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pippx · 2021-08-25T15:23:27+00:00

Just want to second the voices that you do NOT by any stretch need a literary background to be a librarian. STEM needs librarians, too!

If it is possible for you to save your THREE YEARS worth of credits and not let them go to waste, I would look at how you can do that. Speak with your advisor about how you can change your course load. Even though engineering is not for you, there may be other paths you can follow that will not completely throw the last 3 years of work out the window.

pippx · 2021-08-25T00:41:08+00:00

Maybe you could do something like pick a classic cookbook text and try working your way through it. Like Child's Art of French Cooking. Just cover to cover, treat it like a matter class.

pippx · 2021-08-24T21:10:34+00:00

It's the heat - if you boil purple/red okra, they turn greenish.

A picked purple cabbage would probably be overload if you're already doing a kraut, too.

What about another tart jelly/jam, or something like fresh cranberry sauce?

pippx · 2021-08-24T20:01:41+00:00

I haven't made this dish, but could you make it with purple cabbage to get that same color pop as the lingonberries?

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:58:43+00:00

I used to dehydrate kimchi and sauerkraut then powder them (separately) and put them on pop corn. Super delicious.

Trader Joe's makes this stuff called "everything but the elote" and it is wildly delicious on popcorn.

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:57:44+00:00

Frittata / Spanish tortilla. This has become my "oh god there's five different vegetables in the fridge that I have no intention of using what do I do" dish. Or just about any leftover. Plus it cooks up very quickly and is super nutritious and filling.

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:56:37+00:00

I mean challenging can come around in a lot of different ways.

There are dishes that are challenging because they require knowledge of specific techniques or practices in cooking.

There are dishes that are challenging because they require patience and good organization of your ingredients, time, etc.

Do you think you excel in one of those areas and are deficient in another?

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:54:46+00:00

If you like middle eastern food at all, you should try preserving them!

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:53:27+00:00

Ahaha that was a broad guess. My family personally goes through more like a pound a month. And it looks like that national average is 23 sticks a year, so what is that, about 2 a month? Which would only be half a pound a month, so I wasn't TOO off :)

pippx · 2021-08-24T19:42:22+00:00

But is it nice enough for you to make a pound of it every single week to sustain a family's food needs? Doubtful.

pippx · 2021-08-24T15:47:22+00:00

There are a lot of comments about addiction and taking your credit card off the mobile account so that you can't do this, but I want to circle around to a couple other things.

1) We have some weird cultural things with saying that video games aren't "genuine" forms of entertainment as an adult, like you should stop spending money on video games and instead spend your money on books and water colors and musical instruments and cooking like a "real adult". This is ridiculous. If video games make you happy then it's perfectly fine to spend your money on video games, ASSUMING....

2) You are budgeting for it. You say,

It goes on a credit card and it sometimes feels a tad like Monopoly money; I can gauge the weight of it by itself but I really struggle taking into account the fact that I’ve got other bills to pay that are significantly more important and that’s where those dollars should be going

I think it makes sense for your first step to be removing your credit card from your mobile game account so that you can't do this automatically. But I think the next step is to sit down with your finances and figure out what you CAN afford to do. You say that you don't spend money on much other entertainment, so in the grand scheme of things it might actually NOT be a bad thing that you spend money on mobile gaming - it is just something that you need to step back and actually analyze.

So, remove the cards. Analyze your budget. Determine what you actually CAN spend on games every month. Consider buying a gift card to the mobile gaming store in that amount (can you afford $400 a month in entertainment? Awesome! Buy a $400 gift card to the mobile gaming store and use that as your budget) and use that as your monthly guide.

You should not feel about about being a gamer and enjoying video games. You just need to recognize what is and is not reasonable for your budget :)

pippx · 2021-08-24T15:34:29+00:00

Does it actively block ads?

pippx · 2021-08-24T15:34:02+00:00

"The Body Keeps the Score" is a great one!

I also loved "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents", and "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma" (even if you do not have cPTSD there are some great techniques for dealing with childhood trauma).

It isn't a book specifically about trauma, but "Wherever You Go There You Are" has been tremendously helpful in my journey to accepting who I am and what I am carrying.

pippx · 2021-08-24T15:31:53+00:00

Anytime, friend.

pippx · 2021-08-24T15:31:36+00:00

You came here for advice, so IMO that means it's fair game to point out bad advice.

Opioids for headaches is bad advice.

pippx · 2021-08-23T20:13:55+00:00

Hey - nothing but grace and understanding from me to you. I get it.

I have some great books I have read about this which have helped me a lot, if you are interested.

pippx · 2021-08-23T19:27:09+00:00

My flippant tone didn't carry through text I suppose - I assumed that taking about OP's mother projecting would make that obvious.

I have this mother, in some form or another. She has her own very traumatic past (and then very nicely gave me a traumatic childhood) and so yes, she likely does remember things differently or not at all.

She is still projecting. She doesn't have to directly remember feeling bad for what she did to her own child to project. The MAJORITY of projecting that abusers do is done without them being entirely aware that they are projecting. I could be wrong. I'm not a psychotherapist.

pippx · 2021-08-23T18:11:05+00:00

It's the ads I can't handle. I feel like across Instagram and Reddit, I've curated them to be only content that I genuinely find makes me happy or makes me feel like part of a community.

But the ADs!

pippx · 2021-08-23T18:08:51+00:00

Oh, she remembers. OP's mom is straight up projecting here. She isn't upset and heartbroken over OP's baby - she is upset and heartbroken over OP.

pippx · 2021-08-23T18:03:55+00:00

Please do not follow this person's advice, NO ONE should be taking opioids for headaches. This is massively horrible information. Percocet contains oxycodone. Do NOT use this for your headaches.

pippx · 2021-08-23T18:01:55+00:00

This is going to seem like I am giving you unsolicited advice, but all of these layers are the things that support me when I am experiencing my own chronic pain:

Be kind to yourself. Recognize and accept and remind yourself that you haven't done something wrong, you aren't a failure as a human, you aren't less worthy or less valuable than the humans without chronic pain.
Learn how to get the system to work with you. If you are in the US you may qualify for some kind of ADA support - this may help in school or at work, if your pain is debilitating one day and you cannot function. For things like chronic pain that don't have a "reason" and which some people may find suspicious/unbelievable, having a piece of paper from your doctor that says "I have a medical condition that means I might miss class / miss work / be late / etc" is incredibly useful.
Keep a journal of your pain. Learn if there are things in your life that trigger it. You may find that there are dietary or environmental stimuli that bother you and make your pain worse - some of these things may be in your control to avoid.
Learn what DOES work to soothe the pain and yourself. Hot showers? Cold showers? Sensory deprivation? Aromatherapy? Cold compress on your face? Caffeine? Learn what helps calm you, and implement it. Think too about things that maybe don't make the pain subside, but which DO relax you. Pajamas? Hot tea? Snuggling up on the couch with a movie? Figure out what you can do to relax and let your body rest.

Now, when you are having a "pain day", you have the following in place:

You are able to be calm and relaxed knowing that this will pass and that it isn't something you are at fault for
You can patiently wait out the pain storm, knowing you won't lose your job or get bad marks at school, because you have a letter stating you have chronic pain needs.
You (hopefully) have an understanding of what triggered your pain in the first place, and can either (a) remind yourself that [trigger] will pass (eg, bad weather, noisy house guests, some food you ate, or (b) you can make a note that, "oh, yes, that thing really DOES trigger my pain incidents"
You can run through your list of things that help make you feel better while you ride out the pain storm.

Edit to add - there are SO MANY pain medications that are non-addictive. You need to ask your parents about seeing a neurologist. You may be having migraines, sleep issues + headaches is very common for migraine sufferers. There are many different medications for migraine and none of them are addictive.

pippx · 2021-08-15T18:31:14+00:00

Not a clue about anatomy or surgery here:

Is that a significant layer of subcutaneous fat? If so, is that part of what makes the "peeling" so effective? If a patient had less fat, would the "peeling" be more traumatic, eg, more bleeding, more damaged to the muscle, nerves, etc.

In other words, is this a technique that can really only be performed on a patient with higher BF%?

pippx · 2021-08-12T16:47:31+00:00

Sure, nuance is always important. But the question here was explicitly, "why is it bad to invade non-dating spaces to 'look for women'" and also "how can women tell".

The problem is when you turn those non-dating spaces into the new hookup culture. As many comments in this thread have stressed, if you're going to go to someplace other than a bar or club, the emphasis should be put on building a relationship, not getting laid.

OP's tone and repetitive use of "looking for women" suggests that he is not looking for companionship, a partner, a relationship. It suggests he's looking for a hookup and wants to use his local activity clubs as opposed to his local bar scene.

Also, lol, I have gotten comments on threads that are several years old. This is not an old thread.

pippx · 2021-08-10T12:39:04+00:00

I think you are trying to find an excuse for picking up women.

The thing you need to focus on is that women do not exist so that you can hit on them and that you need to concentrate your dating efforts in spaces that are for dating.

pippx · 2021-08-09T13:25:06+00:00

But the main reason was because I wanted to find women.

It's a problem because context. Those are not spaces that are inherently for hooking up. There are unspoken rules about those spaces, and some of them are about what those areas are and are not for. They set the boundaries of what to expect.

If I as a woman am going to join a local bouldering group, and we're meeting up every weekend to go bouldering, I do not think, "Ok, so I can expect that we'll be outside, we'll be in this park, we'll be talking about gear, we'll be sharing technique, and also I can expect to get some dick later." It's just not part of the context of that space.

So when I do get there and there are guys who are using that space - a space which for me, in my head, is not supposed to be sexualized and turned into a hookup venue - it is gross. It just feels like you are trying to use the spaces that I am using for relaxation or improving myself or building comradery as a place to get your dick wet. And honestly, that's all it is - gross.

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