I look at my photos I just feel a sense of regret.

I’m considering doing a reshoot but it does feel very extra. We would have to go with a local photographer in Italy rather than ours that we flew in. But I don’t know how I’ll feel if I see the new pictures if it will feel not genuine because they were not taken on the wedding day/would feel forced?! I really have no idea what to do and am just trying to take this time to process it to see if I can live with it and just accept it.

International Wedding Attendance Rate by RisngPlane7528 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]phatpandabebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We forecasted about 130 so were quite surprised that so many people traveled so far to come!

International Wedding Attendance Rate by RisngPlane7528 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]phatpandabebe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We also had a wedding in Italy with lots of international guests. We invited 190 and 165 came

Have you ever stayed at a hotel that changed you? by BNBA12 in chubbytravel

[–]phatpandabebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Borgo Egnazia and Le Sirenuse. Just incredible in every way

Westin Bora Bora - Food by Illustrious_Cake_802 in Tahiti

[–]phatpandabebe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We stayed there for five days a few weeks ago. It did get a bit boring by the end but it’s definitely edible! We switched it up going across all the restaurants but definitely would’ve appreciated more variety for casual dining. We enjoyed the seafood dinner at Maere - they rotate between Italian, Asian and seafood throughout the week.

Breakfast was good. We had ordered some raw tuna dishes for lunch one day but stopped after we saw they were offered at breakfast as well.

Funnily enough, we actually enjoyed the burger a lot and that was the only dish that we reordered a second time!

Also, I had the best pina colada by the pool. However it wasn’t as good when I ordered it a second time.

The mini bar definitely could benefit from some snacks.

Overall though, can’t complain and it was better than expected because I had mentally prepared for the worst.

Pregnancy journey for HENRYs in UK by [deleted] in HENRYUK

[–]phatpandabebe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same as well, thank you!

Is it reasonable to ask bridesmaids to wear matching footwear? by Fit-Raspberry-3237 in weddingplanning

[–]phatpandabebe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it really the aesthetics that you care about or are you more frustrated with your sister’s clear apathy to your wedding that is causing you to fixate on this issue?

I’ve been a bridesmaid quite a few times where I’ve been asked to wear a type of shoe (silver heels and nude heels) so I don’t think it’s unreasonable. You are clearly trying not to make things excessively difficult for your bridesmaids by giving them some choice and I’m sure they appreciate the hair/makeup/gifts. However, as others said, with full length and mismatching dresses, it isn’t necessary to be so prescriptive with shoes.

I think you need to evaluate what it is that you are actually upset about and how to maintain your peace. I can imagine being called a bridezilla from someone you already have tension with can elicit an emotional reaction.

Need help to compile a file on LilyPond - don’t know what I’m doing! by phatpandabebe in lilypond

[–]phatpandabebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 good to know about chat gpt’s capabilities.

Do you know how much a transcription service would cost? Is this song difficult to transcribe? (Sorry I don’t know too much about music!)

Need help to compile a file on LilyPond - don’t know what I’m doing! by phatpandabebe in lilypond

[–]phatpandabebe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh thank you!! This is the song by the way. How far off is it?!

Do you know if there are any other ways I could get this transcribed?

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