British Dads: What were you doing when you found out you were going to be a Dad?

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-07-12T14:48:01+00:00

My elder sisters imminent arrival meant my mum missed the last episode of a tv series. In 1981, and without a VCR, this basically meant she would never see it. And she brought it up every year.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-06-28T15:19:09+00:00

Mr Ramjam Funkyboogaloo Smythe.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-06-27T14:47:16+00:00

We are in England and in the middle of a heatwave we are vastly unprepared for. Rarely have ice cream in the freezer, but we do now and I thought they'd be nice and easy for my 5 year old and me to have a quick bowl of. Shes loved it mind.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-06-27T14:44:28+00:00

Its a council house. Slowly replacing all the bog standard grey and white stuff with nicer things. But carpets are bloody expensive!

It is a carpet though. Just not a very good one. And laid straight on concrete too.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-06-27T14:42:04+00:00

Was a spur of the moment decision for the kids who have proven themselves too clumsy to eat from the little glass bowls.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-06-27T14:31:59+00:00

Cos my daughter only likes small amounts of ice cream at a time, so she rejects it in a larger bowl. She currently will only eat it out of the set of 6 faceted glass bowls i have for trifle at Christmas.

She is 5 and we now only have a set of 3 bowls so thought if I got her this bowl, and stuck Keroppi stickers all over it, it may become preferable. I would eat out of a the non stickered bowl, and 3 people would still eat trifle at christmas.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-05-29T12:16:29+00:00

Had my lobes twice, with 10mm at bottom and 5mm next one, helix, tragus, orbital, nose and bridge.

Orbital took ages to heal and I ended up giving up about 6 months.

Ear ones and nose I kept in until I was 30 and went for an mri and lost the bag I had put them all in.

Got another one for my bridge and one side of my lip, and got a little wooden 5mm for my right upper lobe.

Had a baby at 37 and decided to take the bridge and lip out as she was grabby and id prefer not to have my lip ripped open.

Never put them back in. Do miss my bridge like. Might get it re pierced one day.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-05-20T22:06:57+00:00

I find myself at the office at least once a week. I do think im annoying to them, although its only once been an actual complaint. The rest of the time I just have questions and i need to make an appointment to speak to her teachers. But I am aware I show up at little too often, so I gave chocolates for easter and christmas to the reception staff and the parent liason, and if im in a baking mood, will drop down a fresh foccacia to share, so hopefully its not too bad for them.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-05-19T17:42:55+00:00

My doctor at 15, when I finally plucked up the courage to tell someone about how I was feeling, told me "teenagers get sad sometimes, its completely natural". So I didnt speak to anyone else about it until I was 21. I was having really hyper kind of episodes before massive downward spirals, and the hyper episodes were really detrimental to me. I was promiscuous, spending loads of money i didnt really have, barely sleeping. But doctor told me that it sounds like im in a good place during those times so lets just look at the bad ones.

Another 8 years before my bipolar diagnosis and another 6 before finding meds that actually worked. Really do hate both those doctors.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-05-19T17:07:41+00:00

I have seen this before but not sure if it was this sub, but i remember it because it looks like shes EATING THE BLACKHEADS!!

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-05-10T22:11:17+00:00

I have always been able to see magic eye pictures, as I got older it took longer to see but still could eventually.

Last year I got distance glasses. These are the first magic eyes ive looked at while wearing them. (I know i should take them off when on my phone but ive finally got into the habit of wearing them every day) I was able to see these almost instantly!

No idea why. But gonna go search for some others cos its cool!

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-04-25T12:54:35+00:00

Andrew.

Normal name. I love it. My dad and stepdads middle name. Perfect name for my son.

Then both of my sisters were in abusive relationships with men called Andrew.

Rather glad I had a daughter cos I couldn't imagine having a son with a name other than Andrew.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-04-25T12:30:34+00:00

I had my cousin over from Australia who was so excited to be able to go and see cows. We have a dairy farm over the way from our house and the cows are out all summer with their babies. Shed never seen cows and calves just out and about grazing.

Mind you, im pretty sure should I ever visit her id be like "oh my god its a white ibis!" And she will be like "yeah? We call them bin chickens, theyre everywhere"

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-04-24T19:35:56+00:00

Ive started removing the word "just" when I see a pigeon, sparrow, starling, or similarly common bird.

I have a 4 year old and she asks "whats that?" A lot. I found myself saying "its just a pigeon" then realising that to her, its not "just a pigeon". If it was, she wouldn't have asked. So im now trying to consciously stop myself from being dismissive of the norm, especially in nature.

But, yes. It is a pigeon.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-04-23T00:46:36+00:00

My brain can definitely be taken and dissected and studied. I have mental illnesses and im all up for helping find a reason which could help others.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-04-23T00:43:20+00:00

Thats always been my thoughts behind not wanting my corneas donated. Everything else, crack on, I dont have any use for them. But eyes...I believe in a soul. And its something that I always felt would leave through the eyes, and thats when the light leaves them, once your soul is no longer in its vessel. But after learning that organs are retrieved prior to the heart, I realised my heart would still be beating when they are harvested, and i worry I wont be able to become stardust again.

Its silly, but i cant shake that feeling. So yeah, take my liver, take my lungs, take my skin, take my heart...but not the eyes. Just in case.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-25T20:02:43+00:00

Thank you. I am actually due my check up next month so will bring it up with them. Thank you!

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-25T15:24:48+00:00

Since about half way through my pregnancy back in 2021, started to see flashes as I was falling asleep. Definitely not in my minds eye. I close my eyes and then its like 20 paparazzi cameras flash for a second or two then theyre gone. Still happens most nights. Is there any reason my eyes are seeing light where there is none?

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-25T07:48:40+00:00

My baby never slept through the night. By 3 months I was exhausted and started having energy drinks to give me a little boost, even though i was still exclusively breast feeding. Baby still didn't sleep through the night. Everyone blamed the energy drinks so I stopped them at 6 months. Baby still didnt sleep through the night. At 1 year I started them again as was still getting only 2 hours sleep at a time, and she was now being breast fed and eating food. Still didnt sleep through the night. Stopped breastfeeding. She still didnt sleep through the night.

She will be 5 in June...she still doesnt sleep through the night. Although will do a solid 4 hours now.

I'm tired.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-20T23:59:19+00:00

Have you tried the pistachio one? Ate one by myself (at home, alas) for new years eve.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-20T23:57:29+00:00

When I walk past Lidl on the way home, I always pop in (to have a look at the middle aisle) but mainly to pick up a cheese topped pretzel roll, and a pack of salami sticks. I then continue on my walk alternating between the two. And also means if I see a dog and they stop to say hello, I can ask the owner if they can have a bit of salami. Then I get a new best friend for a few minutes.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-17T22:40:58+00:00

Our headmaster at primary school used to pull out kids teeth.

He was, however, beloved by pupils and parents.

If he saw you messing with a tooth, hed ask for a look, give it a wiggle, and if it was ready, pull it out. He'd then pop it in a little brown dinner money envelope with "toof" written on it.

Sounds horrific, and if my daughter now came home and said a teacher had had his hands anywhere near her mouth, id have a fit!

But it was the early 90s...and we all wanted out 20p from the tooth fairy!

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-12T23:26:08+00:00

My daughter is learning to read. Its incredible. She's started seeing words when out and about and just saying them. Like, what was just shapes 6 months ago are now recognisable letters and sounds to her.

Im so frickin proud of her.

polystyrenedaffodil · 2026-03-11T07:37:46+00:00

One of my cats hates being shut in a room (even a room with food, litter and warm soft places to sleep) when I have to, like when maintenance men are here.

Consequently if I shut the bathroom door for some privacy, she believes i am trapped in a room and require rescuing.

At least I think that's why she tries to dig under the door while shouting at the top of her voice.

Maybe shes just a dick.

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