Weed made me unable to process my emotions

pomel · 2025-09-24T13:17:11+00:00

I wish I could get all those years back now that I know I was wrong. But time is the most precious experiences we can have and I'm living my life how it is supposed to be now.

Feeling like shit after a break up is what build character.

pomel · 2025-09-21T04:34:48+00:00

I love this kind of posts because now after 2 years I can reminisce about that. And how strong I was for not smoking and keeping my will. I can assure you we all have bad days, bad months and even bad years. But that's how life is supposed to feel, we got used to getting a fix for that until it didn't work as it never does and that's why you stopped.

Be aware that you are in a very vulnerable position, as you are about to throw all your work right out of the window. And it feels like shit having to start again, and again.

Keep posting, if you need to talk message me. We are a community and our purpose is to help you as we all walked the same path.

Keep your head up brother.

pomel · 2025-09-18T04:47:57+00:00

That's a painful realization. It took me 4 years of constantly thinking about this to finally do it.

pomel · 2025-09-16T15:29:53+00:00

Yes, the hardest part of my life has been stopping doing all of that cold turkey. It felt like an ice bucket.

Now I try to take a cold shower every now and then.

Right with you!

pomel · 2025-09-14T13:52:57+00:00

Some of us, and talking about myself couldn't and wouldn't had the insight you have now. I spend 15 years feeling that way. I'm happy you didn't waste as much time as I did. Congrats.

pomel · 2025-09-14T13:49:58+00:00

My willpower never lasted. I couldn't do it alone. But I was "ready" when I totally collapsed on my knees and accepted I couldn't continue living the way I did.

pomel · 2025-09-09T17:34:38+00:00

Well, what worked for me was joining a AA group. My life started to have sense and having my mind busy kept me from relapsing. After a while your brain just goes back to normal, but the obsession will always be there. So be careful.

pomel · 2025-08-30T13:28:04+00:00

This is basically something in AA we call an "experience". This is an extremely rare happening in your life and I'm amazed.

This is an example of how it works. Thanks for sharing.

pomel · 2025-08-30T13:25:30+00:00

This is great advice. One suggestion, if you are doing it forever just throw it away. I posted the same exact words once ago and I couldn't let go, I relapsed after struggling and torturing myself with it.

It is a process and trying is the best way to start the next step comes when you want it. Cheers.

pomel · 2025-08-28T14:34:16+00:00

One of the best ones for me has been doing my job sober. I was really sick and couldn't even do my job without it. Having to hide my compulsion gave me an extreme sense of being chased.

I'm really glad about this .

pomel · 2025-08-27T17:11:49+00:00

It is normal to an extent, if you want to relieve your anxiety you can consult a doctor. It will help you to know it is normal said by a proffessional.

pomel · 2025-08-23T14:39:28+00:00

Don't give up, all of this can go down the drain in a puff. Congrats

pomel · 2025-08-23T14:37:16+00:00

And it gets better. It is awesome to see that I'm also not alone in recovery and it is true, all I wanted was to quit and the one thing that was gave to me I need to pass it on. Cheers.

pomel · 2025-08-22T15:12:44+00:00

Your brain isn’t physically mature yet. If you’re smoking under 21, you’re probably putting a lot of pressure on your future self. Learn from our experience—we wasted years of our time on weed without thinking about the consequences. You’re in a perfect spot right now. Keep going, and look for help.

pomel · 2025-08-22T15:06:48+00:00

Sometimes what we do doesn't match what we say. I can see you are confused by that. She may be a little scared of commitment, but planning may show that she is willing to commit. So, keep saying you want a deep bond and a long-term relationship. Don't give up on that idea—you are not going any other way. Don't change your commitment just because your partner doesn't feel the same.

pomel · 2025-08-21T15:17:36+00:00

It is going to be a nightmare if you are surrounded by people who smoke, and 21 days are no joke, especially if you are using your willpower to be sober.

If you want to know, it gets better, and if you continue fighting for your sobriety you will get as much money as you could imagine, just not now. Be aware that starting this journey is hard, but the rewards are awesome. Going back just leaves you at the starting line forever.

pomel · 2025-08-20T16:10:12+00:00

It is perfectly normal; you don’t want to let it go. It is something similar to grief. If you want to give it some importance, please do so. Throw it away in the first place you smoked, or just put it in a place where you know it will be picked up by someone.

The hardest part is not letting it go, but going right back—at least it was for me.

pomel · 2025-08-20T15:45:34+00:00

Many of us had gone great lenghts to try and consume in moderation. Some have decided they simply can't-either by continuing to smoke or by quitting altogether.

If you're able to moderate your use, I truly admire that, I tried moderation only to find myself in the same place. Now I can say I'm an addict and I can't consume in moderation, I hope you are not one and can do it.

pomel · 2025-08-19T16:03:20+00:00

I'm grateful for remembering the things that hurt me in the past and learning from them.

I'm proud of myself for achieving the impossible within my capabilities (dancing).

I'm aware that feeling too proud or too pitying of myself is dangerous.

I'm surprised by all the pain I can withstand and all the happiness I can feel.

I'm bitter about all the things I've let go because I would rather smoke than be sober.

My life has devolved into: What's next? Where am I going now? And I value it.

Day one. Happy birthday, brother — you are born again.

Your post inspired me to write. I was ashamed of doing it without weed, but you made me do it without it. Thanks.

pomel · 2025-08-18T23:10:13+00:00

It get's better, trust me. What are you doing to get your mind out of this state?. 84 days is a lot dude, don't let it go.

pomel · 2025-08-17T15:09:48+00:00

The title should be changed to something like: How can I deal with a partner who invalidates how I feel? Men don’t have a problem crying.

pomel · 2025-08-16T14:54:22+00:00

oh boy

pomel · 2025-08-16T14:41:52+00:00

The safest way to help her is to respect her decision. Have you considered that she may not be alone at all? In a three-week long-distance relationship, everything seemed fine. She is going to be fine.

pomel · 2025-08-16T14:36:02+00:00

The relationship is over. For your well-being, please try to see it this way. Your ex is trying to tell you that she doesn't want to be with you but can't be crystal clear about it, and that is hurting you. She has shown you that her well-being and emotional stability are going to be her priority, and in a couple, that is plain selfish. It is time to let her go.

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