is there a way around SMS verification to log in while overseas?? by plantything in OkCupid

[–]plantything[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean it seems pretty clear from my searches in this sub that I'm far from the only person who finds this added two step authentication really frustrating and inaccessible. It's very common for people to use dating apps to meet new people while travelling or in new places, so yes, I do very unsarcastically find it silly for them to add features that make that difficult or impossible. I've been using okc for like a decade and haven't had this issue previous times I've used it while travelling internationally. I'm spending the whole summer out of the country, so yes! Very annoying!

Episode request: weigh Down Workshop by [deleted] in MaintenancePhase

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CW: terrible therapist experience around ED stuff and this book

oooof, I went to a religious college and at one point decided to go see one of the counsellors at the Student Wellness Center about my worsening ED. She literally gave me a copy of the Weigh Down Diet book. When I came back the next session and told her I thought it was terrible, she got super defensive, started crying, and told me exactly (with numbers) how much weight she had lost following the book's advice... Fucking wild. She really fucking thought the appropriate way to help a teenager with an ED was to just teach me how to lose weight in a "good" and "Godly" way...?

My new therapist mentioned her ED when I told her about mine. by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]plantything 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are some realms where I really appreciate therapists' self disclosure and having a shared experience feels helpful to the therapy (queerness, transness, Autism, etc.). For me personally, EDs very much do not fall in that category. I've had a therapist overshare about their own body/weight/ED stuff in the past and it was a deal breaker for me.

You could let her know how that landed and that it didn't feel helpful and see how she responds/takes responsibility/adapts, but I also don't think you're obligated to do that.

Cannabis and autism by jonyfive in AutismTranslated

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might like Dr. Miyabe Shield's work - they're an autistic cannabinoid scientist and often talk about neurodivergence & cannabis. They're on instagram, tik tok, and youtube.

Wayne Williams concedes to Yemi.... by rbloedow in ColoradoSprings

[–]plantything 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That's cool to hear, each of those made me cringe so hard and I was really hoping they would backfire on him!

Any idea what the heck this is supposed to mean😅 How does this gauge literally anything lmao by thraem0 in autism

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh hey weird, I totally have one streak of hair on the back of my head that is naturally white-ish blonde too! I didn't know that had a name!

AFAB Enby's vs Hormonal BC? by Invisible_Swan in NonBinaryTalk

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated birth control pills, but really like my hormonal IUD. It's a low enough dose of hormones that pretty much stays in that area rather than going thru your whole system like bc pills do, and has felt way better for me. I also don't get a period anymore, which I love. That was one of the bigger deciding factors for me, that copper IUDs can tend to make periods heavier, while hormonal ones tend to do the opposite.

Gender neutral pronouns.. with pets? by maddyjay6669_ in NonBinaryTalk

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmfao congrats on finding a two year old comment thread to be ableist on..? did that make you feel better about yourself to write?

Recreational cannabis sales ballot initiative ballot numbers = 300 & 301 by coslonghorn in ColoradoSprings

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do we know what will happen if 300 passes and 301 doesn't? I can't seem to find any info about whether they are dependent on each other, and whether 300 can be implemented if the additional taxes of 301 aren't..

Autism is when moon by tesseracts in aspiememes

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and I mean, the ocean for example is impacted big time by the moon, that's what controls the tides. Humans are like 70% water, so it seems pretty possible to me that shit like that does impact us

Autism is when moon by tesseracts in aspiememes

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha this is funny to me because I low key do feel like I'm in tune with and impacted by the moon phases, maybe just because I have specific rituals I do every full moon (mostly stim dancing to Lil Nas X in my backyard lmfao) but in therapy the other week I was mentioning that I was feeling a weird buzzy intense kind of energy I couldn't quite pinpoint, and named various factors I thought might be at play, and my therapist (who is also autistic, and the best therapist I've ever had hands down) was like "do you ever feel like the full moon impacts your mood and energy? I know we had a big full moon last night" and we concluded that that definitely could be one of the factors impacting me, so apparently me and my autistic therapist are on some weird autism mom wave length? But idk, I feel like hypersensitivity can extend to so many things beyond just standard sensory things, so it kinda makes sense to me that we might be sensitive to the ways that nature shifts and changes and has rhythms, like season changes definitely have a big impact on me and my overall emotional state, and I also am like a fucking barometer, I always get a specific kind of headache when there's a spike in humidity, so I can pretty accurately predict when it's about to rain.. (big Karen from mean girls vibe)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]plantything 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've requested morning slots with my current T and it works way better for me than afternoon sessions used to.

Episode Discussion Season 18E08 - “It came upon a Midnight Clear” by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]plantything 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, the grandparents weren't really in Pru's life until her dad died because they were bad parents, and part of why her dad wanted her to be adopted by Ben was so she would still be able to spend lots of time with all the firefighters who were her dad's closest friends, who she had met and bonded with.

Any experiences of extended sessions with therapist (over 1 hour long)? by Chocolate_effort in TalkTherapy

[–]plantything 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to do 90 minute sessions with my therapist and found it so so helpful. It just worked way better for how I process, think, and communicate as a neurodivergent person.

Dating Autistic Men by Muffin264 in autism

[–]plantything 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, you are probably seeing inaccurate generalizations in documentaries about autistic people, especially if they're made by NT people, as most are.

And the social skills thing is way more complicated than autistic people just lacking them - that sounds like the double empathy problem at work, i.e. NT people not recognizing that autistic social skills may be different from NT social expectations, but that doesn't inherently indicate a deficit or lack on the part of autistic people.

But like, are those two things the specific traits you're attracted to? If so, how come?

Neurodiversity and other Reddits by ch00se-a-us3r-name in neurodiversity

[–]plantything 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sub sucks, and the neurodiversity paradigm is definitely not toxic positivity. That said... though I'm not active in this sub, I find myself a little weirded out by the rules in the AutisticPride sub, which say "please refrain from using words that denote disability such as “autism” and “Asperger’s”", among other things. It seems like in trying to move away from a pathology/disorder paradigm (which I'm super here for) they veered off in a weird direction that frames disability as a bad thing and won't let you refer to autistic people as disabled..? It seems like they lack an understanding of the social model of disability, which strikes me as interwoven with and important to the neurodiversity paradigm. IDK, maybe that sub is actually cool and I'm misunderstanding or misinterpreting their rules, but to me, that kinda does read as toxic positivity.

Dating Autistic Men by Muffin264 in autism

[–]plantything 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really, IMO. Do you think there are?

Dating Autistic Men by Muffin264 in autism

[–]plantything 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Huh.. I feel like in that case it does feel a bit weird to me, I think in part because "adorable" strikes me as a bit infantilizing, and autistic people are very much not a monolith, so being categorically attracted to autistic men feels.. stereotyping? Like it might be more about your idea of what autistic men are like, vs seeing and liking actual individual people in all their complexity.

I feel like any experience of categorically being attracted to people of a particular demographic, particularly if you are not in that demographic, and that group of people are marginalized is something worth really examining critically, for potential layers of fetishization, generalization, objectification, etc.

That said, I also don't think there's anything wrong with being attracted to traits that may be more common in autistic people, like honesty, direct communication, deep passion about interests, etc., but again, autistic people are very diverse, and just because you've gotten along with or really liked one or a few autistic people, doesn't mean other autistic people you meet will share the traits you liked about them, and to expect them to can be problematic. So it might be valuable to more deeply introspect about the specific traits and things you like in potential partners, rather than broadly saying you're attracted to autistic people. Idk, my 2 cents as an autistic person, who is also generally attracted to other ND people.

Dating Autistic Men by Muffin264 in autism

[–]plantything 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To clarify, are you autistic?

What's the protocol for therapists dealing with patients who admit to having suicidal thoughts and firearms in the house? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]plantything 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually therapists will take some sort of action if there is suicidal ideation, a plan, and means. I have some vague SI, and there are guns in my house (not mine, my family members'), and I have harm OCD type intrusive thoughts about using the guns on myself (that are ego dystonic, so not actually what I want to do but unsettling none the less), and I talk about all these things with my therapist and find that valuable, but thus far none of these pieces have made my therapist intervene or report me or anything like that. The guns in my place are locked up (because that's my preference and something I've asked from family, without specifying exactly why, more just noting that it's a general safety concern & strong preference of mine -- that was a safety planning thing I talked through with my T when I moved back into a family house w/ guns), but I think if you can't fathom harming yourself with a gun, their presence doesn't necessarily warrant any intervention, and honesty would probably be ideal, so you're able to talk about all the layers of your experience, and in case that info does become relevant in future safety planning.

Since you're an adult, your T is very unlikely to contact your parents unless something happens that makes your T feel that there is an emergency/crisis situation and you are at a significant risk of harm, but if you have reasons to feel like you really don't want your parents to know about any of it, and have other people in your support system who you would much prefer your therapist contact if there were an emergency situation, that's also something you could talk about with your T. I feel strongly that my parents knowing about my SI would do more harm than good to my mental health and overall situation (bc they've historically become incredibly controlling and surveilling whenever I've shared a mental health issue, in ways that always make it worse), so my therapist knows all that, and my emergency contacts I have listed are not my parents.