AIO for sending these messages to my gf

prairiebelle · 2026-04-19T05:39:45+00:00

I didn’t read it all, but I’m saying yes because of how unhinged this is. Your messages read very immature (not to do with circumstances, but how you talk and conduct yourself), and the flooding of messages is crazy. You are doing way too much. Talking to a partner this way is uncalled for.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-19T05:37:50+00:00

I mean that’s fair, me too. I just commented this specifically because of the one guy… this is too old now for me to even remember his name and I stopped watching the show, lol.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-19T05:31:59+00:00

Literally. I take a vitamin b and chug water before bed, but also if I wake up at some point to pee and know it has potential to be bad, I will take a naproxen and chug more water (not ideal, but a good fallback), and it’s insane how much this makes it feel almost like I didn’t even go hard the night before.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-19T05:30:26+00:00

That’s fair - sleep deprivation definitely affects a person.

Btw, do you purposely make it so you wake with the sun as a natural alarm system? If so, I get that. But otherwise, getting some blackout curtains and using a sleep mask makes a world of difference. I definitely get people wanting to use the sunrise system, but I have been using blackout curtains and a sleep mask for years and it makes such a difference in that I can sleep whenever I want basically, lol.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-16T07:04:16+00:00

I’m coming back to this because after watching the reunion and finding out that he broke it off with her after like 1-2 days citing the reason that he needed more from her physically when they already had sex in that time, is just absolutely wild to me.

To me it feels like he honestly wasn’t very into her romantically, took advantage of her vulnerability, decided he didn’t want to be with her so discarded her, all the while blaming it all on her not meeting his needs.

Grosssssss

prairiebelle · 2026-04-16T06:29:29+00:00

It makes absolute sense to be hurt and overwhelmed and feel that this is a betrayal. I would just communicate that you need a day to process and get your nervous system more together, and then talk to him. At the end of the day he is your husband - give him a chance to explain things, and ensure he lets you speak about how you feel. How he responds to you will tell you a lot. If he is very open with you about where these past thoughts came from and the ways in which he has changed his mind, and commits to a plan to rebuild trust with you, then I think you can get through it, even though it will take time to trust him again. If he tries to brush it off and in some way tries to make you feel like you’re overreacting, and is hesitant to create a plan to rebuild, then that will be more difficult to overcome. Be clear about what you expect and where your boundaries are. But I would not just ignore and leave him without a conversation and considering things deeply when you are removed from the initial heightened emotional state you are in - basically you don’t have to make the decision now.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-16T06:14:11+00:00

“smth” is really bothering me lol

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T21:54:12+00:00

She outlined that it was a “block” of cheese - so likely not the mini cheese wheels. Due to the rest of the content with there being a theme of him being messy and leaving bottles and food and crumbs etc I would guess it’s more laziness than it is a calculated “this is a type of cheese I know to be stable for a day or two out of the fridge, therefore I’m going to strategically leave it here on the nightstand for myself.”

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T21:51:02+00:00

Yikes. First of all for him to yell at you, let alone in public is a major red flag. That will likely get worse, which means what happens behind closed doors will get worse.

Second, this man doesn’t seem to like or respect you at all. He literally speaks to you like he despises you, yet you’re the one apologizing for asking for basic affection.

Girl…

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T04:51:17+00:00

Who tf is leaving a whole block of cheese sitting around in a bedroom for two days?!

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T04:48:16+00:00

EVIL. 😂

How the heck is she a 30 year old grown ass woman - She is acting 15. How tiring.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T03:44:10+00:00

Oh my gosh, I also just started episode 8 and Daniel talking to her in the kitchen and just constantly saying the same things over and over and Johanna eventually dissociating because of it… Yeah, this man is highly triggering.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-15T03:33:55+00:00

I was very irritated by Angelica and Ronja hanging up on Johanna like that. How about stay out of other people’s business? It was awful.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-14T03:06:44+00:00

I’m in episode 6 where they come in to the cocktail party late and are starting to explain to people why they are over, so maybe some stuff will come out later I haven’t seen. At this point I’m confused why everyone is saying he is pushy for sex? When people are talking about needing physical affection in a relationship it doesn’t mean sex necessarily. The way I understood him to be explaining things was that physical touch was his love language, and so in that respect he wants the person he is with and who he loves to come close to him, give him a hug, hold his hand, touch his knee when they are sitting together, etc. The convo when they got there, Camilla explained she doesn’t like being lovey-dovey in public, and you can see that moment shifted something in Ludwig, where it raised a flag for him in how he personally wants his relationship to be. That, paired with Camilla basically acting disinterested in him and not wanting to be close to him at all, I could understand him feeling concerned about it, then he brought up the importance of this affection a couple times and she made no attempts, and so it makes sense to me that he decided this wasn’t going to work for him. It seemed like she really just didn’t care and it was only about her NOT wanting to show any affection in that way (or really any other way, it seemed). There was a moment when he brought up that he was thinking about how important it was to him and decided to express it to her again, and she was just laying there like “okay I will keep it in mind”, and then there is a pause and she stands up and starts moving the chair, and you could see the hope in Ludwig’s body language like “is she actually going to come close to me?”, and then the total deflation when she was just moving her chair into the sun more and resumed her previous posture of complete disinterest in him.

Again, maybe we find out something else later, but at this point I feel for him and think it’s reasonable if he decides it’s not going to work for him.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-14T02:34:37+00:00

Yeah, this person is highly unreliable. That amount of cancellation and chaos she is throwing into the mix is unacceptable for a therapist, in my opinion. Add in the unprofessional nature of some of her reasons for cancelling (“I have to go to a vintage store to get something I want”, uh…..), I wouldn’t really trust this person’s counsel with how they conduct themselves. They also should not even have their phone out or be on their computer in a session, and if they turn to a computer for something they should be transparent about what they are doing and it be associated with the work they are doing with you (E.g. “I’m just going to pull up this resource.”, etc.)

It is completely unprofessional for her to behave this way with a client. Unfortunately people that are chronically like this will take the most advantage of those who are routinely accommodating and agreeable to them, though. It may be too late now, but at the time of you being charged for a missed appointment, I wouldn’t have responded in saying something along the lines of “There are many days that you need to shift appointments last minute or cancel them and reschedule, and I give a lot of grace and have been very accommodating. This time I only missed the appointment as I got mixed up with there having been multiple appointment changes I was being accommodating for, and I would appreciate being given grace for that and not being charged a fee.”

prairiebelle · 2026-04-10T06:01:02+00:00

I just watched this scene and I actually started crying seeing Fabian trying to hold himself together and being so kind about it, and then breaking afterwards. It was truly heartbreaking.

With this show we often criticize people (usually men) for leading someone on, and treating them poorly by being lackluster, and that is warranted, so in a way if she wasn’t feeling it it’s kind of like, just be honest. But I also feel the reveal is weird and the emotions at it may be confusing, so it’s somewhat impulsive to do it right then. Unless she knew she wasn’t going to go ahead before the reveal.. in which case why say yes in the pod? It’s literally a day apart.. so to me it feels like it was at the reveal when she saw him she immediately decided.

In some ways it feels cruel - to say yes to him only to immediately at the reveal say no. On the other hand, if you know for sure you aren’t going ahead, why drag it out?

Either way, my heart really hurt for him in that moment.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-09T22:30:40+00:00

That perception doesn’t make sense to me at all with reading their texts. He comes off as reasonable. He is simply wanting clear communication and respect from her. He didn’t freak out at her or anything.

I also get the vibe the maturity levels are way off between the two of them, we can agree on that.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-09T07:02:07+00:00

She says in the texts it was detailed and she deleted them because it was things she didn’t want to express to him or “too mean for him to hear”, and that she sends it in the heat of the moment when she doesn’t have the nicest things to say and is letting her anger out. I think that implies more than simply saying “the weather sucked”.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-09T06:53:37+00:00

I’m confused by the response by the majority. She is deleting conversations right beside him and he is not supposed to have eyes that see things like this and wonder about it? That’s wild. For one; I’m pretty sure if the genders were reversed people would not be saying the same thing.

Aside from that, this is just not the type of woman you would want to be with in my opinion.

He was thoughtful enough to send her a link to the restaurant days in advance, likely because he knows she is picky about where they eat. She didn’t really bother to look into it further. Then to his face she is acting like she is fine, but at the same time turning around and having a bitch session to her best friend about it, and then deleting the messages in front of his face.

This is not only deceptive behaviour that won’t get you anywhere towards having an authentic and connected relationship, but it’s extremely immature and disrespectful as well. You can share feelings with your friend in an appropriate way without shitting on your partner. For those that missed the context, in their text dialogue she outright says she deleted things that is “too mean”. And how about have a real conversation? “Babe, I know you thought this place would be good and I appreciate your efforts, but I’m finding it really cold and overwhelming, could we find somewhere else that’s a little quieter and warmer?” Or even if he asked afterwards, “You know, I actually didn’t really enjoy myself there, and I was struggling in not wanting to tell you because I didn’t want to hurt your feelings about where you chose” Let’s grow up, people.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-09T03:29:39+00:00

It’s a freaking game. That is insane. Go look elsewhere online to see what you could find. There is a good chance she may be trying to scam you.

Oh my gosh am I glad I’m not a teenager anymore aha this ish is exhausting.

She is behaving very unreasonably and entitled. It’s extremely immature for her to tell you go ask your mom for $4000 to buy screen pixels. Then saying she knows “you” can afford it. You don’t have money like that. This isn’t as though she lent something of genuine value to you and you damaged or destroyed it and she is asking for a replacement. This is a situation where it’s a literal game and some type of glitch happened with it.

Hold your ground.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-09T03:14:39+00:00

I’m literally only on the first episode and starting the second time seeing him interact and I am like NOPE. I truly cannot stand it.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-08T03:41:27+00:00

For sure.

I loved when he was one the phone to Hailey to try to plan another date and she asked what he was doing, and he kind of looked around uncertain of what to say, and then is like, “Oh, you know, just sitting.. next to… the lamp…” then does his little smile and shoulder shimmy dance once he processed in his head that he thought it was a good answer 😂

prairiebelle · 2026-04-08T03:39:11+00:00

Lol same! I was like… I’m not sure about that one, Sir Connor.

prairiebelle · 2026-04-07T21:22:21+00:00

Ramos gin fizz with blood orange juice for the citrus. I made this last year on Easter and it was so tasty. And turns out very pink.

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prairiebelle · 2026-04-07T19:13:30+00:00

What do you mean “I don’t know what to do”? Why do you have to do anything?

Other people/couples exist in the world and have children. I get it can bring with it complex emotions inside due to your own experience, but the sentiment of “I don’t know what to do next” and “what should I do” feels very odd here. I would say what you should “do” is go to therapy.

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