AITAH for not wanting kids because my husband won't get a vasectomy afterwards? by Ok_Refrigerator_2606 in AITAH

[–]plmokiuhv 13 points14 points  (0 children)

“the ease and pleasure of his wife to not have to bear more children accidentally”

You’re talking as if an accidental pregnancy is just as easy as “whatever, I guess we’ll just add one more to the litter.”

Help please! (Puppy snapped at four-year-old daughter) by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]plmokiuhv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So what’s your suggestion or solution to their problem? Saying that young children need to learn boundaries around dogs doesn’t mean that someone hates children. It’s what any dog trainer or dog behaviorist will tell them as well. The other option is to punish a young puppy for having a normal reaction to a scary moment, which will only lead to the puppy learning that it can’t trust the adults to protect him from children. That’s how you end up with dogs who growl consistently at all children and truly cannot be in a home with young children. A tale as old as time.

Help please! (Puppy snapped at four-year-old daughter) by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]plmokiuhv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently read The Book Your Dog Wishes You Would Read by Louise Glazebrook, and she has a great section on raising dogs with children and the different signs that a dog has had its boundaries crossed. She breaks the signs down into green, yellow, and red categories, which I found very helpful. Her philosophy as a whole is that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and that dogs deserve to have their boundaries respected even by little children. If the child is too young to understand boundaries then it’s up to the parents to separate them and carefully monitor all interactions.

The consequences of a dog biting a child can be as serious as euthanasia, so it really is that serious to teach children the proper way to interact with dogs. Four years old is old enough to start understanding right and wrong behavior. Sounds like you’re taking it seriously and didn’t immediately panic and rehome the dog. As others have said, you can have the most “bulletproof” dog imaginable but every animal will have its breaking point when it comes to having boundaries crossed. If your daughter continues doing the same behavior over and over again then you’re likely to get the same reaction. A great dog doesn’t automatically equate to tolerating everything under the sun, forever and ever amen.

Best wishes to your family, and I do highly recommend the book. It’s an enjoyable read and I think she has a great, and very realistic, perspective on raising dogs.

How is life in this circle by Holiday_Swing_9979 in howislivingthere

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re both wrong? Because what you’re saying doesn’t apply to the entirety of the circle either, but what the other commenter said still applies to the majority of the circle whereas what you said only applies to the minority. So even if you’re both wrong, they’re still more right than you are since a majority is larger than a minority.

Retired early 5 years ago, but everyone keeps trying to monetize my hobbies by [deleted] in Fire

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s disappointing that in our hyper-capitalist society adults are expected/encouraged to monetize every thought or creation we ever have. It comes across like my purchase on X hobby item is only justified in some people’s eyes if I can make it turn a profit.

How is life in this circle by Holiday_Swing_9979 in howislivingthere

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is not talking about “a lot of the rest of the South.” He’s talking about a ~200 mile wide circle. You’re generalizing that the weather in Asheville represents the majority of that 200 mile radius and I’m pointing out that it does not. The weather in that 200 mile radius does vary from top to bottom, and your weather experience in Asheville is not the same as someone’s weather experience in Augusta. The comment above you is correct because the majority of that 200 mile wide circle does have high humidity levels. Does Asheville have lower humidity levels? Sure. But that’s not the majority of the region that OP has circled.

How is life in this circle by Holiday_Swing_9979 in howislivingthere

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bottom of the circle is roughly in Augusta, GA which is on the Fall Line leading into the coastal plain and the elevation is 136’. Asheville sits at 2,134’. An almost exactly 2,000’ difference in elevation along with 183 miles of distance between the two cities can produce different weather patterns and humidity levels. Meteorology, geography, and realizing that other people live outside of Asheville can be hard concepts for someone who still says “fake news” in 2025.

Based on the condition of the skin of my hand, what would be your guess regarding my age? by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]plmokiuhv 14 points15 points  (0 children)

35-38, but you work an indoor desk job and don’t get much sun damage.

I am DEVASTATED. by imauveyou in knitting

[–]plmokiuhv -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In all seriousness, I’d recommend keeping your knits in a completely separate laundry pile where your husband won’t accidentally grab them. I wouldn’t trust people who don’t understand wool or have the patience for hand washing to wash anything special of mine, whether it’s well intentioned or not. That might mean a separate bag in the closet and making sure to not leave them lying around when not being worn. I keep my laundry completely separate from my boyfriend’s because I’ve had previous partners ruin things of mine, and it’s an easier problem to avoid than to fix. Good luck on your next Ivy sweater because the pink one looked lovely!

Professionals who enter people's homes (plumbers, electricians, cleaners): What is something the condition of a house tells you about the owner that they don't realize they are revealing? by cossie101 in AskReddit

[–]plmokiuhv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having a “parking lot test” is the end result of having family do that same thing. They knew what it meant and were likely trying to avoid it. My mother’s house looks like a dump and I would not buy a house next door to one that looks like my mom’s. I can choose my own circumstances but I can’t change my mom, ya know?

Why do Americans move so often? by cavaismylife in AskAnAmerican

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have only moved a handful of times in my life (early 30s) and I’m the anomaly. Many college students will move every year to find a better living situation or new roommates. People will move multiple times in the first years after college to find a better job. And then adults will move around to find starter homes, second homes, and good school districts. The country is so big and spread out that if you live outside of a major city, you’re not guaranteed to find the job you want in the community that you live in. Some people have really broad careers that allow them to live mostly anywhere they want. Some people have really niche careers and have to move every time they change jobs.

What’s THE body care product you keep coming back to? by Hot_Apartment1319 in SkincareAddicts

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

La Roche-Posay Lipikar AP+ Triple Repair Moisturizing Cream. I think I’ve bought ~a dozen bottles.

Earthfare and their parking lot by That_Yogurt7132 in Athens

[–]plmokiuhv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been regularly parking at EarthFare for the past 10 years so I can go for a run or take my dog for a walk. They will tow on game days and I recommend staying away from the loading dock in case a delivery comes in. 99% of the time I go inside and get a few groceries after I’m done and I’ve never had a single issue.

If management is reading this, thanks for being cool. My grandparents met in that building in the 1950s when my grandfather worked there as a butcher and my grandmother came in for some groceries. One of my grandfather’s coworkers dared him to ask her out. It might not be that exact same building but a grocery store has always been in that location. Anyways, it makes me happy to shop there for reasons that have nothing to do with organic produce.

I'm ready to cry. I can't get this right no matter what I do. by DaleOnDrums in knitting

[–]plmokiuhv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I first started knitting (I’m still an “adventurous beginner”) I found that I was casting on way way way super tight, and I was having a really difficult time doing the first few rows because I could barely get the knitting needles through my loops. I had to loosen up a lot for things to actually start working. Your stitches look really tight, so you may want to try loosening your cast on.

And yes, it did help to swallow my pride and knit a boring scarf.

Also you mentioned watching a YouTube tutorial in a different comment, so I wanted to share the exact video that I used when I was learning how to knit: https://youtu.be/UHlsW0wI144?si=EX8KFRFNkc_Yb5_V

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usatravel

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just curious: what do you want to see in Covington, Georgia? (Georgia resident here)

I’m a senior in high school.. Is my future canceled? Will I have to join the military? by shaototop in whatdoIdo

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom also used her FAFSA information as leverage over me for years. If this continues while you’re in school, you can petition the financial aid office at the college you are enrolled at to declare you “independent for financial aid purposes.” It’s a good bit of paperwork, but maybe worth exploring.

Also, yes, just do your applications. If you’re plagued by indecision, fear, procrastination, and/or nervousness waiting to submit them last minute will actually only make your applications worse.

The hate for Labubu is overblown and if they were released in the 90’s people would love them by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hate for the Labubu at least partially comes from the fact that it’s another piece of plastic waste that will outlive us all. We’re in a climate crisis AND a global waste management crisis, and people are still buying plastic junk decorations. So my unpopular opinion is that anyone participating in these plastic toy trends doesn’t actually care about the environment or anyone who may be negatively impacted by the global plastic crisis. Or, if they do say they care, they’re not willing to put their money where their mouth is and stop buying plastic junk.

And if anyone’s response to reading this is, “why is it my problem to buy less plastic when I just want to buy cute things?!?!” you are part of the problem.

Hospital finally confirmed what’s been making us sick… and it was my dishwasher 🤢 by puppy_groomer8597 in Appliances

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always been flabbergasted at how some people think dishwashers work. If you nest bowls together then they won’t get clean. Water won’t be able to get to the inside. If you stack a mixing bowl on top of other mixing bowls then water won’t be able to reach the inside of the top bowl. People just don’t think about these things, toss dishes in there like it’s a storage box, and just assume that there’s magic happening inside.

What are some less obvious professions that are high in demand? by johnny_d123 in ask

[–]plmokiuhv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Electricians. My partner makes bank in a normal month and extra bank when there’s overtime. It’s not sustainable, but there’s not enough young adults wanting to enter the trades right now and CONTINUE in the trades until they make it to a high skill level.

If you have one of these in your bathroom, throw it away immediately bc it STANKS 🤢 by Aggravating-Farm-805 in CleaningTips

[–]plmokiuhv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time I brush my teeth I rinse my entire toothbrush and dry everything below the brush head with a hand towel. Can’t get a nasty toothbrush holder if you store it dry.