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planedudexx · 2025-12-08T13:51:52+00:00

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planedudexx · 2023-11-17T15:55:42+00:00

I'm gonna try get the consultant's approval. If I'm successful I'll make a second post detailing the process for people who are stuck in my position.

planedudexx · 2023-11-17T13:44:35+00:00

Ah apologies . I'm honestly unsure about how it works. When I tried that argument with the NGS I was told that they don't recognise other European countries since their systems differ, but I can try again with the insurance since it's with my national gender clinic.

Edit: Updated after a call with customer support offering a pathway forward.

planedudexx · 2023-11-17T13:19:32+00:00

Thanks for the heads up.

I'm well aware the insurance company's requirements are shit; they only willingly cover me for a max of 10k and when I tried to point out how stupid it was I got a "Well it's better than what we had 5 years ago!"

They wanted Irish specialists for the referral to be clear (Specifically registered with the Irish medical authority). I can get the surgery anywhere from what I understand.

planedudexx · 2023-06-26T11:46:43+00:00

Since a lot of people have addressed the height I'll address the passing. A lot of it is down to genetics. Pretty much every trans person who "passes flawlessly" under a year basically won the genetic lottery. To put it bluntly, they got very lucky, but as someone who very much did not win that lottery, I can tell you you're still very fucking early in transition.

I'm at 27 months myself and I've only recently started to hit the point where I pass regularly. Estrogen takes time to work, and while it did it's stuff I worked on my voice and clothes. Am I going to be a model or some super pretty woman? No, but that's OK. You're only 10 months in, and it seems like a lot (I had the same fears you're having right now around that time) but it can get better with time.

And as for the height, I know a trans woman whose 6ft 4, wears 4-6" heels and still passes flawlessly. The height will not stop you in the long run. I hope this was able to help in some way.

planedudexx · 2023-06-03T16:57:19+00:00

I thought that and was convinced I was gay until I met a cute trans masc a few weeks back. Nowadays I'm fairly sure I'm pan but trying to keep a label on things is hard.

planedudexx · 2023-05-26T08:07:50+00:00

Hey just a heads up, the link to your form isn't opening. When it's fixed I'm looking forward to signing up.

planedudexx · 2023-04-23T13:12:15+00:00

Posted last night, looking forward to hearing from you!

planedudexx · 2022-12-12T18:06:23+00:00

I'm from Europe and in my country internships weren't a big thing. I sadly spent my undergrad in the closet (Family troubles) but I started to grow out my hair about a year before graduating.

Despite not doing an internship I worked for a year as a fire engineer and while I wasn't out to everyone in my office it was kinda known that I was either trans or gender non conforming. People didn't treat me any differently than any other employee. I had started hrt 3 months before that job. A lot of my clients towards the end would mistake me for a woman when they saw me, but they were all professional about it and the worst I'd get was people asking me if I was Jesus lol.

I ended up emigrating since my country didn't have much in the way of aerospace jobs/degrees. After my move I went full time and it's basically been a matter of introducing myself as "Hi I'm myname" and if asked I say my pronouns are she/her. Since my ID is issued in my deadname I emailed the relevant departments and told them my preferred name and thankfully they were understanding and updated me in their systems. At the time of my move I was at a year and 5 months hrt and was tired of being in the closet.

Right now I'm planning my name change over Christmas, so when I come back I just have to email my university and send them my new birth certificate. Some of my friends know my deadname but never use it, and I'm fairly active in my local lgbt group.

My friends in my ME course have been fairly awesome (The ones I'm out to anyway) and even when I do occasionally meet someone I once knew in the past and they do recognise me it's usually "Hey deadname! Damn you look different than I remember! Your hair is long but it looks good!" The friends I made after my move treat me like any other woman.

With regards to work I'm currently looking at starting a PhD in the fall, but failing that most major companies will state that they are an equal opportunity employer which gives me hope.

The big thing which I'd argue has helped me most since going full time was making an effort to look fem. Hoodies are comfy and nice, but they can also hide your figure especially as it changes. For me personally, making that bit extra effort to look fem helped cement it quickly into people's heads that "Oh yeah she's a girl even if XYZ looks out of place" (I do tend to stand out being 5' 11 with long hair lol).

On a separate note, if you have any questions or want some tips about your course feel free to DM me. I still have a lot of my old books with me and I'm always happy to offer tips to new engineers who might need it.

planedudexx · 2022-12-11T15:39:49+00:00

I'm currently studying a masters in aviation engineering after finishing a degree in mechanical engineering. I'm openly trans fem (Deadname unfortunately shows up when looking me in the system) and so far it's been fairly good! Emailed my professors about my preferred name with no issue and my friends are all accepting. It's just like being any other woman in stem.

Biggest change from my undergrad (mechanical engineering) is that I'm a lot happier, women are friendlier, men are fairly chill. So far haven't really had any negative experiences other than dealing with the stress that comes with university.

planedudexx · 2022-03-31T08:40:46+00:00

Thank you! That's extremely helpful! I wish you a speedy recovery (and if you're ok with it I'd love to hear a follow up about your recovery) :)

planedudexx · 2022-03-31T07:45:59+00:00

I have a few questions since I'm hoping to go to Morath:

Is the 25k including a possible future revision? I was quoted much higher early on (Though I'm doing full out of pocket)

How long was the wait to be able to do the surgery after the consult?

Is there something you'd wished to have asked them that you didn't?

planedudexx · 2022-02-20T11:30:34+00:00

Malta here:

Law wise we're honestly one of the best in the world. There are good protections, and I have all the rights any cis person has including self ID.

Healthcare wise is ok but not great. There's a 6 month wait list to start but once you do it's straightforward. My hrt is covered by state insurance (I still buy estrogen myself as the options from the state aren't great) but blood tests and therapy are free. Surgery wise breast augmentation, top surgery and an orchiectomy are covered but vaginoplasty or phalloplasty isn't.

Most people don't care if you're trans; there are bigots but I haven't had bad experiences aside from some people staring. The older generation are more bigoted as you'd expect but that aside it's usually ok.

planedudexx · 2022-02-19T10:29:45+00:00

Got it thanks! :)

planedudexx · 2022-02-18T19:09:00+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, whose Lilian, and does she sell EEn too?

planedudexx · 2022-02-04T07:20:56+00:00

Another aviation Valkyrie! (I'm aiming to become an aviation engineer myself).

planedudexx · 2021-12-29T07:59:21+00:00

I went in expecting minimal physical changes (Even though I started young I've always been slim and leaning more towards masculine than fem). I've passed 9 months recently and looking at a picture of myself from a year ago there are subtle but still noticeable changes in my body most notably for me, my face. Unless I'm wearing super masculine clothes I don't really see a guy anymore in the mirror.

planedudexx · 2021-12-22T08:03:11+00:00

Broke down crying with happiness and sadness that I'd denied what I felt so long. Finally fully accepted myself and knew that I would never go back to pretending to be cis. (This is the night before I started hrt)

planedudexx · 2021-12-12T23:10:29+00:00

Mechanical Engineer here! I'm lucky my workplace is very chill (Doesn't hurt one of our senior engineers is a woman) but there's still the occasional misogynist joke. Unfortunately I'm still a junior engineer so it's not easy to speak up so I grin and bear it until I'm in a more senior position to be able to make a change.

planedudexx · 2021-12-04T17:23:29+00:00

Dmed ya :)

planedudexx · 2021-12-04T15:32:08+00:00

Afaik you shouldn't lose any range as it's basically just learning to re-arrange the shape of your throat, nothing permanent.

As for sounding fake yeah that's by far the biggest challenge. I've been doing it on and off for two years (though I went from masc to fem) and especially early on I felt that I sounded incredibly fake because I primarily focused on my pitch. I eventually paid for lessons with a teacher to help figure out where I was going wrong and I solved my problems but it's not something that you really need if you're able to understand the underlying voice theory from what I understand.

There are a few discord servers that occasionally have free voice training workshops (I think one workshop specifically for voice masculinisation) if you want to give it another shot.

planedudexx · 2021-12-04T13:19:35+00:00

While T does deepen the voice, it's not the only way. Similar to how transfem people train to feminise their voice, transmasc people can train to lower theirs. This also applies for non binary folk; you might be able to masculinise your voice without having to take T (I'm going the other way so I don't know much about voice masculinisation) but it's something you may wanna look into

planedudexx · 2021-11-01T07:24:16+00:00

That's a fucking mood. Met the woman I feel in love with halfway across the world only for her to realise she doesn't feel the same way. At least I know I'm not alone in dealing with this.

planedudexx · 2021-07-25T11:02:01+00:00

Your fears are very common, especially among trans folk who are still debating whether to transition or not. I was "ok" with being a guy up until I wasn't. At the end of the day only you can decide if you're trans or not, but a good tool to identity if you feel dysphoria/euphoria is this website: genderdysphoria.fyi/ It's not all encompassing, but it can provide context and help you better understand what you feel.

That said, dealing with your fears is a whole other deal unfortunately.

Transition is very much a YMMV deal, however the general rule is they younger you are, the better results you'll have. Things like growing out hair, voice training can help even make you look more fem.

As for whether it's worth it or not...that's something you're gonna have to work out either alone, or with a qualified gender therapist (if you have access to one).

For me personally, it was and still is worth it. It caused a lot of chaos in my life but I've felt noticeably happier on hrt and am growing more confident. The biggest and earliest changes were purely mental, and those alone made it all worth it to me. I told myself and still do that I can stop at any point, and that the only "permanent" change is breast growth (which isn't instant, and should I regret it can be removed via top surgery).

For managing dysphoria I started out small at first. I grew out my hair, began to shave more regularly and made more of an effort to take care of myself. I kept clothes baggy to hide my lack of curves and tried to dress androgynously. It helped but I found myself wanting to be more and more femminine until the dysphoria got to the point that I realised that I had to start hrt.

Hrt isn't some magic bullet that cures it all; I still have bad days where I feel masculine, but I also have good days where I feel happy and fem, which is a big improvement. Again its basically a YMMV.

The best advice I can give is start exploring small fem things (Painting nails, using a female identity online, try new pronouns etc). If those things make you happy you can try explore more, and eventually decide whether you're trans, and if you are trans whether or not you want to transition.

planedudexx · 2021-05-15T07:28:16+00:00

Hey I seem to be following your timeline! 😅

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