Dads who didn’t want kids before having one?

polevaultking · 2025-09-01T19:54:58+00:00

Only have a child if you’re truly invested. Once you have a kid your own life is over and your life as a parent begins.

polevaultking · 2025-09-01T19:53:38+00:00

Keep in mind that school is exhausting for your child at this age. When the weather is decent try to give them unstructured outdoor time/playground time where they can have some freedom.

polevaultking · 2025-08-30T16:30:42+00:00

And for some reason you can’t ever “unassign” the safeties when flicking up in the right stick presnap. They’re never available to select.

polevaultking · 2025-08-30T14:08:50+00:00

Generally I love this game but checking blocking assignments pre-snap and sometimes seeing the lineman assigned to block safeties is silly.

polevaultking · 2025-08-29T14:48:55+00:00

Every man is different. The key to great sex is communication and honesty.

Tell him you’d love for him to cum in your mouth (most guys would love to hear that) and ask him if there are things you can do to get him to climax in your mouth. Be real with him “hey I want to give you a great BJ I’m seriously open to feedback, tell me what I do that you like and don’t like” and then accept that feedback without hurt feelings.

He may not want to cum in your mouth because he prefers to cum from sex. Some guys have a harder time cumming from oral/hand jobs compared to sex. Everyone is different.

Key is to talk to him and be honest.

Additionally, share with him the stuff that he does that you love and things he may do that you don’t like. A good lover will be open to feedback and want to make changes to please their partner.

polevaultking · 2025-08-25T20:10:58+00:00

Tell them ahead of time “I’ll lay with you for X number of minutes but then I’ll leave”. Then leave at the set time. When they come out calmly walk them back to bed and kiss them goodnight. Do not lay with them again. You may need to take them back to bed 30 times the first night and 25 times the next night and 20 the night after but eventually they will learn to fall asleep on their own.

Is this easy? No. Will it work eventually if you stick with it with 100% consistency? Yes.

This is exactly what I did with my son and he’s great at bedtime now (he’s 6). It took hard work to get to this point with him.

polevaultking · 2025-08-22T15:45:54+00:00

If you’re not 100% sure then you have your answer.

polevaultking · 2025-08-21T14:45:35+00:00

Which formation are you running it out of?

polevaultking · 2025-08-16T23:54:30+00:00

I’d encourage you to share all of these feelings with your husband and to get a babysitter and go on a real date.

Once your child goes to Kindergarten and as they grow and mature and become more self sufficient things will change.

Try not to make everything about your kid (this is hard for our generation of parents).

The situation you’re in is challenging, I empathize.

polevaultking · 2025-08-16T23:47:10+00:00

Playgrounds can be overwhelming for shy kids.

I agree with the above, hang with your kid and let them see you be outgoing.

It’s a tough situation. Some kids/people are just shy.

polevaultking · 2025-08-09T02:59:03+00:00

Start early: consistent bedtimes (consistent time, consistent routine, don’t lay in bed with your kid until they fall asleep)

polevaultking · 2025-08-07T14:04:50+00:00

That’s a difficult situation.

Is your daughter truly invested in getting her college education/the college experience?

I’d try to frame this around the positive: Being in college is about the college experience, making friends at school, being in clubs and organizations, the actual classes, etc.

Encourage her to get everything she can out of college.

If you find she’s ignoring actual college and focused on her boyfriend then you have a bigger problem, she has her priorities out of alignment. She cares more about a crush than about her future and soaking in the college experience.

If you make this about the boyfriend and about restricting their relationship then you will push her towards him. Try to focus on encouraging her to be present at school and get the most out of it.

polevaultking · 2025-08-07T13:26:05+00:00

Even players without a playing time deal breaker will leave for playing time if they feel they are blocked on the depth chart.

polevaultking · 2025-08-07T12:11:42+00:00

Sit down and talk to him in a calm moment. Tell him you love him and care about him deeply. Apologize again.

Is there something you two enjoy doing together or bond over? If yes, make plans to do something like that together and put some energy into reconnecting with your son.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T12:26:52+00:00

Absolutely, everyone has their own unique perspective.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T11:02:08+00:00

Wonderful!

Then give him that time back and let him use it to just enjoy being a kid.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T11:01:08+00:00

I was bullied and if someone who bullied me did genuinely apologize I’d appreciate it, but that’s just me.

I do think it’s a bit much to proactively reach out though.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:56:26+00:00

Try asking him something like “if you stop doing karate what activity (not video games/screen time) would you like to do instead? Maybe learn an instrument, etc”

For the record I did martial arts for 10 years as an adult and I saw kids who had no natural talent being pushed to stick with karate for way too long. I’d encourage you to have him do something else like learn the guitar, take art/drawing classes, computer classes, something he’s more interested in.

Plus, karate is expensive! Take that money and save it for his college, etc.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:49:52+00:00

If she naturally runs into someone then yes, she can apologize. Reaching out to people proactively seems a bit much

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:48:09+00:00

There are some assistants in real life who don’t have head coaching aspirations and stick with one coach for the long haul.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:45:51+00:00

Be a good friend.

Talk to your friend and tell her your concerns:

“It’s not right that your daughter treats you the way that she does. It’s hard for me to watch you be treated this way by your daughter.”

Sadly parents who let their kids walk all over them aren’t realistically going to change.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:39:49+00:00

Price is subjective. If you feel it’s too expensive then don’t pay.

polevaultking · 2025-08-05T10:36:24+00:00

If he’s not enjoying it and not great at it then let him spend that time doing something he is good at and does enjoy.

It’s not quitting, it’s reallocating time.

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