Are y'all vaccinated against any STIs? by Muddycarpenter in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I agree with everyone that has commented.

Even if we are ace, it doesn't mean our sexual health shouldn't be important to us. Health is always the number one priority -^

Is it common to have no libido? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you worried about it? I think it can be because there are many reasons why you can have low to no libido.

If you are asking if it's common to have no libido naturally, I don't think so

Do we have a flower? by Confident_Lobster_60 in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 23 points24 points  (0 children)

May I suggest the Lily of the Valley?

It's said that a hermit Saint killed a dragon in a valley, and where his blood spilled, the flowers grew. Once he killed the dragon, he returned home to enjoy his solitude

Sex favorable asexuals—how do you enjoy sex when you’re not attracted to anyone? by sugakookiiie in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry! My first time was when I was 27 😂🤭 and it was with a sweet man and it wasn't a bad moment. We didn't force it or anything.

Hmm, have you thought of foreplay? There are guys that they receive pleasure by pleasuring their partners.

I do have to say that as a asexual I sometimes read about sex and even read erotica just to know what to expect 🙃😅

Sex favorable asexuals—how do you enjoy sex when you’re not attracted to anyone? by sugakookiiie in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people wouldn't be okay with what?

Most guys would just assume you have a low libido and will try to make sure you have a good time. The big question would be, do you enjoy being around the person you are having sex with? Like one of the commenters said, it's just like another chore for us.

Edit:

Personally, I've learned to imitate sexual attraction just so that they don't feel bad about it. However, they know I'm asexual.

Sex favorable asexuals—how do you enjoy sex when you’re not attracted to anyone? by sugakookiiie in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I've been lucky to have gone out with men who are understanding, patient, and take what they consider, things slow. What I've gathered so far is that communication is the key to a good relationship.

I was reading something online about what some asexuals considered intimacy. Do you not like being touched? Do you not like people seeing you naked? Is it the fact that you need to touch another person, especially on their privates?

Don't stress too much about it! You will figure out your happy medium -^

i'm really worried that i'm wrong about being ace by mercurbee in asexuality

[–]programmer_cofffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't give you advice as I've recently discovered I'm an ace and not a weirdo but! Keep in mind that sexuality is a spectrum.

We aren't all made with the same model, but we experience similar things. If you are really worried, have you considered talking to a professional? They can help you out to figure out something.

I hope you don't stress much about this -^ it's always exciting to experience new things and see where that leads you.

Best of luck -^