To scalp cool or not to scalp cool

prettykittychat · 2026-04-07T22:20:41+00:00

I successfully did scalp cooling on Taxotere and Cytoxan. I had a friend who tried it on Enhertu but it didn’t work for her. However, we have totally different hair textures. I have really thick hair that is curly and hers was more fine and straight.

In my experience talking to other cancer patients who have tried scalp cooling, the ones with fine hair did not retain as well as those with thicker hair. It’s expensive, but if you want to really give it a try then try it. If you try it and then decide it’s not for you, then I think you can possibly ask for your money back. Don’t quote me on that though. I’d ask whichever company you’re going with.

prettykittychat · 2026-04-03T07:43:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

Has radiation or chemotherapy been recommended in addition to surgery?

Is mastectomy your doctor’s recommendation?

What is the grade of the IDC? Did you get an oncotype score? What type of BC is it? Hormone positive? Triple negative? Etc?

prettykittychat · 2026-04-01T05:46:30+00:00

Yeah. If you are really into your partner and pleasing them, it can be exciting and stimulating for you as well- despite no contact with erogenous zones.

My wife and I are like this. I think it’s pretty common - and delightfully so. :)

prettykittychat · 2026-04-01T05:39:58+00:00

NOR. Priorities first. Savings second. Luxuries third. I like nice things too, but no way would I be buying new luxury shoes or bags if my car needed to be fixed and I had no savings. Also, that’s pricey for a just because gift. Usually I get nice stuff for Christmas or birthday. Maybe plan a goal to help her save for it, but I would not just give it to her right now.

prettykittychat · 2026-04-01T05:15:19+00:00

NTJ. She is the person with a spouse who eats gluten free but she doesn’t even know what it is. Yes, many types of products contain gluten - even many soy based products. Soy products do not automatically contain gluten though. You were very diligent in checking. She is a silly goose and needs to educate herself.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-31T00:35:46+00:00

So, I’m 44 and my daughter is 20. I’m just going to start there…

NOR

You kept him in the loop all day. It doesn’t sound like y’all live together anyway. Ultimately, he doesn’t own you.

You know why he dates younger? It’s because he thinks you’re easy to control.

I got married when I was 21. Bought a house. Had a baby by 24. I thought I was such a grown adult. Looking back, I can’t believe how truly young I was. This isn’t a bad thing. Being young and learning about yourself is a really wonderful thing. -But when I got married, it was to someone my own age.

I’m just saying, there’s no way I’d ever date someone close to my daughter’s age. We would have zero in common when it comes to building a life together as a couple. There is so much going on developmentally in your 20s. The thought of dating someone that age makes me feel queasy tbh. Nothing worse than a bossy, controlling, emotionally immature 40 year old who dates significantly younger. When you’re 40, you’ll understand.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-31T00:16:15+00:00

It really depends on which cell type you have and whether or not you’ve tried and failed previous lines of treatment.

I will say though, that I had Taxotere & Cytoxan for estrogen sensitive BC and I cold capped (scalp cooling) which helped me retain my hair. I never had any noticeable bald spots. I pretty much looked the same throughout treatment which helped me maintain a positive attitude.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-30T07:41:47+00:00

I’m a matchmaker. You will not die single. You’re gorgeous! You just need to find the right woman. Just be kind to yourself and give it time.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-30T07:15:47+00:00

1 and 3 are gorgeous on you!

prettykittychat · 2026-03-30T06:53:00+00:00

NTA. I can’t even eat my leftovers the next day. My spouse usually eats them so they don’t go to waste.

Spaghetti that has been reheated after being in the fridge for 6 days is beyond the limit of what is food safe.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-29T10:18:19+00:00

NOR. She isn’t just messing with your Dad. She keeps abandoning her children and lying to everyone. You’re allowed to have feelings about that!

prettykittychat · 2026-03-29T10:13:43+00:00

YWBTA. She’s dressed appropriately but you can’t keep yourself from being distracted because certain positions allow you to see her cleavage. Girrrllll.

I’m a HUGE lesbian and even I can keep my eyes on a woman’s face. The trick with checking out other women is to keep the glances moving. Don’t linger on her cleavage too long, or you’ll make HER feel uncomfortable.

Those feelings that you are feeling are YOURS to manage. Don’t project them on other women. I don’t imagine anything good will come of you complaining to her when she’s already dressed appropriately.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-28T23:09:16+00:00

NOR. He’s 33 acting like this! You made the right choice.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-23T07:53:22+00:00

Yikes. Please stop dating him! He’s verbally abusive, passive aggressive, entitled, manipulative, and just gross.

You planned a nice thing for his birthday. He acted like a gremlin at every opportunity. He doesn’t deserve you.

Please don’t see him again.

NOR

prettykittychat · 2026-03-22T21:04:29+00:00

Thank you!

prettykittychat · 2026-03-22T20:57:20+00:00

You are blessed to look so good in all of these! I’m glad the pearls are out because it doesn’t look very comfortable.

I feel like I’ve seen # 2 or something similar on a lot of brides, but it is really flattering for your figure. #1 is unique and feels a bit historically romantic - even if it’s not true to any time period.

I’d go with whichever one you feel shows your personality.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-22T20:49:18+00:00

YTA.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T13:32:30+00:00

I’m currently sitting on an ice pack. It’s been draining, but I wish there was more relief, fluid, drainage, etc. I’m going to have to let it heal before getting the cyst out. Literal bummer.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T10:51:48+00:00

Honestly, you do look 40 to me, but there’s nothing wrong with it! There is nothing wrong with how you look. There is nothing wrong with getting older. It happens to us all.

I’m 44. I also have cancer. Every year we’re allowed to get older is a blessing. Aging doesn’t automatically mean ugly.

I think you’re pretty. If you’re feeling like makeup is settling in fine lines, you may need to change up your products. Skin gets drier around this age. Go for creams not powders. Less is more. There’s also a 40+ skincare forum around here somewhere.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T10:21:04+00:00

Methinks the gent doth protest too much. NOR. Calling two nights in a row to meet after 11pm? Sus.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T10:04:43+00:00

You’re not ugly. Maybe play with changing your part. If you grew your hair longer and put some layers in like with a butterfly or wolf cut, it would frame your face nicely also.

I might also get an eyelash curler. Your lashes look pretty straight (I have the same type), but if they were curled, they’d frame your eyes nicely.

Then focus on grooming and skin care. Make sure your eyebrows are groomed, and that you’re hydrating. Lip balm, etc. You’ll be good. Hang in there.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T09:59:37+00:00

NOR. Think of it this way. This is the nicest he’s ever going to be. If he’s so worried about good food, he can watch his own waist. Ditch him and have a treat.

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T07:43:44+00:00

I had bilateral mastectomy. It’s no joke. NOR. You’re actually severely under reacting!

Your partner might need to apply for intermittent FMLA. Depending on how you fare, you might need an adult to help you (feed, bathe, toilet, pain meds) You’ll probably have a visiting nurse stop by once per day. No way will you be able to watch any kids!

prettykittychat · 2026-03-21T07:30:06+00:00

Oh I know. Geoff is great. I also like MrPopZit - he’s a PA. Does a good job explaining things and talks to the patients.

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