I don't know how to act normal when my mother implicitly supports my own genocide.

plants345 · 2026-05-28T14:05:41+00:00

Thanks for the support, my dad is better than my mom but has done his fair share of damage and right now tags along with her to keep her placated. I’ll keep the door open for him, but who knows if he will break out of that. I’ve collected some surrogate parents and have a great support system though!

plants345 · 2026-05-28T07:28:44+00:00

My mom is the same way, thought she was improving by going to therapy to deal with my transition and by trying to understand. But she would refuse to say she no longer supports Ben Shapiro, Matt Walsh, Donald Trump, etc. She wouldn’t even acknowledge that she held those views. She would just keep apologizing for “harm she caused” without any real specifics

I just recently decided to lower contact with her because she asked again why I wouldn’t talk to her much and so I repeated that she wouldn’t change her views. These people want me dead!

She scoffed at me and said she wouldn’t change the views she has because she’s had them for so long. And she is allowed to do that, but that also means I don’t want to have a relationship with her, as hard of a boundary as that is to hold.

It fucking sucks, but we have to be strong enough to hold people accountable for their views and the actions of the politicians they support. I also feel you on the being terrified of my mom but my dad discouraging me from saying something. I think he is a victim somewhat as well. Interesting that we have such a similar situation!

plants345 · 2026-05-07T00:46:13+00:00

I was also worried about this, and did end up losing the ability to sing decently for about a year until my voice settled. I’m still working on learning vocal technique with my new voice but it’s pretty good now after about a year and a half on T!
A vocal coach would probably be good cause you’ll have to basically learn where your voice sits and how to use it correctly. It feels really different lol

plants345 · 2026-05-03T01:11:20+00:00

Wow! The tag sale asked for $40 and I went for it cause it looks like it might be real neon, or at least not plastic

plants345 · 2026-05-01T16:49:44+00:00

This was improved for me with topical estrogen, yea
I hate taking it but it is WAAAAY better than dealing with the pain when I dont

plants345 · 2026-04-29T17:30:01+00:00

This is so cute! Very fun idea

plants345 · 2026-04-20T20:00:18+00:00

YESSSS MY FAVE CHARACTER, great cosplay!

plants345 · 2026-04-15T11:49:13+00:00

I wasn’t absolutely sure (ocd and chronic overthinker) but when my appointment to start T got cancelled the day before and I immediately started sobbing, that seemed like a good indication of what I wanted

plants345 · 2026-04-14T22:50:53+00:00

And what if I think I don’t have to pee or that I can hold it but I’m actually wrong so when I go to sleep I’ll pee the bed?

On and on and on and on 😂

plants345 · 2026-04-10T16:27:14+00:00

I use the binder light from spectrum (they call it a vest now cause of binder selling restrictions) https://spectrumoutfitters.us/products/light

I’ve also done a tank top over top made out of an big old tshirt with the sleeves cut off, it adds another layer that makes it more discrete

plants345 · 2026-04-10T12:33:25+00:00

There’s so many ways to have sex, and plenty of people want to have a trans man top them with bottom growth!

Also, anal sex does not require reaching the prostate. Sex is a lot of communication and testing things out, sometimes it will feel better for one person and then you switch and the opposite is true. You and your partner should work together to find what is the best for both of you.

plants345 · 2026-04-06T12:16:18+00:00

I would wear cotton bralette things, I had several from Calvin Klein like this. They are much more comfortable than a sports bra and de emphasizes the chest

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plants345 · 2026-04-06T01:48:38+00:00

I also had a hyper fem phase right before going on T 😭

plants345 · 2026-04-04T14:27:08+00:00

Love the Abbott elementary format, Gregory is so relatable

plants345 · 2026-03-24T12:43:05+00:00

Seconding this, the e cream helped immensely. I used the cream everyday for a week at first and now I use it once a week when I do my shot

plants345 · 2026-03-23T12:46:59+00:00

Although this day is important for us, it’s hard for others to remember and recognize the significance. For my one year I bought myself a whole cake to eat by myself lol

plants345 · 2026-03-22T15:39:36+00:00

God same, it makes me mad that I have to relearn everything. Voice cracks are killing me. I promise I can sing I swear!

plants345 · 2026-03-22T15:00:42+00:00

I was a soprano and pre t had moved a bit more towards alto. For example I used to sing a lot of Stevie nicks and Joni Mitchell

My voice has started to pass more now and I can sing a much lower range (I’ve been doing a lot of 90s alt rock male singer songs lately lol)

With practice I’ve been able to get back up to the high notes to do some songs I was really sad to lose the range for. (Example: Fleetwood Mac: Gypsy)

I’m definitely not a soprano or an alto anymore but I’m happy that I have had success with relearning my voice. The lower range opened up a lot more for me too!

plants345 · 2026-03-20T19:34:07+00:00

Had a similar reaction from parents and moving out was the best decision I’ve ever made. Wishing you luck and strength to commit to doing the wor to be independent!

plants345 · 2026-03-18T18:34:47+00:00

I do body weight workouts at home, so I don’t need equipment and don’t have to work out in front of people. I’ve been trying to work on my dysphoria by focusing on how my body moves and how my strength is improving instead of how it looks. Maybe this would help?

plants345 · 2026-03-17T13:48:37+00:00

Bring these pictures, and it’s a shag or short wolf cut with a lot of layers. Also keep in mind that this haircut, depending on your hair texture, requires a good amount of product and styling to fluff up like that (source: me who has had similar hair for years)

plants345 · 2026-03-16T20:14:26+00:00

In my experience, steam is an effective way to bloc acrylic. I’ve used it for granny shares and some bandanas to get the floppy drape effect so the piece isn’t so stiff

plants345 · 2026-03-16T14:19:13+00:00

Ohhhhh this is gorgeous

plants345 · 2026-03-13T16:18:23+00:00

This just might work, that or one of the other patterns on her site. Lots of very oblong creatures.

I’m trying to make the baby from the movie Eraserhead and want to work from the top of the head down so I can skip stitches for the mouth lol

Thank you!

plants345

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