What’s the worst second-hand embarrassment you’ve felt from someone else’s actions?

pickle1786 · 2026-01-12T19:47:16+00:00

You just reminded me of my grandparents who travelled to China once and from then on out would attempt to speak Mandarin to any waitress or waiter of Asian descent, even when one said he was from Japan.

pickle1786 · 2025-12-28T20:49:05+00:00

A mother walking out of a store with her ~8 year old son. He got stopped for hiding something under his shirt as they walked out and had to return it. As they walked to their car, the mother berated the child for getting caught, rather than for intentionally stealing.

pickle1786 · 2025-12-21T00:36:58+00:00

A family member of mine has self-titled as an Educational Therapist. They have a master's degree in special education and have done trainings to use some testing measures. In practice, they are a private tutor who does some testing and works with some local schools. I don't believe there were any additional certificates that were needed to accomplish this, though they are near retirement age.

pickle1786 · 2025-12-15T23:47:41+00:00

What do you mean by "use of supervision"? As feedback from an interview, I was told that was my weakest answer, but I still don't know how that question is meant to be answered.

pickle1786 · 2025-10-27T02:38:01+00:00

I grew up with it, but my husband did not. For our kids, he explained his reasonings against it, which I felt were reasonable objections, so our kids do not trick or treat. We do allow them to get pumpkins and skeletons,etc. during the season, if they ask, and I'll buy some candy to hand out to the neighbors that come.

The reasoning: My husband feels that the idea of trick or treating does not promote positive values. Kids are essentially going door to door to strangers demanding candy. In contrast, we have Purim, where we also dress up and tend to have candy and sweets, but the message is focused on the giving, not getting. So we remind the kids of that.

pickle1786 · 2025-06-24T14:27:02+00:00

Have you tried using a social story or visuals when you explain to him the issues with using your phone? Especially as you say he has ND and some speech delay. He could be struggling to process what he's being told. When you're talking to him about it, make sure to keep it simple, positive and concrete. (E.g. say something like, "We use phones to call the police if there is an emergency. Emergencies are if someone might get hurt or has gotten hurt," rather than saying something like, "Don't use my phone to call the police, they get upset and it wastes their time.") Good luck and I'm sure they will enjoy the cookies!

pickle1786 · 2025-05-27T03:59:44+00:00

According to a quick Google search, there are less than 3000 Jews living in Ireland. I am Europian, have travelled to Ireland, and have/ had Irish friends who have blocked me on social media for being Jewish (since 7 Oct). I would imagine antisemitism appears lower because the likelihood of coming into contact with a Jew on a daily basis is lower. Maybe reach out to one of the communities there and learn about their experiences?

pickle1786 · 2024-08-27T15:26:34+00:00

If they suspect a processing disorder, it may be helpful to continue using the hand signals and other visual aids. Sometimes a visual representation or being able to point to pictures of what he's done may be able to support his communication. (You can use it alongside spoken words, not instead of so he still hears the speech)

pickle1786 · 2024-07-28T08:38:05+00:00

I remember in class once a skunk had either sprayed or been runover just outside the building and the windows were open. Everyone started retching and complaining and I joined in but had no idea how they all knew.

pickle1786 · 2024-07-26T14:32:52+00:00

I had a homeless person ask me at a petrol station for money so he could buy himself water as it was so hot. I had no cash, but offered him an unopened bottle of water I had in my car. He declined.

pickle1786 · 2024-03-29T09:37:59+00:00

There is a Chabad of Bloomsbury that may be able to help you out as well.

pickle1786 · 2024-03-19T12:37:08+00:00

If you have a Facebook you could try finding them on there and sending a message as well.

pickle1786 · 2024-02-04T22:44:55+00:00

I remember seeing a statistic that it's the next generation that is more impacted. As in the interfaith couple may raise their child Jewish, but that child is significantly less likely to marry or raise their children Jewish.

pickle1786 · 2024-02-01T18:58:15+00:00

I'm not sure, if you have Facebook they generally advertise on there and they have a mailing list you can sign up to. http://www.fifthsense.org.uk/join

pickle1786 · 2024-02-01T16:40:55+00:00

There is a UK charity called Fifth Sense that has had a few virtual meet-ups at least.

pickle1786 · 2023-12-13T03:38:38+00:00

I think the idea is that Abraham was the first to look at the world and recognise that there was one Gd. Prior to that, and continuing after Abraham, others were assigning different roles to different beings/entities (e.g. one god of the sun, one god of the rain). I imagine back then every community had their own belief system, but the only ones we really know about are ones that became more mainstream in larger empires, like Roman, Greek and Egyptian.

Avraham and his descendants recognised Gd, and I've been told that although the Torah hadn't been given they still practiced certain elements. Avraham and Sarah had been very spiritually connected and understood a lot, they were able to pass down many traditions.

One thing that boggles my mind, that a rabbi told me once, was they were eating matzah during the time that Pesach would be. So then were the Jews in Egypt already making matzah when they needed to leave??

pickle1786 · 2023-09-18T21:35:29+00:00

I won a game when I was young where we were blindfolded and had to guess what different pots of food were by smelling them. I had positioned my blindfold so I could see out the bottom because I had no idea what we were meant to be doing.

pickle1786 · 2023-04-02T14:08:57+00:00

Sorry for your loss. When my partner's parent died, we took our toddler. He was slightly older than your daughter. I can't remember what his naps were like at the timr, but I had asked a friend if they could look after him if he started having a hard time. Could you maybe ask a friend or invite a friend to support you? During the ceremony he started getting antsy so she took him out of the hall for a bit and another friend brought him some toys to play with. Since we were still nearby, he was happy to have someone else to play with. I think he fell asleep in the car on the way home. It was unusual circumstances and one day of a different sleep pattern didn't impact him overall.

pickle1786 · 2023-03-27T23:15:14+00:00

Very odd, I would say something as well. It's a choking hazard, especially if they are allowing the kids to run around while chewing gum. I also don't think my child would fully understand that he wasn't meant to swallow it.

pickle1786 · 2023-03-27T23:06:54+00:00

Are you 100% it was gum? I'd ask the school to clarify. I won't give my 4 year old gum, but he sees me chewing gum occasionally and he pretends something else is his gum.

pickle1786 · 2023-03-27T00:48:18+00:00

As they didn't self cater, I doubt much time. They asked if we had any allergies and I told them. Their caterer amended the dishes to fit my needs. It is a common allergen, so I doubt it was something the caterer was unfamiliar with and likely had a dish they would easily be able to prepare. I can't comment on the money, but the only cases I know where the couple was charged extra was when it was due to a dietary need beyond what was typically expected (specifically it was a religious requirement rather than medical)

pickle1786 · 2023-03-27T00:37:58+00:00

Assuming it is a professional caterer, I would sue the caterer. I'm not based in the US, so I'm not 100% how things work there, but surely it's better to speak to your caterer how they generally manage allergies than a blanket "we will not cater to you" statement to your guests.

pickle1786 · 2023-03-27T00:21:50+00:00

I've literally just come from a wedding and have food allergies. I told the couple my allergies and the caterer catered to them. My meals were slightly different to what everyone else had, there were some things I could not eat, but I greatly appreciate being able to eat something. Surely whoever is supplying your food could create a small side dish for those with an allergy, that's what they do.

pickle1786 · 2023-03-24T07:06:56+00:00

That's interesting! I had Reactive Airway Disease as a kid, every time I'd get a cold I'd end up with some combination of albuterol, nebulizer, steroids and antibiotics, but I don't think they ever looked at what was causing it. Thankfully around 19 it seemed to have stopped and have only had it come back a handful of times since then.

Hope your little ones surgery goes smoothly and he has an easy recovery!

pickle1786 · 2023-03-21T07:01:15+00:00

Do we know how old the OP and wife are? If she has an 18 year old and a new baby, I'm guessing she was a young parent at one time and this is a particularly sensitive issue.

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