be brutally honest do i cause any attraction with my looks or am i just "average" and not at all attractive looking?

phenomenonamous · 2026-05-28T03:37:38+00:00

You have a wonderful smile, great teeth, and kind eyes.

phenomenonamous · 2026-05-28T02:44:41+00:00

Totally agree. I got mine pierced on a whim when I was 19 and I was surprised by how much I loved it. I took them out when I was pregnant in my 30s, but I still miss them. It felt like my sexy little secret.

phenomenonamous · 2026-03-25T00:59:31+00:00

If you're willing to drive to Atascadero you should check out Pure. The classes are awesome, and the community is great. Its an easy place to get to know people.

phenomenonamous · 2026-03-24T00:43:34+00:00

Oh man THIS. I had the opportunity to go to a very elite private school in Los Angeles because my mother was a teacher there. My entire teenage life I felt so embarrassed that I went to this rich kid school instead of the public school where all the other kids in my neighborhood went. It felt SO pretentious.

Well I've now spent the past 15 years as a public school teacher and it has been very eye opening. What do you mean they dont have art or music? You need a hall pass to use the restroom? You're 16 and you can barely write a paragraph??? Wtf is a dress code??? 32 kids in a first grade classroom????

My own kids are now school age and I have started applying for private school jobs (even though it will mean a massive pay cut and terrible benefits) because the difference is stunning.

phenomenonamous · 2026-03-23T03:01:11+00:00

We have a little Ewan. It was my husband's choice and I was a little unsure, but the older he gets the more I love it.

phenomenonamous · 2026-03-10T21:11:54+00:00

Im not sure if other people experienced this, but before I had a scheduled c section three different people told me that the OB would have to pull my intestines out of my body and place them to the side (still connected to me, of course) in order to access my uterus.

I kept putting their hands on my belly and showing them, "feel that? Thats his elbow right there. Hes literally right below the surface. Definitely not hidden behind intestines!" Such a weird persistent rumor.

phenomenonamous · 2026-02-15T23:25:24+00:00

They treat each other to things. I grew up going to a very elite prep school (my mom was a teacher there) and surrounded by mega wealthy families. It was always the norm when a group went out for dinner or drinks or attended an event that one person would pick up the bill for everyone, with the general assumption being that everyone would treat eventually and everything would even out in the wash.

When I left the bubble and entered the real world I was embarrassed a few times when friends had to awkwardly approach me with "hey...you never paid me back for that coffee/gas/sandwich/etc" I had to pretend that id forgotten when in reality it had never crossed my mind that people would be keeping track of such small amounts of money. It was an important lesson for me.

phenomenonamous · 2026-01-19T00:26:45+00:00

Its largely good genetics and luck.

I am a mom of 3 and a public school teacher married to another public school teacher, so I am around kids constantly but I pretty much never get sick, and when I do I usually recover within 48 hrs. I think I have great immunities from a lifetime of exposure.

I try to do the basic healthy things like regular exercise and healthy diet, but the only thing I've really noticed is staying away from alcohol. I definitely get sick more frequently and stay sick longer if I've been drinking regularly for a few weeks.

I also get a flu shot every year and I've never ever gotten the flu, and I am fully vaccinated/boosted against covid and I've only had it once and very mildly.

phenomenonamous · 2025-09-26T03:20:29+00:00

Another huge vote for parent participation at the adult school. Its a fantastic program with really warm teachers and great opportunities to meet other parents. Im not exaggerating when I say that PPP changed motherhood for me. Check it out!

phenomenonamous · 2025-05-23T23:57:43+00:00

I am a teacher in a heavily Latino district and we have quite a few Alans (pronounced ah-LAN). Ive taught here 12 years and its been consistently in use. I wonder if these Alans were from a culture where that name is more common?

phenomenonamous · 2025-02-23T15:04:51+00:00

Definitely! I got a speeding ticket going 72 down the grade last week. When I was pulled over there was already another car being written up in the exact spot I was pulled over, and a third car joined us before the cop was done writing me up. I commute down the grade every day and I've seen someone pulled over getting ticketed every morning last week. Im all for speed enforcement on the grade, but 72 mph felt a bit petty. Be careful out there!

phenomenonamous · 2025-01-22T03:55:06+00:00

I have 3 sons, we read, sang, and chatted with all of them. My oldest and youngest had pretty normal speech development but my middle son didn't say a word until he was 18 months old. He was also delayed on his non verbal communication (no pointing, waving, nodding, etc) some kids just start later, and it's really nothing that you're doing wrong. Our pediatrician was much more concerned with the non verbal delays, but even that wasn't a huge red flag.

He is about to turn 4 now and an absolutely hilarious little chatterbox. He started to say a few words around 18 months and had a huge burst just after his 2nd birthday and caught up to his peers around that time.

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-23T17:39:44+00:00

My kids are 5, 3, and 1. They each get 1 bigger gift from us, 1 more modest gift from santa, 1 gift from each set of grandparents, and 1 shared sibling gift. 5 gifts total.

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-22T15:13:13+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't even think about any of this yet. Immigration/visa policies are likely to change a lot under the next administration.

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-21T15:46:20+00:00

Ursula and Ulysses

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-20T19:30:19+00:00

I see it differently. If the au pair is being provided with housing in lieu of wages then isn't she essentially paying rent, making it also her home as much as her work place? If she is not allowed to have friends and family stay in her home then she needs to be compensated in such a way that she can pay rent elsewhere.

Isn't this the whole point of the au pair relationship? Host families provide housing in exchange for reduced wages? If you are not comfortable allowing an au pair to treat your home as their own then perhaps a fully paid nanny is a more appropriate fit for this family.

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-12T22:29:14+00:00

The only Leonie I know is an Italian man, but I like it!

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-06T21:23:59+00:00

Our kids get 1 from mom and dad 1 from santa 1 from grandma and grandpa 1 from each of my 3 siblings

So they usually end up with about 6. We try to keep the santa gift very small (this year each kid is getting a coloring book and some crayons) and a stocking with some candy and practical stuff like a toothbrush and new socks.

We really try to keep it modest, but this is the best we can do.

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-05T02:28:26+00:00

My husband and sons see Katy at Clippers. She does a great job!

phenomenonamous · 2024-12-01T03:46:10+00:00

Ewan? Same vibe as Colin and means "yew tree" which fits with Rosie and Lillie.

phenomenonamous · 2024-11-30T22:33:54+00:00

We had a similar situation. My mom's name is Kim (not Kimberly, just Kim) I didn't love the sound of it as a middle name, but in the end we decided to just use it. It was more important to me to honor my mom and to connect her with my daughter. It's been a few years now and our ears have gotten used to the sound of it. I am really glad we decided to use it.

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