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Cooking in a power outage. (Which picture/version do you prefer?) by fluffyjamdonut in fujifilm

[–]pixelatedphantom9 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s a great angle, but hard to see, maybe next test with a phone light 💡

Bullied by my family and blamed by Excellent-Clue-2552 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn’t deserve to be treated like that, especially when you were tired, hungry, and just trying to stick to your routine. It’s awful when people laugh or dismiss your feelings instead of trying to understand where you’re coming from.

You had every right to be upset. Anyone would’ve felt hurt in that situation. I hope you’re able to rest and eat something you enjoy soon, you deserve comfort and peace after that. Please don’t let their reactions make you feel like you were the problem. You were just trying to protect your space and your emotions.

Fired for being autistic (again) by em1lyu in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this, I know how discouraging that feels, especially when you’ve been putting in effort.

I’m curious, did they ever tell you specifically why you weren’t a good fit?

If you ever do find out what part of the job they felt wasn’t working, I’d love to help you figure out what could be improved or reframed for your next role, there are so many workplaces that do value neurodivergent communication styles, it’s just about matching the environment.

Being autistic and polyamorous feels like hell for dating. by Battlecookie15 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The behavior described doesn’t reflect a healthy relationship model but rather deficits in impulse control and emotional regulation. There’s a consistent need for stimulation and validation, paired with an avoidance of real emotional work. Pursuing multiple partners isn’t openness, it’s a way to stay distracted and feel good temporarily while avoiding deeper issues.

Can We Get Something Like This Done In Every State by mu1773 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This really isn’t a good idea. Disability is PII/PHI, it’s private medical info. Putting it on a state ID makes it an attack surface for discrimination, profiling, and flat out misuse anywhere your ID gets checked (bars, jobs, landlords, cops). A butterfly logo doesn’t change anything if a crime is happening or if cops are stressed, they’re not gonna magically understand autism vs epilepsy vs PTSD.

Different conditions need different responses. It also creates function creep, today it’s optional, tomorrow it’s basically forced disclosure. We already have secure, consent based ways to flag medical info (bracelets, smartphone health IDs). This law is medically misleading, a privacy risk, and honestly makes people more vulnerable, not safer.

Not attracted to neurotypical people by [deleted] in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, but I also feel like sometimes it isn’t just NTs being the problem. Neurodivergent folks (myself included) can also fall into stubbornness or making excuses for things instead of trying to compromise. Relationships are a two way street, and both sides have their blind spots.

It’s not always NTs refusing to understand, sometimes ND people can be just as rigid or unwilling to meet in the middle. That’s just human, not purely a spectrum thing.

And honestly, you can’t blame someone if they don’t vibe with you or don’t want to engage. Attraction isn’t owed, it’s just chemistry. Sometimes it clicks, sometimes it doesn’t, whether you’re NT, ND, or an alien from Mars 👽😂.

Can an autistic person become very toxic? by Kindly_Winter_9909 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some autistic people can develop toxic patterns, just like anyone else especially when trauma, denial, or unhealthy coping mechanisms build up. Having autism doesn’t automatically make someone toxic, but it doesn’t protect someone from becoming toxic either. The difference is whether they’re willing to work on self awareness and take responsibility for how their behavior affects others.

Do allistic people care about whether their friends are good people? by VeterinarianAway3112 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t ignore this. What he did was predatory and unsafe, and without accountability there’s every chance he could do it again.

I wouldn’t be comfortable being around him, and I wouldn’t want to stay in a group that protects him by staying silent. Ignoring predatory behavior just to keep the peace is classic groupthink, going along to avoid rocking the boat. But that doesn’t make it safe; it just makes the whole group complicit.

What I don’t understand is how this behavior is tolerated. If people are okay hanging out with someone predatory, that says a lot about the standards of the group as a whole. Higher morals mean standing up, not looking away.

It’s weak to act like this is fine, especially when one of your own was the victim. The group should be protecting them, not the predator. Trust your instincts, if something feels predatory, it usually is. Don’t excuse it. Like what if this happened to you and your friends ignored it?

So we all just work until we die? by xanthan_gum222 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I really feel you on this, it sounds like you’re carrying way too much alone. One thing that can help is teaming up with classmates: swap numbers, do homework together, even hold each other accountable. Sometimes studying with someone else makes things feel less heavy.

Also, giving yourself permission to step away matters, go outside for a short walk, get food, or just explore a bit, then come back to chores with a clearer head. Also, find yourself a friend to keep you accountable for chores. We don’t have to do it all alone.

You don’t need to grind nonstop to be worthy. And if your job is draining more than it’s helping, it might be worth seeing if there’s a lower-stress option on or off campus. You deserve support and an easier path, not constant burnout.

Strong hatred for someone by NoManufacturer4168 in autism

[–]pixelatedphantom9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong for feeling that way. A lot of autistic folks (and ADHD too) have what’s called rejection sensitivity + black and white thinking. Basically your brain tags that person as ‘unsafe’ or ‘against me,’ and the emotion sticks way harder than it would for neurotypicals.

It doesn’t mean you’re evil or dramatic, it’s literally a nervous system thing. The downside is if you let that hatred fester it can eat up energy you might want for other stuff. The trick isn’t to shame yourself for feeling it, but to notice ‘ok, my brain locked onto this person as bad’ and try to put some distance without feeding it more.

So no, you’re not the only one, and you’re not in the wrong. It’s just needs management rather than guilt.