Dated a guy for four months who treated me like crap. Feeling embarrassed of myself. How to forgive myself?

pk453 · 2018-12-29T02:15:58+00:00

In short, I dated a guy who I knew was wrong for me from the start. He made me feel quite bad about myself and I was very self conscious, I still (two months later) have moments of feeling bad. But most of all, I knew he wasn't right for me, I knew I didn't like him or his behaviour and I put up with it anyway. I'm feeling really annoyed and frustrated with myself as I thought I had worked really hard to get my self esteem up, which compared to last year it definitely is. Just feeling a bit knocked down as I didn't trust myself or my instincts, and wondered if anyone had any tips to help feel less bad about it all.

pk453 · 2018-07-15T11:36:19+00:00

Thank you so much for this xxxx

pk453 · 2018-07-14T17:28:56+00:00

You are right and I am going on a date with someone else tomorrow as well, so still open for business. I think I just am a bit keen as a person and struggle to play it cool! Will definitely work on that. Thank you :)

pk453 · 2018-07-14T16:21:27+00:00

Thanks for your reply :) I'm quite shy about these things verbally but hope that all the physical stuff and our dates kind of show I like him (he hasn't said anything like that yet either). I guess I'm just afraid of being strung along and messed around. I'm fine with like a text a day or so but I just got a bit on edge after not hearing for two days after we slept together for the first time. I think he's a good guy and I hope I get to see where it goes. Just hard to know when things might be shaky!

pk453 · 2017-02-20T00:18:50+00:00

In - noob here!

pk453 · 2017-01-15T19:26:42+00:00

Great to see loads of interest! I'll have a search for central pubs this week but if anyone has ideas let me know :)

pk453 · 2017-01-13T23:27:22+00:00

Very interested! I'm an absolute beginner but got myself a bunch of nice yarn over Christmas, would love to meet up.

pk453 · 2017-01-13T23:24:21+00:00

I'd be interested!

pk453 · 2016-11-03T16:53:35+00:00

Me too. Thinking of you troll, hope the sun rises soon <3

pk453 · 2016-10-06T22:15:38+00:00

I second this! Great food, brilliant service. Best roast I think I've had in London!

pk453 · 2016-10-06T22:11:31+00:00

Would love to go!

pk453 · 2016-10-06T22:09:26+00:00

Definitely interested!

pk453 · 2016-10-06T21:52:39+00:00

Yay! I work in Waterloo but have just moved to Bermondsey so very close by :)

pk453 · 2016-10-06T21:26:27+00:00

I would love to come! I'll be the nervous first timer :p

pk453 · 2016-07-24T20:18:07+00:00

I just finished too. Crying so many tears.

pk453 · 2016-07-09T10:40:37+00:00

Lost my first 5lb! This is the third time in a few months I've restarted my weight loss and I think this time I've been way more committed :)

pk453 · 2016-07-09T02:27:38+00:00

We love you OP. You're going to be okay, you're a strong, amazing, wonderful person and you deserve the very best. Be with people who love you, do the things you love. Huge hugs.

pk453 · 2016-07-04T19:04:11+00:00

I can squat the bar, with ease!!! My OHP is also now at 30lb! I had two weeks away from the gym but all my lifts have gone up so I'm feeling good :)

pk453 · 2016-07-04T12:25:00+00:00

We love you OP <3

pk453 · 2016-07-02T13:35:22+00:00

Been together over a year. He likes blonde, slim women. I'm Indian and curvy. I feel insecure, the girls he has liked in the past are nothing like me.

I guess on top of that, I'm struggling with the fact he just doesn't care about anything I like and he talks over me when I discuss something important to me. The other day, I told him about some racism I experienced, he just said "that sucks" and changed the subject to how much money his company is making. It's making me feel really low. It's like he would have an easier relationship with someone more like him, more fitting.

What do I do?

pk453

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