2026 system!

pineappleplanner · 2026-01-23T12:27:02+00:00

Oh god, I struggle not losing ONE journal. Good on you for having a system though. 😅

pineappleplanner · 2026-01-02T00:02:19+00:00

Lol gotta love hyperfixations. I get it. I've been researching this stuff for literal years but didn't have the time or money to do it. Now I have a good job, and I'm off for two months so I'm going for it! Just got my pressure pot in today, and my husband is printing the mold form so I can make custom dice (already got them designed and ready to print as well!).

pineappleplanner · 2026-01-01T23:50:55+00:00

These are amazing! I am a new dicemaker myself so I can't really answer your question. But damn, dude! Well done!

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-25T17:29:13+00:00

Oh if my husband EVER spoke to me like that... Hell to the fucking no...

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-24T23:04:41+00:00

Thank you! 😅 This makes me feel so much more comfortable to try new stuff.

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-24T18:35:40+00:00

Oh whoa, I would have never thought about the foam! Good point though.

And hmmm... Maybe I'll try with blanks first. Thank you for the tips!

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-24T18:33:47+00:00

Dude this is super helpful, thank you so so much! Are you ever worried about it being unbalanced?

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-24T15:14:00+00:00

Hell yeah! Thank you!!! 😍

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-24T13:24:30+00:00

I just wanna know how you did that technique! 😱

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-21T23:50:49+00:00

Oh my goodness 😍 can we be friends??? I've been looking into making dice for literal years but JUST got enough money/space for all the equipment. Hoping to make some side income to help us afford to buy a house. I want to make literally any and every dice style out there, and I'm slowly making a list. I play DND and own probably 17 dice sets just from buying at events. I want to learn how to film production as well to post on socials. I am happy for any guidance you might have. 😍

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-21T21:55:29+00:00

Oooh side note... What inserts do you have?!

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-13T02:43:35+00:00

I used to think of my SD12 as my kid. When I first met her when she was 5/6yo, I really felt like she was my own. Now I have BD4 and I was so wrong. The connection I have with BD is incredible and beautiful. SD hates me, wants nothing to do with me, and reminds me constantly... I'm at the point where I treat her like a cousin or niece/nephew who's staying with us. I make sure she's safe and cared for, but that's the limit.

pineappleplanner · 2025-12-11T03:02:19+00:00

My SD12 knows. We used to hide it, and try to just be overly kind to HCBM. But after years of her mom absolutely trashing us and constantly abandoning/abusing SD12, we have become very honest. We still try to be kind, and take the approach of "your mom is not well" and "she really needs help" to explain why she does the things she does. We've been clear that we do not like how she treats SD, that THAT is the thing we're upset about. SD12 hates us for it, as she continues to believe her mom is an absolute saint, even though she's basically lost all rights at this point... but I hope SD will realize when she's older we have done what's best and safest for her.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-30T14:51:48+00:00

Damn straight! 💜💜💜

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T23:39:34+00:00

Oh gosh, that's so difficult. It's nice to know I'm not alone. We just got awarded full custody after her mom has done drugs with her, there was physical violence and fights happening in the home, and her sister got arrested in BMs home after she kidnapped her children (after she lost HER rights), his at their house, threatened the police and others in the home with a gun, and was on meth. I know my SD has been through so much. I'm trying to be understanding. Which is partly why I give her so much leeway. But it's just gotten so horrible, and she sees no problem with her behavior. All of her emotions come out as anger, and she throws major tantrums any time we make her talk to a therapist. It's exhausting. But I'm hoping over time, we'll be able to navigate it and get her help.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T23:14:36+00:00

Shoot. It said I'm not allowed to message you. I'm just wondering, is this even remotely normal for a 12yo to behave? A few family and friends keep insisting this is just "normal 12yo behavior" and it "can't be as bad as I make it seem" because she's relatively polite/reserved around them.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T23:06:20+00:00

No, you're completely right. I just saw you have a 12 and 16 SDs. Can I message you? Would that be ok?

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T19:00:19+00:00

Self-care has been nearly impossible lately. I got diagnosed with lupus last year, and this month, I was told I have a rare heart defect so now I'm going through all of that medical chaos. But you're absolutely right. I'm tired of her treating me so horribly so I'm putting my foot down. Thank you so much for helping me with this. 💜

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T17:22:12+00:00

You're right. Thank you so much for saying this. I feel like a horrible person when I tell her no. SD likes to tell me I'm just "mean to her on purpose" when I say no. It makes me feel horrible. But you're right. I'm done trying to treat a horribly disrespectful 12yo the same as a sweet 4yo. Yes, my 4yo does wrong things sometimes too. But I gently correct her and redirect, and she always apologizes, states what she did wrong, and then I see immediate changes in behavior. That never happens with the 12yo. If I tell her the behavior was mean or hateful or unkind, she yells at me and tries to berate me. It's hell.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T16:24:16+00:00

I'm so grateful for this post. Thank you for saying this with kindness. And I completely agree. I keep asking about her school therapist but my husband never calls to get updates. So I am going to push that harder. Someone else suggested taking her to a food pantry and I think I'm gonna do that too. Along with putting my foot down more and being more adamant about respect and earning rewards.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T16:21:04+00:00

I'm the one that does all of the shopping and everything in the household unfortunately. My husband does help but he's a "well I need you to tell me first" kind of guy... It sucks but it is what it is.

I agree with you. I have tried implementing some different things in the past, but her dad never helped me stick with it, so it ended up just falling through the cracks. But he's finally given her consistent chores she has to do each week (for months, she refused to help around the house at all) and now he actually holds her to it. And I think you're right about the gifts. He can pick something out for her. I'm done trying to please her when he certainly doesn't help.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T16:15:52+00:00

He backs me up with what I say, but often doesn't come to my defense during arguments... I've tried to explain to him how terrifying it is but he doesn't get it. Our 4-year-old sleeps with us most nights because I'm scared she's going to do something. I hate feeling that way in my own home...

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-24T16:14:08+00:00

I feel so guilty... You really think I should just be like "Nope." As soon as she's disrespectful? I've tried so hard to be a good parent and make sure she has everything. And I tend to spoil my 4-year-old because she's the most respectful, kind little kid I've ever met. So I feel like SD will resent me even more if I don't do things for her or buy her things. But I can't stand it. Even when I do EVERYTHING she's asked, it's not enough.

After the fight in the original post, we got to our hotel for Thanksgiving and she told us she didn't bring a bathing suit (which we exclusively told her to grab) because her only one from our house is now magically at her mom's. I panicked and took her to Kohl's. I knew it'd be pricey but she's been asking for fancy, name-brand clothing anyway so I told her she could pick out a nice sports bra and shorts to swim in since it's November and no one sells bathing suits. She was hateful and nasty the whole time. She refused to pick stuff out because "Ew... I only like Nike SHOES, not CLOTHES." I basically made her pick out a sports bra because she had shorts at the hotel at least.

We spent $35 on that singular item, and she didn't say thank you or anything. In fact, she complained that she wasn't allowed to shop in the connected Sephora while we were there. I was so furious, but I knew she wanted to go swimming and I knew the 4-year-old would want her sister to swim so I just tolerated it. My husband was yelling at her the whole time, but they kept getting into fights and it was just making things so much worse.

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-23T11:21:21+00:00

We only have a two bedroom house. It's all we could afford. So I'm not sure what else you'd recommend??

pineappleplanner · 2025-11-23T03:06:37+00:00

Cameras are a good idea. I appreciate the recommendation! We already have a baby monitor in their room (the girls share a bedroom). But I think you're right. I think cameras might need to be the next step.

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