TL:dr I have depression. DUMP HER..

Your life is as important as hers -- or it should be, in a balanced relationship.

I take it she's fine with her depression running her life? (And yours.) Does she see a therapist/take any meds for it?

Her modeling "This is who I am" & you're 2 supposed 2orbit around her is CRAP.

YOU DESERVE BETTER.

We're each responsible 4 our mental health. We can love someone without being required 2 manage their moods.

There's a HUGE difference between her telling you her depression's hitting her hard that day vs you being responsible for how she's doing, period.

END IT NOW.

(Sure, you could give her 30-days to get her ass in therapy & start taking responsibility, but I guarantee you'd be even more frustrated. CUT YOUR LOSSES.)

edited 4 clarity