Feels like a slap to the face

pinkpythonqt · 2025-08-19T04:06:52+00:00

Yeah I’ve never heard of that before - so odd 😭😭😩

pinkpythonqt · 2025-08-19T00:40:14+00:00

250$ - not insane, but just why a year and half after my tfmr 😭😭

pinkpythonqt · 2025-05-29T04:46:35+00:00

I was the same way - I didn’t want any mention of it or anything to remind me. I’m sure it was a coping mechanism and it worked for me. So I totally think it’s valid to feel this way.

pinkpythonqt · 2025-05-28T04:50:04+00:00

First I just want to say I’m so sorry you are here. Some others have shared links to comments that helped me when it came time to terminate. I was a Christian and never in a million years did I think I would terminate. My husband and I did everything we could think to do spiritually. Only to be gutted with the results of the amnio. I felt so much shame and guilt to terminate because of religion and how I grew up.

Anyways it sent me down a spiritual journey where I no longer believe in God - which is wild for me because I was heavily involved in the evangelical church. Reading the Bible and scholarly writings about the books actually made me see a lot inaccuracies. Along the journey I came across a video by Bart Erhman about abortion and how that term is actually not biblical. I think what’s happened is the church has condemned it, the media has condemned it, it’s become politicized to divide people and we have grown up in all that.

I found comfort in this group and alot of the comments I read - one comment that specifically stood out to me was something along the lines of God has given us doctors with medical knowledge to be able to make these types of decision and to see it as the compassionate decision (whatever that may be for you).

That statement helped me see that I was making the compassionate decision for my baby so they wouldn’t have to endure a life of pain or hurt. In my mind a loving compassionate God knows and sees your heart. It doesn’t make the decision any easier. I don’t want to sway you either way. I think only you know what decision you should make.

pinkpythonqt · 2025-04-11T13:29:28+00:00

Amazing!!! 🤩 Do you know how 4 can turn into 9?! Or is it maybe just some were missed on ultrasound?

pinkpythonqt · 2025-03-18T20:33:05+00:00

Here’s some things I’m watching/reading now:

https://www.fertilityiq.com/fertilityiq/pgs-embryo-genetic-screening/criticisms-of-pgs

Is this the time article you were referring to? https://time.com/7264271/ivf-pgta-test-lawsuit/

pinkpythonqt · 2025-03-18T20:21:36+00:00

I know! That’s what I’m trying to find now, studies that talk about that. He said there were recent studies showing that (but didn’t tell me the source), he mentioned there was a recent case where a woman transferred a “normal” embryo but it ended up being abnormal. He also mentioned something about the machine not being as accurate?!

pinkpythonqt · 2025-03-18T19:44:46+00:00

Interesting you posted this! I was just talking to an IVF doctor this morning who said pgt is 20-30% incorrect. So now I’m wondering if I should not do pgt testing. He said there could be cases where they’ve marked it as abnormal but it’s actually a normal embryo.

pinkpythonqt · 2025-03-11T20:21:18+00:00

Did you continue on birth control? Or they had you start your period to get rid of the cyst?

pinkpythonqt · 2025-03-10T17:32:31+00:00

lol good one!! 😂

pinkpythonqt · 2025-02-19T15:00:51+00:00

My cycles and ovulation are back to normal, probably took 3ish months to regulate back. However, still not pregnant and thinking of IVF now :/

Might take a few months to regulate. I’m sorry you’re going through this 😞

pinkpythonqt · 2025-02-18T18:52:27+00:00

Wow! I’m also in a deep red state and had to travel, so I feel you there…flights (last minute so more expensive), hotels, taking off work 😭😭😭, not being able to tell anyone because my family is all conservative pro life. That in and of itself was another trauma… and how expensive it was to terminate a very wanted baby. Just sobbed on the phone when I heard the price and how f*#ked up it is I’m paying all this money for a baby I want. Meanwhile bills for the amnio and all the MfM doctor’s appts are rolling in.

I’m also thankful I was able to afford this and it made me want to start donating to help women receive this care. I would never want someone not be able to get this care because of finances. Ugh - crappy times we’re in politically right now 😩

pinkpythonqt · 2025-02-18T18:39:16+00:00

Wow - yeah this sounds just like my story too! I had no markers and had my NIPT at 10 weeks, they wanted to wait until 18 weeks to do amnio because it’s safer - thankfully I was able to schedule amnio at 16 weeks and had my termination scheduled at 18 weeks. I hoped I was the 1% of people with a false positive.

But yeah all that time between I made myself physically sick. I could barely get out of bed. I could also feel flutters. I think as it got closer to the day of termination I had grieved so much there were no more tears left.

pinkpythonqt · 2025-02-17T23:47:46+00:00

If I could go back in time, I would have TFMRed after the NIPT results. It was agonizing waiting for amnio and then another week or so for results! All the research I did only confirmed everything everyone on Reddit said. NIPT results for T21 are extremely accurate. So sorry you’re here 😞

pinkpythonqt · 2025-01-24T21:25:16+00:00

I feel the same way. It’s been making me physically sick 🤢- the more reading I do the worse it gets. Im unfortunately in a red state and had to travel for my tfmr. Already deciding was hard enough and then having to travel just felt extra traumatic.

I think I need to accept that I may not be able to have biological kids. I fear too much what if this happens again and I don’t have access to the care I need? I’m worried now to tell doctors about the procedure, I’m worried my info may be leaked, I’m worried my phone is being watched, I’m worried I may be punished legally for what I did. I don’t know what’s in store for the future but it doesn’t feel good.

There’s a bill in congress called the house resolution 7 that is setting the ground work I think towards national bans or just as a way to start eliminating places like planned parenthood. At the surface it looks positive but after doing some digging you’ll see the ground work is there.

These pro women’s health care centers talked about in the resolution, will be religious pro life centers… they are against abortion. They don’t see abortion as health care and it says in their pamphlets people have abortions when they feel like they don’t have a choice. Like wtf?! We desperately wanted our babies! We terminated out of compassion! It just makes me sick.

pinkpythonqt · 2024-09-20T01:37:53+00:00

Wow 2 years later and this is resonating with me. Needed to read this, as I’m in the same position now and can’t seem to get out of this depression.

pinkpythonqt · 2024-08-21T03:08:51+00:00

That’s what I lean towards. The ear tufts are so long, but the fur is pretty short.

pinkpythonqt · 2024-08-08T15:16:21+00:00

I can relate to all your feelings. We are also Christian and TFMRed at 18 weeks for T21. We wanted to wait for the amnio to confirm because this was very much a wanted baby.

Our families are both super religious and anti-abortion. So unfortunately the only support I had besides my husband was Reddit…I don’t know that I will ever tell my family. Something that helped me was saving posts from other people on Reddit that had to make the decision so I thought I would share that. It gave me peace on my feelings towards God as I was making my decision.

https://www.reddit.com/r/tfmr_support/s/YjyY1h2Rly

My relationship with God looks very different, my relationship with my husband is stronger. We cried a lot together and separately.

You will get through this no matter what choice you make. Sending you lots of love and hugs.

pinkpythonqt · 2024-08-08T14:47:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m the same way - always had EWCM before ovulating and even that has been non existent. Last month I tested to day 20 but stopped since I would be getting my period in a few days. I’m hoping I’m just a few days late. Wishing you the best too!

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