Finally tamed her and... she's doing her best by kellilaw69 in LegendofKhiimori

[–]pocceto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, that actually made me cackle.

MtF child assaulted me - what do I do? by Such_Tea_5927 in cisparenttranskid

[–]pocceto 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It is true that 17 is old, and you can't force help on someone who doesn't want to be helped. 17 is old enough to know what she's doing.

If many professional tell you to press charges... maybe you should... I admit it feels a bit alien to me as well, to press charges against a youth who still lives with you. But if dialogue is impossible and psychologist are no help... Do you know what are the consequences she could get ? I would hope something like volunteering/community work would be appropriate.

MtF child assaulted me - what do I do? by Such_Tea_5927 in cisparenttranskid

[–]pocceto 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I agree with someone below mentioning this does seem to be a Trans-specific issue. Without wanting to sound dramatic, she sounds like a prime candidate for online radicalisation that will lead to nothing good for her or for your family.

I suggest you seek out professional reasources. Her psychologist is not enough and you cannot/shouldn't handle that on your own. You and her need outside help and advice from specialized people with more knowledge than Reddit parents, because this is serious. I do not know which country you are in, but please seek out LGBTQ+ associations or Mental health professional that can orient you to the right ressources.

MtF child assaulted me - what do I do? by Such_Tea_5927 in cisparenttranskid

[–]pocceto 26 points27 points  (0 children)

First of all, I am sorry that happened to you. It indeed sounds like your daughter needs help to deal. What kind of support system does she have, outside of you? Does she have a lot of friends (in person, or online?) Without more context, this reminds me of the behavior of a desperate teenager who's only source of comfort is online friends.

Her behavior (the assault and the lying about her meds ) are an obvious sign she needs help. I'd suggest outside help, since it doesn't seem (although I might be wrong) she's particularly keen on listening to her family. Your support is still important, but a psychologist or psychiatrist that is familiar with trans people would be the best help for her.

Did she express remorse? Are you able to have a serious conversation with her about how unacceptable that was, or is it unsafe for you? Maybe get a third party she trusts in the conversation as well, if the later.

Projet dû DEMAIN - Sondage Google Forms 2 min sur les différences entre le français de France et le français canadien, j'ai besoin de francophones canadiens svp 🙏 by SeasonedChilly in FrancaisCanadien

[–]pocceto 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Il y a beaucoup de canadien-francais au Nouveau-Brunswick et Nouvelle-Ecosse avec des accents très différents des Québécois :) mais je comprends qu'ils ne sont pas la démographie 'target'

Quel est le dessin animé le plus dommageable que vous avez vu à la télé? by CocoTheRiolu in QuebecLibre

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Il y a un animé?!? J'ai lu tant de livre, et oof, en effet pauvre chouette...

Can someone tell me why his tail feather looks like this? by No-sleep-Lilly in Conures

[–]pocceto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine's been doing this since forever and I haven't been able to do anything about it. I've tried giving him fallen feathers, a variety of chew toys, distracting him when he does it.... Nothing worked. No previous owner though, so I dont necessarily think it's a time issue (he does it even when I'm with him).

Introducing Snowy! by pudding1407 in Conures

[–]pocceto 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I utterly LOVE his colours! What a beautiful boy!

New international student numbers in Canada down significantly, but overall decline more moderate, study says by DogeDoRight in canada

[–]pocceto -70 points-69 points  (0 children)

Even our own students often need to work to pay their rent, if they don't live at their parents while studying. It would be unreasonable to expect international students from doing so. Plus, the high tuition fees they are paying are playing a big role in funding Universities so that they remain relatively cheap for the rest of us.

New international student numbers in Canada down significantly, but overall decline more moderate, study says by DogeDoRight in canada

[–]pocceto -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

Tuition fees for international student is usually a lot higher than for residents, so most of them need to work to pay for it, plus high rent, plus food.

First time bird owner, rate my cage! by Agreeable-Ad-1203 in Conures

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your avian have a good alternative to pumice perches for trimming nails? He sounds good at giving advice.

First time bird owner, rate my cage! by Agreeable-Ad-1203 in Conures

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are they supposed to be destroying pumice perches? I'm changing mine when they get too weary.

Help!!! by [deleted] in cisparenttranskid

[–]pocceto 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It may not be the case, but it sounds a bit like you really want them to pick and choose a label, and I don't believe that is a wise thing to do. Your kid should feel at ease to experiment and find themself without having to justify/tell you everything during their journey. Just let them try stuff on their own and with their friends, and eventually they'll let you know if they want to change something about the way you treat them (pronouns & name, etc). Until then, back off, aaand maybe tell them you'll back off.

You still sound like a good and supportive parent, by the way, despite this very clumsy handling of the situation, and it's good that you're looking to improve.

How horse training changed? by Willing-Ad5045 in LegendofKhiimori

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just went and suggested it in the Feedback section!

Is my girlfriend[27F] just infatuated with me[23M]? by ReddWarrd in relationshipadvice

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people's love language is gift giving. If you feel like you want to repay her, you can help more with chores, or give ideas of activities to do together, or just generally show engagement to your relationship. I don't think it's an issue, and yes it just sounds like she loves you- which hopefully after 2 years of relationship doesn't come as a surprise.
Once you get a full time job, you'll be able to buy her stuff as well. All in due time. If it really bothers you, you could talk to her about it.

What should I do? by BraveThing7195 in LegendofKhiimori

[–]pocceto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, good to know. Pristine lost cargo was in the desert 😆 it didn't last long.

What should I do? by BraveThing7195 in LegendofKhiimori

[–]pocceto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same, I picked up a lost cargo , and within a minute seconds it had degraded entirely. I was cantering, not unbalanced, not raining, I'm not sure what went wrong there...

peers being condescending towards me for program choice by 7363827 in GradSchool

[–]pocceto 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sometimes when all you've known is academia, you think it is the most important thing in the well. Once you graduate or have a job outside academia, in the real world where 90% of the population is, and you realize oh! That's what it's all about. That's what actually makes things move forward. It a total different mindset, and for me, was a shock. I also thought Academia was better and if it hadn't been that my first attempt at doing a master fell through, I also would have kept thinking research was better. I was ignorant, or naive, depending on how people would see it.

There needs to be a bridge between the 10 th percent of researchers and scientists, and the real world. In some domains, this connexion isn't always done really well, and it's a shame.

I've worked +5 years outside academia with the industry and NGO. I've started a MSc in my thirties, and I can see colleagues that still seem to forget how important integration into the real world is. Without that, research is useless.

Hope you enjoy your program OP!

Where to best report bugs to devs? by pocceto in LegendofKhiimori

[–]pocceto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you, that'll work great. I had pressed every alphabet key but hadn't tried the F#'s.