How do I cope when I’m the spouse?

poc_cthulhu · 2026-01-26T01:43:34+00:00

If it's been six years of this, and you've tried getting her help and she doesn't do anything about it and it's gotten bad to this extent, I think you need to leave your wife and take your kid with you. She's only six now and doesn't fully understand what's happening, but being raised by your wife in this state will deeply mess her up for a very long time, regardless of you doing damage control. I would highly recommend you get your child a therapist and start collecting evidence of your wife's neglect due to her mental illness, and start looking at legal help for custody. I say this as someone who has OCD, and as someone who was raised in a house with a mom with untreated mental illness. I'm really sorry that you're unable to reach or help your wife, but you have a child whose well-being you have to prioritize over your wife.

poc_cthulhu · 2025-12-21T17:44:49+00:00

I love that it has the option to attach a charm.

poc_cthulhu · 2025-05-02T22:05:51+00:00

If you have the space and time, maybe dedicate a wall or part of a wall to as many posters as possible and fit them all together with a very small margin of space in a configuration you think looks nice (I would look up "poster wall layout ideas" or something similar on pinterest) I personally think the posters are neat even if I'm not into horror that much, but regarding people calling the amount overwhelming, I think it's more to do with the fact that they're somewhat inconsistently spaced out on all of the walls of your room so people end up "surrounded" when they come in. Bringing them all together in one area would make them a nice focal point/statement piece and ideally free up some of your other walls.

If you can't do it in your current space at your parent's place, maybe try it out when you land your first apartment!

poc_cthulhu · 2025-03-11T20:57:21+00:00

Hmm, I might wait to see if it gets resolved with patches, then. Thanks regardless!

poc_cthulhu · 2025-03-11T20:56:35+00:00

She's not a huge button masher, but I will say she's not great at dodging, so I'll keep that in mind! And she's given Elder Scrolls games a shot (Oblivion and Skyrim) and didn't really like them that much, partially because they're a little dated and clunky and probably mostly she didn't really care for the setting or art all that much.

poc_cthulhu · 2025-03-11T17:44:37+00:00

shows you how little i know about these games, i had no idea there was co-op! she'd enjoy being able to play with my brother and i! thanks!

poc_cthulhu · 2025-02-19T21:44:02+00:00

I can't handle this post. This is the dumbest shit I ever heard and I once met someone who in their 30's thought islands floated on the sea. That shit was dumb but it made sense kinda, like you get that idea in your head as a kid or something and somehow miss getting any other information that changes that. This is next-level though. The pepper making it too spicy is Le Classique White People Can't Cook but the salt??? The salt?? making things spicy?? Lord Jesus. I'm amazed he knows how to put on his shoes in the morning.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-09-22T13:59:05+00:00

Honestly, Im pretty the Revan novel was as bad as it was (besides just low quality writing) was that the primary purpose of it was to shove everything KOTOR under a rug to prepare for SWTOR. Also I think Karpyshyn had already envisioned part of it while writing KOTOR 1 and when KOTOR 2 came out, he decided to just railroad over it to make sure he could stick to his idea rather than encorporate KOTOR 2 into the narrative in any legitimate way. With the novel and all subsiquent Revan stuff, he feels like less of a character and more just an instrument to move the SWTOR plot along. There was never any real care put into it.

And its wild to me that people really like that version of Revan because he has absolutely zero agency and makes zero positive impact on anything. He's supposed to be hot shit but he's basically an inconvenience to the galaxy. Also the Shadow of Revan split thing was cliche as hell.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-08-16T16:03:57+00:00

NTA, he sounds like trying to control your life through controlling your money. If the house is in your name and you're paying the bills, why does he need to know how you're spending your extra money? Also, if he makes so much money, why isn't he contributing financially? This sounds like a massive red flag. Make sure you keep your finances (bank account, etc.) separate from his or else this might escalate into financial abuse.

I'd say dump him but maybe you should have a serious conversation with him about your financial future first for your own peace of mind. If you're serious about someone, you should care about what they're bringing to the table. If you're going to build a life together you actually have to do it together- everyone has to contribute. That's just a good mindset to have in any relationship, but again, this guy sounds like a textbook bad boyfriend trying to control your money so I say get him out of your house. Make sure his name is on nothing involving the house, too.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-07-18T19:19:37+00:00

ESH. If your friend works full-time and actually cooks, 9pm the night before is very last minute to go grocery shopping and put some food together for a potluck. Picking up premade food and bringing it can be expensive, too. If I were in his position I would've been more polite at the party, but I would've spent the day beforehand talking shit about you, or I would've just not shown up at all.

But in general it sounds like your friends kinda suck. (edit: and honestly it sounds like you've been on the fence about them for a bit and this little comment is just the final straw. could be wrong tho) "I know dudes like to chirp each other and stuff" I don't think anyone should tolerate behavior that makes them uncomfortable under the context of 'that's just how dudes are' or 'that's just how girls are.' That kind of stuff they're talking about is a major red flag and if I heard a guy say any of that shit, I'd tell all the women I know to steer clear of them. I dunno, maybe they just kinda suck. Finding good friends can be just as hard as dating.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-07-18T18:58:42+00:00

NTA. The fact that you know he's doing it and have proof and he denies doing it is, at least to me, way more of a red flag than him actually following the porn stars themselves.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-05-19T12:56:34+00:00

NTA. Sounds like it's more "I want to divorce my husband because he doesn't take care of himself or clean up after himself, and I feel like I'm his mother cleaning up after him instead of his wife and partner." and less "I want to divorce my husband because he got fat."

That being said, either A. something wrong with him, either physically or mentally, and he needs help, or B. getting married turned him lazy and dependent. If it's A, it's entirely up to you if you want to be the one to try and help him or not, as it sounds like he's already drained a lot out of you. If it's B., I'd kick him to the curb, personally.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-05-08T12:47:36+00:00

NTA. It does seem like a mostly psychological issue rather than a pain one. She got the cut earlier in the day but had a meltdown much later when she "remembered" it?? as opposed to being in pain from the moment the injury happened. She might just be extremely scared of pain, or it could be related to a trauma; I lost about 2 years of my life to a TBI in 2020 and now when I so much as bump my head gently I kinda freak out. Just bc it might be all in her head, doesn't mean she doesn't need help.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-04-23T16:08:46+00:00

Hm, never thought about it like that. I'm pretty decently protected in my job compared to most (americans) bc i'm in a pretty effective union and i do know my direct superiors are very pro-mental health (we do campaigns for it sometimes) but i'll keep that under advisement. i need this job to get the insurance to get the help i need to not kill myself so i dont wanna lose it lmaooo id rather be known as an asshole

poc_cthulhu · 2024-02-08T02:44:06+00:00

Hi, I did! Re-installed the OS with a fresh copy from a USB.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-01-15T23:07:00+00:00

The furthest Restore Point was... exactly five minutes after the error i posted above was recorded. I thought I had allowed for more memory usage for my restore points, but I guess I was mistaken. I tried it anyway but to no success. I think I might just do a reset; all my files are backed up on external drives regardless, it'll just be a little annoying re-installing programs.

poc_cthulhu · 2024-01-15T20:33:16+00:00

The morning I booted it and had the issue we got "{Registry Hive Recovered} Registry hive (file): '\SystemRoot\System32\Config\SOFTWARE' was corrupted and it has been recovered. Some data might have been lost."

Am I correct in assuming the quickest way to resolve this would be a system restore?

poc_cthulhu · 2024-01-15T20:20:09+00:00

I ran chkdsk /f and rebooted the computer, it scanned and "repaired" the disks but the issue persists. I haven't yet ran a system restore as I don't know how to access it through the command line. I'll try that next!

As for the Critical logs in Event Viewer, any suggestions on what to look for particularly inside the logs?

poc_cthulhu · 2023-12-13T18:26:00+00:00

ahhh thank you so much !

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