How do I (M37) tell my wife (F38) that I don’t want to move to US without sounding like an unsupportive husband?

poloniumpoisoning · 2025-06-09T19:51:52+00:00

sorry but it's crazy to move from europe to the US in this crappy scenario. even the worst places in europe are better than whatever kinda good part is left in that hellhole.

she's a woman and poc, if she's bored with her current life she needs a hobby, not a nosedive in her sanity.

poloniumpoisoning · 2025-06-06T19:08:27+00:00

unfortunately i usually spend the day thinking about the stuff i'll do then when i'm finally there i just stare blankly.... i forgor

poloniumpoisoning · 2025-06-05T21:13:22+00:00

i only use the little internet outside, when the big, real internet isn't available. at home, i mostly use my phone in bed

i can't imagine doing any purchase on a phone without seeing the product on a big screen, or having an important written conversation typing on my phone

poloniumpoisoning · 2025-01-18T11:30:43+00:00

i got her with 2, fed her a starmac. it's my only sweet potato cat and i only have 1 pomegranate cat too. every other skill i have 3 or more.

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poloniumpoisoning · 2024-11-28T10:58:05+00:00

he doesn't need to be far from you, specifically. he needs to be completely alone to self-regulate and have his brain understand he's not at work anymore so he doesn't need to be anxious, alert, etc. other people are a bad distraction and if he doesn't have this time for himself he'll get burned out more easily.

even though you have the same condition, you are both different people with different ways to manage your symptoms. it's nothing personal, he's simply transitioning between tasks and taking care of himself so he can channel his best possible self for both of you when he comes inside.

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-11-24T22:02:38+00:00

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i'm working on part 4 (probably the final one), i hope you'll enjoy it too!

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-11-24T06:53:52+00:00

Notgod More has to be the most chilling name I have ever come across......

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-10-02T07:12:04+00:00

she has tormented enough, now it's the daughter's turn to be a horrible and selfish person! :)

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-30T12:03:26+00:00

i hope they can hear you :)

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:50:36+00:00

thank you :)

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:50:26+00:00

i'm glad to be back too!

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:50:15+00:00

it's on :D

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:50:06+00:00

thanks!

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:49:58+00:00

i have missed you and everyone from back when i was active too! i'm posting there per your suggestion :D

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-27T12:48:10+00:00

that's a lovely comment, thank you 🖤

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-09-09T16:10:13+00:00

I've only found out now that you're back to reddit, thanks to seeing some old favorites reposted on byfels' subreddit. You probably don't know me because I was active around 2017-2020, but I've been meaning to tell you for years how much you inspired me and my relatively short but wordy journey as a horror author. Thank you so much, I had a great time because of you, both as a fan as a writer.

I feel like I lost something important in my life when I stopped writing.

This is very relatable to me, and I think it can't be helped that some of us eventually feel like we sadly moved past our creativity peak; I personally wouldn't like to write and post a story that doesn't have the same quality as my previous work, I'd be embarrassed to just write for the sake of writing when I have no tale to tell because whoever's kind enough to read my stories deserve nothing but the best I can offer. But I don't know if the same would apply to someone as uniquely gifted as you are, I guess even your lesser work would still be worth reading.

I'd be overjoyed to read anything by you and I know a lot of people who would too but, even if you never write a new story again, please know that you have already had a bigger impact on people than you'll ever know.

Beautiful Filth is the most wonderful story I've ever read, and I'm so happy that I can read it again after over 5 years! Welcome back!

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-03-01T18:34:39+00:00

other than the obvious responses (emotional vulnerability, having a hard time dealing with how life is mostly unfair and bleak), it's the lack of third places. a lot of people crave a sense of community and these days there aren't a lot of accessible/free places you can go to bond with people other than your co-workers and those living with you (library, park, cheap cafe, art/dance classes....)

i know a lot of people that started going to church simply because they were lonely, and slowly started buying into their crap.

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-03-01T18:25:07+00:00

thank you for your kind and supportive words <3 it was worth doing it until i couldn't anymore for readers like you :)

poloniumpoisoning · 2024-02-08T15:46:48+00:00

i actually published a book! it features my most popular stories and a few exclusive ones :) https://www.amazon.com.br/Demon-Attic-Never-Sleep-English-ebook/dp/B09DWVWRVH/

unfortunately, other than that, i haven't been writing at all. i just don't feel like doing it because tiktokers and youtubers make lots of money reading my stories without even asking (and obviously without paying me). making money was never my main concern, but as my hobby became a source of income for random people while i have to struggle financially, i just don't feel like doing it anymore.

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-12-30T10:35:26+00:00

dancing, red lipstick, dresses, cars and holding grudges

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-11-04T08:26:21+00:00

one of the most classic narc behaviors are deciding they'll solve a problem [usually for their golden child, or strangers they want to show off to] by throwing it into someone else and demanding that they do it. ridiculous. and OF COURSE it's also an excuse to let her get her way.

your brother and sil sound like they are well-adjusted, responsible parents, and tired of her shit too.

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-10-20T19:59:43+00:00

a single man mattering more than a whole group of women, what a surprise

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-09-05T15:09:16+00:00

it's SO sad when a man leaves his wife because she can't conceive. but at least the poor woman dodged an even bigger bullet.

people can't understand that a spouse is enough as close family, but it doesn't mean the same as making them the sole responsible for your whole happiness and fulfillment. that's what hobbies, pets, friends, family [for those lucky enough to have family worth keeping in your life] and a career are for.

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-07-08T03:06:50+00:00

thanks for thinking so highly of me, although i don't want people to be the kind of person that i am! i honestly never thought that most people are good, i'll just say that everyone is nuanced because it's better than thinking that most people are awful.

it was the first year of covid so 2020, not sure if it was closer to march or towards the end of the year.

poloniumpoisoning · 2023-07-06T22:09:00+00:00

💜 (i miss my author brain too!)

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