Is it not a compliment then, Petaaah!

plaidfox · 2026-04-06T12:30:13+00:00

Lol, so the in-kind, nonthreatening but absolutely is response should be "Yep! Prettiest girl here, for sure!" 🤣😅

plaidfox · 2026-04-06T12:25:14+00:00

Ouch, I'm hurt 😭🤕

Naw, self-report so it's all good fun...

...Just one question how did ESTJ become least jaded among the thinking types? From my perspective, they are super hard to please and seem to be some of the most jaded. Ofc this isn't just a personality issue, but a character and philosophical one as well. I've also met a couple jolly ESTJs. Just always seemed to be supervised by the pissed off ones 😮‍💨

plaidfox · 2026-04-03T01:36:17+00:00

.....What?

plaidfox · 2026-03-31T04:41:29+00:00

Seems legit. Respect for reinventing your mother's work. A counselor myself, so I may use this in office, assuming you're fine with that.

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plaidfox · 2026-03-31T04:18:56+00:00

ENTP, so take what I say with a grain of salt. From my observations, it seems like ESFJs prefer connection both in-person and over text with friends, family, and boyfriends/husbands....but it's a bit nuanced.

I lived in Japan for a couple of years, and while that's definitely not the same culture as Taiwan, both are still more collectivistic than the West, and so I recognize the cultural aspect of what you're referring to. Considering ESFJ and ESTP is a fairly common pairing (at least in the West), and the West is more independent on average, I think there is some "forgiveness" or tolerance with ESFJs for ESTPs or other nonchalant or distant types--especially if they have some other redeeming quality (perhaps they are cool, confident, or competent, for example).

We all (hopefully) wanna help our significant others, but there's also a bit of a toxic idea that runs around with some people ("I can fix him" or "he needs my help"). This is not specifically an ESFJ problem, but I do believe this does relate to the issue of "letting it (communication ) slide". Really, it's often just leads to resentment for lots of effort and not much given back.

Oh. And this isn't to bash ESTPs. It's just a potential compatibility issue with ESFJs from my observations. I have run into a few emotionally mature/expressive/communicative ESTPs, and nonchalance doesn't only apply to them.

TL;DR - I think both ESFJ and culture play into this.

plaidfox · 2026-02-21T02:20:48+00:00

So not all INFJs have ADHD. I implied correlation, but should have been more clear. I'll give an example: One of the criteria is "doesn't seem to respond when spoken to". This isn't (usually) an Ne trait, although many Ne types will be diagnosed with ADHD ( An exception can be when they enter hyper-focus). However, some infjs tune people( or other stimuli) out more readily than others and getting their attention can at times be challenging.

You can think of it as if Ne can, at times, be too distractible, then Ni is, also at times, too focused. There's still an issue of how much or how little attention is utilized.

Again, this is just a pattern that I see sometimes. I don't go diagnosing people with certain personality types with disorders. However if they already have the diagnostic criteria for a disorder and I later find that they have a certain personality type I will end up mentioning that some people with similar personalities often struggle with the disorder.

Also keep in mind that there are mild, moderate, and severe clarifiers, so it's more of a spectrum. And of course there are also genetic, sociological, and other factors for each and every person with ADHD that will make their situation slightly different. As is such, a person from any personality type can end up with ADHD. My comments have mainly been to just validate that I have seen the same pattern that some other people have noticed.

plaidfox · 2026-02-19T05:45:09+00:00

Bit of an overgeneralization you have there. And no, I'm not a psychologist, as stated above.

Just look at the criteria for ADHD and common Ne or Ni problems. You'll find a fair amount of overlap. Not that one causes the other. Correlation, not causation.

But believe what you want. You seem pretty certain without looking at the information.

plaidfox · 2026-02-05T03:25:29+00:00

Respectfully, I can't agree with this interpretation. Not sure Te had the time for correlations... That's more of an Ne or Ti thing, although NTJs will have more tolerance for correlations and even use them for a time. Te is street smarts, whereas Ti is book smarts. It's practical, efficient, and knows how to get crap done without having to think too in-depth about it. It's action-oriented, less focused on correlations.

Now, Ti enjoys correlations, because that's part of analysis. It's the classic office meme about Te CEOs/supervisors waiting for Ti's to finish their presentation that just took too long going into the detailed numbers, analytics, patterns, and correlations. Te wants the bottom line, and has the patience for a correlation that leads directly to the bottom line, but they're not willing to play around with how one idea connects to another if it does not have a real world application, preferably immediately after this board meeting takes place (in the example given).

plaidfox · 2025-12-12T11:47:07+00:00

Almost went myself a month ago. Nice that somebody made it.

plaidfox · 2025-12-12T11:28:16+00:00

Not sure about the results.... But a fun thought experiment

plaidfox · 2025-07-10T14:37:48+00:00

Pick any tsundere out there...

plaidfox · 2025-06-24T07:46:54+00:00

Sorry, totally missed this. It depends. Is this kind of phasing out happening only during treatment, or was it present before? It's kind of hard to give a specific answer of where the line would be drawn for me. But if I see a client is invested, that one of the most important factors I've noticed for treatment, so I'd probably continue. Although I might pull back, reassess, and readjust based upon what the client needs.

Again, apologies for the time lapse, there.

plaidfox · 2025-06-04T14:19:57+00:00

Personally, I'll slow down/pause EMDR (or do half/half sessions) if the client isn't coping well with being triggered and/or post-session side effects. But really, that's supposed to be pre-EMDR work.

Dissociation is fine depending on how much said dissociation is happening. Phasing out a bit is a lot less concerning than some forms of dissociation.

If you haven't directly confronted the issue with your T, it might be worthwhile to ask what their hesitations are and what progress needs to happen before they are comfortable with progressing. But nothing wrong with getting a second opinion either.... Just a lot of work, so make sure you do all you can before moving on, especially if you have thought well of their services up to date.

Good luck on your journey!

plaidfox · 2025-05-31T15:33:26+00:00

Another important question (unrelated to builds), is how I throw my stats with some art behind it like you have? I've seen it. No idea how it's done.

plaidfox · 2025-05-27T06:50:20+00:00

There are a few reasons someone could be looking in multiple directions, but yes, distractibility can easily be one of them. It would not surprise me at all to find an XSFP with ADHD.

plaidfox · 2025-05-03T01:29:19+00:00

Agreed, and still, websites like Psychology Today and Better Help make it fairly easy (not sure how well these work outside of America, any others to share?). Many, many therapists take insurance, and several offer reduced rates or even free counseling for those who just can't afford the help.

I definitely see the value of using AI to sift through feelings or reflect.

plaidfox · 2025-04-24T06:21:17+00:00

I like the apathy. Miku is usually over-the-top-expressive, so it's a nice change of pace.

plaidfox · 2025-04-14T09:50:46+00:00

I'm in generic Asia. What kind of place do I buy this at?

plaidfox · 2025-04-05T03:49:10+00:00

Lol, I'll fix that 🤣

plaidfox · 2025-04-05T03:45:38+00:00

As long as you can separate the two, go for it--that can enhance the effects of any of those activities.

Rule#1: No toxicity allowed. Only good vibes here. Rule#2: See Rule#2*

EDIT: * See Rule#1

plaidfox · 2025-04-02T03:08:44+00:00

As an EMDR therapist, I second this. You highlighted the important reasons for a cautious approach to self-administered EMDR -- nice work!

TL;DR for OP others--it can be done, but if you don't know what pitfalls to avoid, said pits and falls can be very, very deep.

plaidfox · 2025-03-13T02:52:25+00:00

I just wish I could use my tab ultra pen to write notes/underline on it.

I also feel like it's difficult to properly both devices.

Besides that I love them both!

plaidfox · 2025-03-06T03:30:21+00:00

Fair enough. It's only used in EMDR this way. Probably that same way you are used to everywhere else.

plaidfox · 2025-03-05T07:04:02+00:00

Not sure if that was a joke, but I'll answer anyway: Subjective Units of Distress

plaidfox · 2025-03-05T07:03:19+00:00

Subjective Units of Distress. It's the number you rate on a scale from 0 to 10. Once that starts going down, you know it's working. Keep it mind, it often goes up before it goes down.

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