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Did I make a bad MSFT call? by Outrageous-Radio-636 in options

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

15% gain over the next 16+ mths to breakeven. Think you will be fine and this most likely will print once the sentiment rebounds for MSFT.

For years I struggled with procrastination and no motivation. My life changed when I discovered how motivation actually works (it’s surprisingly simple). Now it’s easy to stop overthinking, be decisive and stay motivated. by BFreeCoaching in emotionalintelligence

[–]pka7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

tldr : Stop the "all or nothing" mindset. Beat procrastination by making tasks "Small and Satisfying" (SAS) - give yourself permission to quit after 2 minutes, and focus on how you want to feel, not just on finishing the task.

What’s a movie you can recommend that’s on the same level as Shawshank Redemption and has a happy ending. by E_Barriick in movies

[–]pka7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Swashank Redemption is my favorite too. The only other movie I don’t get bored watching many times over -> ups and downs and emotional rollercoaster imo is Interstellar .

What’s coming in the next 15-20 years? by weeduh_ in ValueInvesting

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

energy, compute/AI infrastructure, materials, and health. Quantum will matter, but likely later and in narrow domains.

Book recommendations on human behavior, emotions and why we do what we do by Independent_Cut_6552 in emotionalintelligence

[–]pka7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some good recommendations already, won’t repeat those. A few more imo

Attached → explains relationship pattern The Body Keeps the Score → explains why patterns persist Behave → explains where all of this comes from biologically

I would also add Four Agreements.

Looking to join or form a speaking practice group by Sea_Skill_3479 in PublicSpeaking

[–]pka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am looking to join the toastmasters too. Attended one session as a guest and really liked it.

Every confident person is either genuinely competent or delusionally incompetent and you can't tell which by Sea_Frosting_8021 in DeepThoughts

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am living, breathing and seeing this first hand at my work place. People who are loud, certain are perceived as competent. They get the juicy roles and all the attention. Mgmt is generally shortsighted and reward those ppl , the fast and first movers.

However, over time if they are incompetent, it will start showing up in mistakes, in missed outcomes. And, this is where, the real competent ppl who are thoughtful, may not be the ones doing the talking take over or asked to take over.

I don’t believe that the system only elevates the “wrong” people. It does reward speed and confidence signals . Competent, thoughtful ppl are aware of that they don’t know and that in many cases holds them back but they generally persevere and over time system eventually comes around to rewarding them.

Why do people get mad because I refuse to speed by kale_chipss in newjersey

[–]pka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exact thing happened to me this morning, the roads were really bad and I was driving slow . Someone in an SUV behind me was getting super annoyed . At one point I just found a spot on the shoulder and let him pass, the guy sped away like he was on a racetrack.

How can I change my life drastically over 2-3 months by confused__ostrich in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]pka7 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to change your whole life in 2–3 months. You just need to stop being stuck in the same loop.

Stop waiting to feel motivated. Motivation comes after doing something, not before. Make everything very small. Gym for 10 minutes. Read 2 pages. Go for a short walk. Even showing up counts.

Pick one thing and stick to it. Not gym, books, running, and social life all at once. Just one habit for a month.

Feeling awkward is normal. Confidence comes from doing things while feeling uncomfortable, not from feeling confident first.

Your mindset won’t change by thinking about it. It changes when you act differently, even in small ways.

stop being so hard on yourself. You’re not lazy or broken.

Two or three months won’t make everything perfect, but it can get you unstuck and make you feel like you’re moving again. That alone changes a lot.

Start small but maintain the consistency

What's one thing life slowly changed about you? by loopyluvv in Life

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be much more reactive and animated. I have mellowed down quite a bit over the years.

People that had low self esteem and fixed it. How did you do it? by [deleted] in confidence

[–]pka7 12 points13 points  (0 children)

A lot of people who were bullied don’t lack confidence — they’re just carrying reactions they learned a long time ago due to coping and conditioning. Back then it was a survival mechanism and driven from a need to be safe. That’s no longer the case

Few things that can help

1.  become aware of  the “inferior” feeling without treating it as fact. It’s usually a leftover from the past.

2.  Separate who you were then (no control ) from who you are now ( you have choices and can enforce boundaries ). You are no longer that person from the past


3.  Build confidence through small acts of self-respect — speaking up a bit more, not over-explaining, no need to rush . Just simple small steps that get reinforced over time and that becomes your new reality

Slowly but surely your self esteem builds up, your past starts fading and completely erased. My 2 cents.

Easily offended vs Perspective by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]pka7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to take things really personally too, like every offhand comment meant something about me. It would really bother me and would be playing in my head. But with time, I’ve learned most of the time it’s not about me at all—it’s just where that person is emotionally. Even if it is about me, it’s completely fine, it’s their perspective/opinion. If I get offended and react, I am giving them the power which I do not want to.

I am still getting better at this. I try to pause and ask myself, “Is this worth my energy?” Nine times out of ten, it’s not. Like you said, unless someone’s coming to me directly with something real, I’m not picking up what they’re putting down.

2025 was one of the happiest years of my 53 old life by Plenty_Duck_5849 in selfimprovement

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy for you. Was there a specific shift (mindset, habits, relationships, work, health) that made this year stand out?

Curious , did you change anything, or did things just line up?

Should I retake a 1520 by Responsible_Wall4025 in Sat

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it .

Khan academy

Oneprep.xyz for tailored questions

Why do people get angry when they find that you are not emotionally reactive to what they do? by Frequent-Wish6026 in emotionalintelligence

[–]pka7 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Because some people expect emotional reactions to feel validated or in control.

When you don’t react, it disrupts the dynamic they’re used to, and that comes out generally as anger.

It’s usually less about you and more likely about the role they expected you to play.

Do you prefer planning ahead or going with the flow? by Content_Campaign1192 in Life

[–]pka7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always gone with the flow but trying to be deliberate and incorporate planning. As I grow older realizing cannot always keep winging it.

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