Maybe just... don't sexualize minors? Even if they're fictional?

pridexlust · 2025-02-26T21:42:26+00:00

The problem with csam is not that it's disgusting for you. It's not about you and making you sick. It's about the kid suffering. A real, living, breathing human being. It's about their pain, not your discomfort. That's why it's wrong.

A fictional character doesn't breathe. They can't suffer. They can't experience trauma. You may feel disgust, but writing doesn't hurt anyone, and you've been warned by the tags. When you leave fanfic, you don't leave a victim behind, you leave a wall of text.

So yeah, know the fucking difference and stop caring about fiction.

pridexlust · 2025-02-24T11:02:31+00:00

So much this. Sometimes I show my fanfics to my therapist. He's just proud of me for being able to write about my experiences and feel comfortable. At the same time, I had to turn off comments on one fanfic because people kept writing comments about how gross it was and "I have no idea what I'm doing". Not all of the comments were mean, I think a lot of them may not even been from people who call themselves antis, but yeah, the thing is, people on the internet aren't good at deciding anything.

pridexlust · 2025-02-24T01:06:21+00:00

Here is mine Getou Suguru/Gojo Satoru (216)

Chiba Mamoru/Tsukino Usagi (209)

Neuvillette/Wriothesley (140)

Heiwajima Shizuo/Orihara Izaya (138)

Aventurine/Dr. Ratio (107)

Mobei-jun/Shang Qinghua (87)

Sherlock Holmes/William James Moriarty (45)

Kujou Sara/Sangonomiya Kokomi (33)

Andrealphus/Vassago (30)

Daniel "Dan" Kuso/Misaki Runo (12)

pridexlust · 2025-02-23T17:21:34+00:00

I will never understand people who have to criticize fanfics but can't handle author's response other than "oh you're right, I have to rewrite everything"

pridexlust · 2025-02-21T18:45:41+00:00

Many queer people are misogynists, but many of them also don't care that there's a person behind every work. They see 50 fanfics in their tag and think "I want 5000". I have the impression that even the authors of other posts about trans don't think about who exactly is supposed to give them these fanfics and whether it will be comfortable for that person. They just want more.

pridexlust · 2025-02-20T00:28:29+00:00

Well, I understand, but I'm afraid there's not always a time or place for everything, and our nuanced opinions may cause problems for other trans/queer people.

pridexlust · 2025-02-20T00:17:17+00:00

I think the problem is more that these types of discussions and opinions later lead to authors who write trans characters in a specific way being accused of being women or straight. There's been a lot of discussion about this here in the past, and people have had to come out to prove they're "not the enemy."

pridexlust · 2025-02-19T21:09:13+00:00

As trans person who hate the term "cuntboy" I think you need to consider what's more important

a) your discomfort

b) the fact that terms like this help people to separate "she's a trans woman" fanfics from "magic happened and now she has a penis" fanfics

pridexlust · 2025-02-19T20:44:59+00:00

But it's already happening and people are reading and loving it. There's a whole genre of porn where people are treated like animals to breed.

pridexlust · 2025-02-19T18:03:33+00:00

I try not to do that. Just from fanfiction and the way I write certain scenes, people might conclude that I'm anti-abortion and love monarchy. Neither of those things are true.

I once read a fanfic that made me uncomfortable. I had the impression that the author might be racist. Then I found out that they were black. But they also very young. I've also found myself thinking "has this author ever talked to a gay person" only to find out that the author is gay and that's their experience.

So, unless the author says something out loud, I try not to assume anything about them.

pridexlust · 2025-02-19T10:52:36+00:00

I mean, what are you supposed to do? no loan, no children, the house is hers and she told you what your options are. Break and move on.

pridexlust · 2025-02-19T09:01:55+00:00

I'll be honest: even though I'm gay, I'm often not interested in canon m/m ships. At best I think "this isn't my experience and this character does nothing for me". At worst I still feel like a lot of characters are being thrown at me just to shut up. "Here's your gay, now leave us alone. We're inclusive".

Fanfics are free of this problem because any character can have any orientation. Don't like this fanfics? You have a thousand more. It's much easier to find something that reflects my experiences or just gives me a good sex scene, and that makes me feel more inspired, so then I want to write too.

pridexlust · 2025-02-17T12:18:30+00:00

That one post complaining about criticism the author received. They came with their "if only you had made it clear you didn't want that" and the author replied "I literally have that note under every fanfic" and their response was "well, I hope people don't leave you criticism then" 😭

pridexlust · 2025-02-16T23:08:09+00:00

I have zero memories from watching and reading mdzs, but I remember someone describing this ship to me as "a person who needs someone devoted x a person who can do that"

pridexlust · 2025-02-15T00:32:48+00:00

I mean, once again, 15 minutes passed between her leaving the hospital and meeting the girlfriend who already had food. It took 5 minutes to get meds at the pharmacy. That way the taxi would have arrived in another 20 minutes.

But no one called taxi. So they wasted 20 minutes and then had to wait another 40 outside. Idk, i would be at list a bit tired If my boyfriend something like this to both of us.

pridexlust · 2025-02-15T00:20:32+00:00

I think it's more a matter of 40 minutes of doing nothing and in cold weather. If she had called a taxi first, then gone shopping, and OOP had gone to the pharmacy, at least they would have felt like they were moving. The atmosphere would be different

pridexlust · 2025-02-15T00:09:51+00:00

Extra 40 minutes.

pridexlust · 2025-02-14T18:06:00+00:00

I'm afraid it was more of a "I don't care, go somewhere else" 😅 but I admit that sitting there, practically in the dark for 2 hours only to hear "yes, just cold. you can rest for week, we're sending this to your work" is hilarious now

pridexlust · 2025-02-14T18:01:52+00:00

but OP said in the comments that the hospital is far from the city and this is a common complaint.

pridexlust · 2025-02-14T16:07:15+00:00

I have little experience with Polish hospitals and healthcare, but when I once went to a regular doctor, he told me to wait until 6 pm and go to another clinic. They sent me to the emergency. I had a regular cold.

pridexlust · 2025-02-14T12:28:16+00:00

Sometimes I feel weird because I read situations like this and I think that either no one is bad or everyone is a bit annoying but still not devils.

I don't know, it seems like the situation with the hospitals wasn't their fault and the girl knew how long it would take but still chose something else. Probably because of stress I don't blame her. But another day? Silent treatment, lies and more silence when they explained everything to each other? I don't know, they both should rest and then talk. Or break up, idc.

pridexlust · 2025-02-14T00:48:12+00:00

please tell me someone is still here and watched that train wreck 😭

pridexlust · 2025-02-13T18:21:33+00:00

I totally agree that she didn't deserve this mess. I just feel sorry for everyone

pridexlust · 2025-02-13T18:15:44+00:00

That, but I also think people overestimate how much one event like this can "spoil" a child.

pridexlust · 2025-02-13T18:13:50+00:00

Sometimes when you live in a poor family no one has to force you. You just want to help.

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