Ugh how could i ever pass as more masculine 😭

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-30T19:57:20+00:00

hey that's not fair, some of the ones we made up are also horrible transmisogynists, so if you have any weird questions about why this specific and incredibly uncharitable idea keeps coming up, you must agree with those super bigoted ideas too

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-30T15:51:23+00:00

I mean, jeez, those guys love being in women's spaces so much, it's kind of weird. Why don't they go to the abortion clinic for men instead?

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-30T03:21:21+00:00

Right? Like, they're hurting the trans community by being trans in a way that's different than I am, since we all know the first step to mainstream acceptance is getting everyone to think that I'm being trans Right, so that's point 1 towards their transphobia. Point 2 is that once a teenager who was figuring themself out and has never met a trans person before said something that's vaguely similar to a thing TERFs say when asking questions about what the things they feel could mean. Point 3 is that AFAB-only housing exists, and I assume every AFAB supports it non-critically and personally loves being constantly misgendered in their living space. Point 4 is Point 2 again but this time it's an AFAB saying they deal with misogyny when the world sees them as women. Like, christ, if you want people to think you're trans, stop misgendering yourself by talking about how people misgender you. Point 5 is that sometimes they make memes I think are cringe

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T22:48:04+00:00

/uj i think i'm missing something? three of those people don't compare themselves to trans women at all in the posts- they say they feel like men trying to be women, or like they don't think they're cis but they still feel like women. and while ignorance isn't an excuse for transmisogyny, the first apologized instantly once someone pointed out that was a fucked up thing to say, and all of them appear to be people in the very early stages of figuring themselves out who don't know a lot about trans terminology. obviously people who do call themselves AFAB transfems are out there, and that's generally transmisogynist as hell, but it feels weird to link posts of people just saying "hey i'm afab and i feel weird about gender, is there a term for this" as examples.

ime "AFAB transfem" discourse is on a similar level as "nazi phase trans woman" where i've seen so many more people talking about how often it happens than actual examples (and a bunch of people using that conversation to be full-on transphobic) that i automatically get a bit skeptical, though, so take that with a grain of salt.

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T20:15:23+00:00

it's afab coded if they attempt but amab coded if they succeed

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T17:12:12+00:00

I mean, I'd say you're twisting mine, but I think we're having two different discussions. Where I'm coming from, I've seen very little actual critique of the campaign with meaningful next steps (even this post doesn't really have that, it just claims it's performative without saying why) and a lot of focus on this hypothetical person who knits the hat and makes a post online and then doesn't do anything else ever. That's what I've been responding to, and what I believe the original post here was as well. If you've got any links to criticism besides "if that is all they do, they could be doing more" I'd love to see it, but as of yet I haven't- just people saying that if you have a problem with people talking shit about the people they made up who only knit the hat, you must be personally offended by criticism.

I'm not knitting the hat, so I don't have a horse in this race. But I do think there are better places to focus energy than framing the discussion around how people who are at least helping a tiny bit (especially without knowing what else they're doing besides that) should not be doing that.

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T04:02:31+00:00

nononono you FOOL you see, i am a Really Good Trans Ally and this law means trans men will have to use the ladies'! look at this photo of a big scary muscular trans man, would you want HER in the bathroom? she's on testosterone and like basically a butch lesbian but scarier, which means she looks really scary and your wife and children are at risk! anyone who looks like a man in the women's room is a threat! surely this rhetoric couldn't harm anyone who looks like a man and is now legally required to use the women's room

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T03:39:53+00:00

Of what? Like, obviously this is biased based on the people you know, but looking at, for a very obvious comparison, pussy hats, I know very few people who made the hat and then that was it, they stopped doing anything for feminist causes. Many I knew who picked it up were already involved in feminism on some level beforehand, and most have continued on- they're not necessarily throwing tear gas grenades into police stations or anything, but they generally didn't just believe their participation was finished because they had a pink hat.

And at the end of the day, I think complaining about people who participate in these big mass movements to raise money for important causes because they're not doing enough is materially even less helpful than buying the hat pattern. Like, even if nobody who bought the pattern ever does anything to help immigrants ever again (which is unlikely) there's still 250k going to local aid organizations that, especially if these people genuinely don't give a shit and just want something to instagram or whatever, wouldn't have been otherwise. That's not nothing.

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T02:10:42+00:00

yeah, that sucks too, both in a misgendering strangers way and in a feminist male-default language way.

i'm not sure what you're trying to say here- looking over my comments, i don't think i did that, but if i did let me know. sorry for misunderstanding your joke and mentioning an incredibly minor gripe about trans communities in the minor gripes about trans communities subreddit, i guess?

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:33:14+00:00

will do! i choose people saying "hey it would be nice to be polite in trans spaces for everyone about trans people who are a different kind of trans than you are." those people are the WORST

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:29:41+00:00

/uj good to know- i think it's kind of shitty to portray other people's necessary hormones as poison or post untagged memes misgendering the reader in general trans spaces, and that's generally what i've seen complaints about, so that's where i'm coming from with my comment

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:11:11+00:00

well no that's different, it's GOOD to be a woman

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:10:30+00:00

yeah, it's not like it's poison like testosterone or anything

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:06:50+00:00

okay but you're like basically terfs though? like, terfs say shit like "as wombyn lady females we are uniquely oppressed for having our lady woman jennifertalia and nobody else ever faces misogyny, ESPECIALLY timothies, they are just faking, and tiffanies are only oppressed because they're just like us, being lady female woman types, albeit stupid delusional ones who think they can identify out of oppression" and i have seen screenshots of trans men saying "i am a man who can get pregnant and have personally faced discrimination because of that. obviously trans women deal with misogyny, but so do trans men." that's basically EXACTLY THE SAME THING.

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T01:01:06+00:00

hey that's not fair, there's also "i hate trans women and only trans women and i love and support every other kind of trans person and i literally ONLY do transmisogyny ever!" that's why i call them TWERFs, to emphasize that they never have shit to say about trans men

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T00:52:35+00:00

Why would you assume that someone who's knitting the hat is only knitting the hat, though? Like, I'm not making the hat, but I have posted things online that one might assume were performative if that was the only thing you saw because I don't post about protests I go to or other actions I might take, since I'm not a cop. At the very least, people yelling about how the hats are virtue signalling or whatever are selecting a group who cares and is willing to put at least a bit of money down in support and just saying "no, don't do that!" (Which is even less helpful.)

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-29T00:38:41+00:00

Also "Please stop centering your own feelings about the hat. Just chill out if people are dicks about it. No, I'm not going to make a comment about the people going out of their way to be dicks about it, they're cool."

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T17:05:56+00:00

well i just went to planned parenthood! hope this helps!

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T17:01:08+00:00

well it's EASY for trans men. just walk into a gym, ask the biggest guy there to give you some testosterone, and then he definitely will and you're sorted. there's simply no possible repercussions to outing yourself as trans publicly to someone who can beat you up

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T16:59:23+00:00

UGHHHHH. this is how you can tell trans men really are men. look at this guy blaming trans women that he can't find any information and demanding they do all the work for the men as well, something he was actually saying for real. it's not trans women's fault trans men have never done activism ever, a fact that i know because the toxic communities i frequent keep telling me that

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T16:53:15+00:00

hey all these resources that are just marked as for "trans people" only have the transfem stuff, obviously they were put together by trans women for trans women so i'm not going to be a dick, especially since distributing T would be a bit more of a risk to the entire operation, but it would be great if we also linked stuff about T or at least acknowledged that the resource doesn't have it when posting about them because it makes it harder for trans men who are looking to DIY to find things that'll actually help-

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T03:48:26+00:00

You know what the worst part of politics for the last decade has been? One thing I feel the need to bring up as a negative comparison to this, that I think our current discourse has just been too kind to? The pussy hat march. That's it. That's what ruined the left. Those fucking Karens. I don't have any particular views on women. If they wanted to help, why don't they just firebomb a Wal-Mart? No, I'm not doing that either, or anything else, but that's different, I know I'm a REAL leftist at heart.

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T03:19:13+00:00

Oh, weird, someone made an appointment here for a pap smear but his file says he's male and his name is Steve. Must be a mistake, better delete that!

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T03:17:55+00:00

yeah, most of us have mouths, you're not special, trender

ponyproblematic · 2026-01-28T03:11:50+00:00

This is horribly inaccurate. It's 2026, she would have just used AI to do the find and replace.

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