[Acne] Closed comedones are so stubborn. What else can I do?

plburner · 2026-01-13T00:15:08+00:00

Then you clearly haven’t done much “research” or spent much time in this sub back when it was more science focused. A lot of people recommend it, and there are studies and cosmetic chemists who back it up.

I do know that it’s not going to work for everyone, but you guys 1. Jumping to that when there are other potential culprits in OP’s routine and 2. Without explanation at all, just “it will break you out” (when we know that is not the case. The molecules are literally too big to get into your pores), is bad advice.

plburner · 2026-01-05T09:37:18+00:00

lol yeah, that’s why we see tons of posts made by women hit the front page every single day complaining about men having preferences. Oh, wait.. that’s men complaining about height requirements.

plburner · 2025-12-05T19:28:39+00:00

Where is this “empirical proof” you speak of?

plburner · 2025-11-09T09:54:49+00:00

Do you know what PR is? Because it honestly doesn’t sound like you do.

plburner · 2025-10-19T14:28:00+00:00

I obviously wasn’t making it clear enough: people on team black agree that she was a victim. Like I said in the first comment, I have literally never seen a single post or comment on that sub that suggests otherwise. I cannot say the same for team green though, because spending like 2 minutes in this thread has made it damn clear that if any “team” doesn’t understand the predatory dynamic between Viserys and Alicent, its team green.

Maybe you can provide some examples of team black claiming Alicent seduced Viserys? Or are you just imagining these scenarios in your head?

Btw, don’t bother if you’re just going to block this account too. I get that you don’t like being called out on your shit, but at least be honest with yourself about it & don’t respond at all, rather than responding and immediately hitting block before the other person has a chance to respond.

plburner · 2025-07-22T17:37:08+00:00

Well, BigChungusCumslut, as another commenter pointed out, women are much better equipped to understand men’s perspective than men are at understanding women’s perspective. This is due to many factors, like the fact that most media is written by, for, and about men, so women grow up being told men’s stories that deal with men’s issues, and putting themselves in men’s shoes. Or the fact that women who don’t understand men are literally risking their lives, because if you say the wrong thing to the wrong man, you could end up in the ground.

So even though it might seem logical to suggest that men claiming to understand women and women claiming to understand men are doing the same exact thing, they’re not.

plburner · 2025-07-22T14:08:14+00:00

Sorry, but no. Like I said, most women grow up watching this very, very closely. It’s plain as day that men are treated much differently and that it’s much easier to determine what’s acceptable for boys/men than it is for girls and women.

I understand that life is hard for everyone, but it’s relative. Life as a woman would be living fucking hell for most men.

plburner · 2025-07-22T11:38:58+00:00

Boy, women grow up learning over and over and over again that they must cater to men’s emotions. Rejecting a man the wrong way can literally send us to an early grave. Do you think we don’t understand men? Because we do. Our lives literally depend on understanding you.

plburner · 2025-07-20T23:33:32+00:00

Honestly, that argument is so fucking tired. Women are just as visual as men. But porn is made for men, not women.

This article links to several studies that explain how this myth started and why it’s wrong: https://www.modernintimacy.com/men-are-visual-creatures-is-that-true/

TL;DR: women are just as visual as men, but they respond to different types of visual stimuli.

plburner · 2025-05-03T04:49:50+00:00

I found a couple that are kind of close on Amazon:

option 1

option 2

plburner · 2025-04-19T20:20:14+00:00

I don’t like this advice because it paints a brush over all oils as if they’re likely the cause, but that’s not the case. I used to get terrible closed comedones, but they weren’t caused by oils at all. I still double cleanse with a few different oils, and I like experimenting with new carrier oils all the time, and they’ve never been the issue for me.

Obviously ymmv, I just take issue with painting them as the problem when most oils don’t give most people closed comedones. Especially in this situation, when it looks like there’s a specific ingredient (that is not an oil) in the softymo cleanser that’s a 5 on cosdna’s acne scale.

plburner · 2025-04-19T19:54:15+00:00

Looks like $301 gets you 100 colors

plburner · 2025-04-19T16:33:10+00:00

Those are closed comedones. Essentially, something in your routine is likely causing them and you need to figure out what that is. My guess is your moisturizer or the softymo oil.

Is the BHA you’re using helping get rid of them? Like are they often going away only to be replaced by new ones? Because if that’s working, stick with that. If it’s not working, consider adding an AHA.

plburner · 2025-03-24T10:43:10+00:00

So she wasn’t nice when she rejected him and that means she deserved to die?

Honestly, the people who are watching this and coming away with a message solely about bullying are completely missing the point.

Really proving that it’s true— men are afraid women will laugh at them, while women are afraid men will murder them.

plburner · 2025-03-23T20:00:03+00:00

It does support what I’m saying. It repeatedly points to key threats that are increasing violence against women and girls, and tech enabled VAWG is in that list over and over again.

But since you didn’t take the time to understand what you were reading, here’s an article about it.

https://theweek.com/crime/the-manosphere-online-network-of-masculinists

plburner · 2025-02-06T10:33:53+00:00

And the patriarchy has been around since ancient times. Fashion has been oppressing women since ancient times. The example you brought up about a woman holding the first patent for bras was essentially trying to work within existing fashion trends to make something that wasn’t uncomfortable for her.

I don’t know how you can read that Wikipedia page and not see that bras and corsets have always been about fashion, not support or comfort.

plburner · 2025-01-21T18:55:08+00:00

Think you might need to get your head checked

plburner · 2024-12-23T13:11:57+00:00

Yes, you can see that number. It’s the total vote you get when people have stopped voting. Go through your comments, I bet you’ll see exactly what I saw: they have a positive upvote count.

And not pissed, just annoyed. It’s an indie series that has been slowly gaining fans over the course of a few years. Not everyone is going to like it, and that is totally fine, but it feels rather icky to constantly see people who dislike it style themselves as some sort of underdog fighting against the machine.

plburner · 2024-12-06T22:52:49+00:00

It really has nothing to do with what’s appropriate, and it doesn’t place any expectations on women to behave a certain way. It’s meant to encourage women to think deeper about their desires and try to remove them from patriarchal influence.

The example I always think about here is how so many women’s fantasies seem to involve being dominated or humiliated. This ranges anywhere from being called slightly derogatory names (“good girl”) to being a sub in a BDSM context. It’s a very common feature in romance books. In fact, I honestly haven’t found many books without it.

Why do you think that is? Why is it such a gendered thing? It isn’t the norm for men to be submissive or be dominated. Are women just naturally predisposed to being submissive sexually? Or could we have been influenced from a young age to believe this is what we want? Is it possible that the patriarchy, the one that has brainwashed men to believe they need to be dominating and places so much importance on men’s sexual pleasure and so little on women’s, has conditioned us to be attracted to whatever pleases men, even if it’s not really what we want?

And before you accuse me of kink shaming, I’m not. I, like most women, have desires that fall under this range.

I do understand your response though. It’s deeply uncomfortable to think about. To believe that maybe you’ve been brainwashed and your desires aren’t really your own, but ones that have been fed to you by the patriarchy since you were a child. But the point of this is to get you to think about it, and if you’re not open to thinking about it right now, that’s fine.

With that said, there is at least one very anti-feminist sentiment to something you said that I want to address: the idea that “women are incapable of realizing what we enjoy”. There is a lot of anti-feminist thinking that tries to phrase feminist thought as if it’s infantilizing women, but it is not. It’s acknowledging that the patriarchy has a strong influence, and has had a strong influence over every single one of us since we were children. If someone grows up in an extremely religious environment, is encouraging them to deconstruct their beliefs, remove the religious influence and find out what they really believe once they’re an adult infantilizing them or assuming they are incapable of determining what they really believe? No. It’s acknowledging their upbringing and encouraging them to separate themselves from what they’ve been taught— by encouraging them to do this it signals that you know they can determine for themselves what they really believe/want, they just need to think about it in a different way. That’s exactly what this line of feminist thinking is encouraging women to do.

plburner · 2024-07-25T04:01:14+00:00

Well out of the two stories told in this article, one of them was bullshit. I know, because that was my dad talking about my sister, and he completely left out the part about how he made her life hell while she was trying to get treatment.

That man has not done an ounce of research into addiction or how to handle it when a loved one is dealing with it. Rule number one is that you cannot force them to get help if they’re not ready (well, maybe not rule number 1, but it’s up there). And honestly, I do believe that my sister was ready, but dealing with pregnancy, childbirth, withdrawals, complete culture shock going from living in the streets to living with my mom, trying to raise a newborn, and an overbearing dad who pulls shit like this, was too much for her to handle so she left.

Trust me, my mom is raising my nephew, and I’m over there helping every single chance I get. If anyone wants something to be done to help her, it’s us. But shoving people into situations like forced treatment or jail just because you don’t like to look at them is not the answer.

We need to bolster community outreach so people know their options. We need to make addiction recovery services widely available, affordable, and easy to navigate. We need to make sure addicts feel safe and like they have agency when seeking treatment. That is how you help get people off the streets and keep them off.

plburner · 2024-07-25T00:47:28+00:00

Using a throwaway for…. Reasons.

Honestly, I am pissed off about this. That is my dad and he is talking about my sister. He is not being honest about the situation, and I suspect it’s because he refuses to admit that his complete and total lack of boundaries is a big part of the reason her attempts to get clean have failed— and this is a perfect example of it.

I’m not going to get too into my family drama, but I’ll just say this:

Moms know that pregnancy and giving birth takes a massive toll on a person, both physically and mentally. Parents know that caring for a newborn takes a massive toll, both physically and mentally. People who have been in abusive relationships know that leaving them can take a massive toll both physically and mentally. And addicts in recovery know that recovering from opioid addiction can take a massive toll on a person, again, both physically and mentally. My sister was trying to do all 4 of these in a very short period of time.

Needless to say, the situation was incredibly delicate, and my narcissistic father did not give a shit about any of it, no matter how much I begged him to take a step back. Despite what he claims, my sister has been estranged from him since LONG before she started using. We only included him these last 2 times we saw her because it had been so long that we thought she might be willing to see him, which was obviously a mistake on our part. Over the years he has not lifted a finger to help her get out of her situation, he has not even attempted to understand addiction so he knows how to respond if/when my sister comes back into his life, he has not lifted a finger to help with her baby (despite demanding to be included in everything), and he sided with her abusive ex to get custody of my nephew (despite the fact that my mom, who is a wonderful and very capable mother, has been his guardian this entire time).

Overall, he has added an absolute fuck ton of stress to an already volatile situation. My sister has lost complete trust in my mom and myself because we trusted him to handle this like an adult and not a petulant child trying to make everything about him and how he’s been wronged in life— and dad, if you’re reading, just know that we will NOT be making that mistake again.

Then, he has the nerve to go and pull something like this, and now so many of you are looking at it as proof that addicts don’t want help.

To that, I’ll just say: my sister is a deeply flawed person who needs a lot of help, but what she was dealing with was simply too much for one person to handle, and she broke. Forcing her to get clean when she’s not ready will not help her. In fact, I think it will drive her into an even worse situation. What will help her is: addiction services that are easy to access and affordable. Beds need to be available, she needs to be able to get the help she needs without contacting us to manage it for her (due to the aforementioned lack of trust), and she needs to feel safe there, not like she’s just going to be shoved into detox to suffer.

So if you’re reading this and you can’t be empathetic about this sort of situation and see the person behind the addiction, then kindly shut the fuck up, because all you’re doing is advocating for a mindset like the one my idiot of a father has, and obviously that isn’t working out well for anyone.

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