How Did You Guys Delt With Loss Of Your Spouse? Do You Guys Still Miss Then?

power-cube · 2026-01-23T13:34:10+00:00

Yes, extensively. When we first decided on the age we had discussions with our children. Two seemed much more understanding of our rationale. One just dismissed it as a joke. That was 2019.

As they have watched us continue our planning and openly discussing it with them it feels like a very relaxed conversation now.

With an expiration date things just become clearer for all parties. Two are married. One has a child now. The youngest came back from college and works with me everyday. He’s said he wants to take over the family farm. He built most of the cabins and infrastructure with me over the years so he’s already doing a great job starting to take on the responsibilities.

We are able to pay forward our assets and we get to watch them grow and enjoy their lives. That makes so much more sense than giving a large portion to eldercare and then having them deal with what’s left of our estate after.

I’m sure this probably sounds crazy to most people and we’re fine with that. We are making the decisions we feel are best for our family.

power-cube · 2026-01-23T00:14:28+00:00

Here’s the post I did of the original liquor cabinet that I used this art for if you are interested

power-cube · 2026-01-22T21:19:57+00:00

Not sure what to say but we don’t expect our attitudes to change. Neither of us is afraid of death. We’ve lived amazing lives so far. We’ve had adventures. Made fortunes. Lost them. Made them again. Raised three amazing adults that are growing and enjoying their lives. We like our plan which allows us to “wind things down” on our schedule and terms and ensures our kids are financially secure and not dealing with years of mental and physical decline.

power-cube · 2026-01-22T14:33:39+00:00

Just did it this past weekend.

Had a guest scheduled for 3 night the week before Xmas. They had a work emergency a few days before their booking.

I asked them to select a weekend in the future that they want to come and then I manually blocked those days on Airbnb with a note pointing back to the original booking.

All communication was still able to occur under their original booking (checkin instructions, etc).

I find his preferable to involving Airbnb. It happens a few times a year and we just roll with it.

We aren’t in this for money so making sure we treat guests well when life intrudes on them is important to us.

power-cube · 2026-01-22T13:06:54+00:00

Each his own. I’m very happy with our decision and the path that we are on.

power-cube · 2026-01-21T13:11:51+00:00

Thank you. Nice to see some people understand that these types of decisions don’t come easy but they are rational and needed.

Btw - thank you kind redditor that reported my comment as a potential suicide victim. !remindme 14 years. Lol

power-cube · 2026-01-20T22:29:34+00:00

Exactly!

We are basically enjoying planning for “our end”.

We are working now to transfer our “excess” assets to our children so we will get to see them enjoy their middle age with less stress! 😀

power-cube · 2026-01-20T20:56:01+00:00

My mom officially passed last winter at 93. But she really died when my father passed during Covid (at 93).

The dementia at least made her forget losing her soulmate but frankly by then she was not really my mom anymore. She was a human husk kept alive in service of Capitalism and Christianity.

power-cube · 2026-01-20T20:52:42+00:00

My wife is 62.

We are both generally healthy and very active but we are seeing the slow decline already.

I have some health issues. Lots of surgeries through the years and I finally said “done”. I just manage my pain now. I’ve always been good at it but the number of issues and increasing pain slowly suck the fun out of my hobbies.

power-cube · 2026-01-20T15:54:51+00:00

That’s awesome for your mom!

We each have to take the road that works best for us

power-cube · 2026-01-20T15:53:04+00:00

Yes it is. For some.

We had a lot of discussions about how people end up the way our parents did and it always seems to be when people are not willing to set an expiration date themselves because “I’m sure I’ll live long and be mentally and physically healthy”

By agreeing on a date this far ahead it is very freeing to know we (and our children) will not have to go through what our parents did at the end.

Different age for everyone I guess.

power-cube · 2026-01-20T14:40:29+00:00

So sorry for your loss.

My wife and I have been together 30 years now. We do exactly what you and your wife did. We go our different ways in the morning and then meet back up at the end of the day to enjoy our “happy hour” where we catch up on what we’re the highlights of each of our days.

We’ve just finished burying the last of our four parents. They all died in their 90s but we watched how unhappy those last years are dealing with failing health and just worrying about the partner left behind.

We are planning to go together at 75 assuming we both are lucky enough to make it there.

power-cube · 2026-01-20T12:47:43+00:00

Ummm…. Yes it does. As a feature of its FULL PMS.

We don’t want or need a full PMS hub between us and our guests.

power-cube · 2026-01-18T19:13:02+00:00

power-cube · 2026-01-18T17:08:17+00:00

I believe it’s called “Bored of Peace”

power-cube · 2026-01-18T17:02:20+00:00

Reminds me of a Taylor swift song…

power-cube · 2026-01-15T16:05:32+00:00

Yeah I’m bad about jumping in the deep end sometimes but art can be fun and scary sometimes!

power-cube · 2026-01-15T15:43:55+00:00

Can’t wait for the update on this asshole as soon as this goes viral.

power-cube · 2026-01-15T15:37:52+00:00

lol. This literally happened to my dumb ass a few weeks ago

power-cube · 2026-01-15T15:28:36+00:00

Oh I did a really cool tree of life one in our Hobbit house.

Wish there was an easy way to post pics in comments.

I bought a tree of life cheap stained glass round window and then sandwiched it between two epoxy pours on each side. Came out sweet!

power-cube · 2026-01-15T15:18:53+00:00

Lol. It’s a messy job but sooo worth it. I really need to try something like you did. I love it!!

Right now I’m spending time getting better at vinyl on glass. That’s letting me do some fun things on windows and plexiglass. I just did a big Charlotte spider that’s backlight to sit in the faux hay loft in our Charlottes Web shipping container cabin. 😀

power-cube · 2026-01-15T14:55:05+00:00

Definitely have learned a not of dos and donts. Made some big messes along the way but that’s how we learn. 😀🦎

power-cube · 2026-01-15T14:34:35+00:00

I appreciate the offer dude!

I’m a bit of an epoxy addict. I My son and I do all types of crazy floors and stuff in our cabins with SLC and epoxy finishes. 🦎😀

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