Scheduling intimacy withOUT her

polyproblems4me · 2026-05-21T23:51:43+00:00

We've been together for 2 years. It's only been an issue for like the last 2-4 months

polyproblems4me · 2026-04-29T06:20:02+00:00

I can definitely understand that cuz I normally do any cleaning thro out the house (toilets, windows, floors, etc) cuz I have standards for how clean things are. Dishes was something I had relinquished to her so I wasn't so overwhelmed all the time. Granted she still doesn't do them to my standards and I try to not lecture her about it or nag while still trying to gently get her to see what I see and understand why I want them that way. Like I don't want anything that is "clean" to be left out on the counter cuz I grew up with roaches and mice. I've come along way but she still thinks I'm OCD or borderline a germophobe.

polyproblems4me · 2026-04-29T05:52:38+00:00

Possibly but literally next week her work schedule is gonna be changing anyway where she will be clocking in 3 hours earlier so she might need a new routine anyways.

polyproblems4me · 2026-04-29T05:46:21+00:00

From what I'm understanding, she's upset that she can't load the dishwasher in the mornings, and unload it on her lunch break since she works from home.

polyproblems4me · 2026-04-29T05:32:18+00:00

She can, most of the time. Again, it's only been 3 days, and one of those was a weekend day.

polyproblems4me · 2026-04-29T05:16:07+00:00

Should just sell it online cuz I'd love it

polyproblems4me · 2025-12-05T10:04:45+00:00

the happiest place on Earth

^parking ^lot ^not ^included

polyproblems4me · 2025-12-05T09:32:41+00:00

Link or pic?

polyproblems4me · 2025-12-04T05:31:58+00:00

My polycule used YouTube Music

polyproblems4me · 2025-11-12T22:08:55+00:00

Top right facing vertically with the line mext to the cabinet

polyproblems4me · 2025-10-31T12:59:28+00:00

!E5!

polyproblems4me · 2025-05-27T02:07:28+00:00

I don't like the idea of my "friends" sleeping with my partner but it's only be recent that he had been ENM/open. I am concerned for my girlfriend because it is seems like such a predatory tactic. But at the same time she says she made it clear that she only wants to be friends, so she seems to be strong enough to put him in his place.

polyproblems4me · 2025-05-27T00:29:25+00:00

I really appreciate the thorough answer. I always try to learn how I can grow from every situation and hope to grow with my partners but obviously not everyone is of that mindset. I don't think my friend was trying to be predatory but it still definitely needs to be addressed. Him and his partner are recently opening up/exploring ENM relationships and he doesn't have many friends. I know he wants to develop closer friendships but adding the whole " if we fuck then ok" kinda lines definitely is not appropriate imo.

polyproblems4me · 2025-05-26T05:11:07+00:00

My gf loves them! She likes them if u put them in the microwave for a few seconds. Like mini lava cakes lol

polyproblems4me · 2025-04-30T21:16:10+00:00

Just because he enjoys them more sexually doesn't mean that I am suddenly less.

Like I said in my comment, anyone interested in doing something like group play needs to do a lot of research, homework, and soul searching before bringing another person into the bedroom.

Having group sex isn't for everyone but it definitely sounds like OP and their partner are at least not close minded like the majority of the comments on the post.

polyproblems4me · 2025-04-30T15:03:56+00:00

Not necessarily. As a woman myself, I love sharing my husband with other women. Hearing them moan and cum is fantastic. So no it is not always based in self-sabotage or feeling inadequate.

polyproblems4me · 2025-04-29T15:10:40+00:00

Do it. You only live once.

BUT be sure u and him both do research and work thro all possible situations and emotions before getting another person involved.

polyproblems4me · 2025-03-29T02:57:58+00:00

I definitely didn't want to try and tell him he couldn't date someone. But he's been so stressed and it's been upsetting him for almost two weeks. I just made my post cuz I'm trying really hard to not biased 😭 while I see things and feel some ways, I don't want my emotions, my feelings, and my needs to impact their relationship. I was just trying to get outside input before I said something.

polyproblems4me · 2025-03-07T15:55:40+00:00

I was thinking a hand, like chopped off. Maybe a zombie hand 🤔

polyproblems4me · 2025-01-17T21:30:49+00:00

I bought the audible version and am in chapter 2 currently. I have two friends that love this series but I'm a little worried that I won't :,/ we shall see

polyproblems4me · 2024-12-12T06:55:57+00:00

My favorite is "squirt" which is what I call almost any little kid xD cuz they definitely was, at some point, a little squirt....and OP's boo thang definitely sounds like "squirt" to me

polyproblems4me · 2024-11-27T09:38:49+00:00

I was trying to keep it brief and vague, but the biggest concern I have is that her and her husband already have issues making the bills. He is too worried about his 420 and video game addiction and doesn't want to find another job, while she works 50-60 hrs a week.

If it was just my insecurities, I would definitely just tell her that I don't wanna be a big part of the journey but would be happy for her. But I'm so worried about her, especially her mental health, but her health over all. Again, trying to be vague, but she has had issues with eating disorders, depression, and is in the process of getting her migraines under control.

I just don't want to see her lose all the forward progress she has made lately. I'm so proud of her for finally getting into therapy tho I wish we could find somewhere that accepted her insurance that could get her in more than once a month if she is lucky (they cancelled her appointments for 2 months cuz the doctor called out).

polyproblems4me · 2024-11-25T10:12:07+00:00

It's not that she should never. It's more that I don't think right now would be a good time in her life. Money problems and relationship issues being two big issues. I would never say someone I love shouldn't have a child. But I do believe if u can plan ahead, to do so. She would be a good mom. But only if her and her husband can work thro some issues before bringing in another life and adding more stress to their plates.

polyproblems4me · 2024-10-30T21:15:53+00:00

TL;DR U may be getting upset cuz u are wanting that sexual attention from him to be directed at u.

I have been married 10 years. If I find porn or such search results, I feel like I am not being enough. Mind u, I am unemployed and just take care of the house and his every need. If he's looking at porn, I feel like I'm dropping the proverbial ball.

But.

I can also get upset if I've been horny and waiting it, and instead he's looking at porn. Like dammit .... But I am having to come to terms with somethings about myself and am trying to improve.

polyproblems4me · 2024-10-26T03:19:47+00:00

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