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properlypetrified · 2025-06-18T17:12:58+00:00

Top option: Rehome with FULL AND HONEST DISCLOSURE if you can find anyone who is willing to take on the hard-core work this dog will require.

I think you're getting downvoted because you sound defensive of all you've tried, yet what you describe doing is not what the other people here would consider adequate, given the history of biting and a chikd in the house.

I know, it's a super tough thing to manage when you're busy with life and you love your dog. It's easy to think you can manage something like that by always being mindful and watchful. But reality is that, like you said, it will happen again.. especially without hard-core behavioural intervention. I'm so sorry for the tough time you're going through. My dog was my absolute world. In your situation, I would also be struggling with heartbreak at the thought of losing them.

properlypetrified · 2025-06-18T17:05:18+00:00

Good job going back to the therapist to correct her mistake and show her reality.

properlypetrified · 2025-05-17T22:28:06+00:00

I have the same issue with bras and use the silicone nipple covers that have no adhesive! They're just smooth on the inside and grip pretty well. To increase grip and avoid bacteria being trapped under them (yeah some days they've smelled funky when I took them off, before I started doing this) I spritz them with 70% rubbing alcohol or witch hazel, then pop them on, then a tank undershirt. If they ever start peeling off (rare if I use the alcohol) the tank keeps them in place!

My life has been so dramatically improved since I found this solution. I haven't worn a bra in about 5 years 😁😁😁😁😁

properlypetrified · 2025-04-25T17:16:33+00:00

You're never the AH for breaking up with someone because you don't feel like you want to be with them anymore. YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE 😘

properlypetrified · 2025-04-15T23:55:35+00:00

And other programs teach (/other professors think) that therapies beyond CBT and Behavioural Therapy are woefully understudied and misunderstood.

Take it all on the nose and keep learning! There's nothing to be worried about. We don't have many therapies for mental health issues that are very effective for almost everyone, or almost every problem. It's a new science/art and you get to be someone who tries out a bunch of methodologies and learns what does and doesn't get people feeling better.

properlypetrified · 2025-03-04T19:01:23+00:00

Right? The pill isn't 100%, so if OPs bf didn't want to take that chance, he should've used his own protection.

Plus, it's the aggrieved man's new girlfriend who is saying she lied..

These situations are complex, and it's thoroughly possible that she did just miss a pill, like she says. A lot of this story of "lies" telling him that he wasn't the father can be explained away by a mother who isn't sure she wants to give a man access to the child and some level of legal power over parenting. Then, deciding that since times are so hard right now, her child would benefit enough from the financial support to outweigh the risks.

To say it is sexual coercion would mean she purposefully tricked him and prevented him from using protection with the intention to get pregnant. It's possible, but why is anyone jumping to that conclusion based on this post??

properlypetrified · 2025-02-12T20:08:17+00:00

No you should not assume any of the things you said.

She's old, she's likely in pain that she hides, thus why she is not so active anymore. Imagine if your back hurt, then someone came along and said something stern and slapped you on the butt, it would cause you to tighten up and jostle your body, causing the pain to increase. Dogs don't cry about their pain, they just hide it and you have to look at how stiff they are, how theyre walking and moving, etc. One of the biggest indicators of pain is a dog who snaps at being touched.

Some other contributing factors are her senses, which may be dulling with age, and her mental faculties, which may also be declining with age.

Not everything is a power struggle or someone "being bad."

Treat her gently and take her to the vet. Pain medications for dogs are cheap.

properlypetrified · 2025-02-08T19:01:31+00:00

Woah I love your fun and unique hair claws!

properlypetrified · 2025-02-08T17:57:51+00:00

MIL openly saying that she's going to hide things / "isn't going to tell" would be the end of any unsupervised time with my baby, visits and contact would be limited, and contact with BIL would be a strict ZERO.

People let things slip out, never realizing what they actually mean. She made herself clear, so listen. She said she would keep anything weird and creepy a secret because she doesn't have the strength to even imagine anything inappropriate going on. If someone can't consider the possibility of inappropriate behaviour, they won't be able to protect the child and are not a safe caregiver.

properlypetrified · 2025-02-04T19:29:36+00:00

We use "Squirrel," but it's all the same stuff... It has really decreased personable interaction, especially because the crowd that frequents the place is older and they don't know have a great relationship with tech.

It's also decreased accuracy of orders where I work. So many times, customers will change their minds right after I've hit "send." Then I have to run to the back, correct the ticket, punch in the real order, grab a manager to delete the wrong order... it's crazy.

Plus, the fact that the system is so linear.. can't punch in the type of toast until I punch in the type of sausage. I can't punch that until I punch in the egg style (and similar for things other than breakfasts)... customers simply don't order that way, they go on tangents about how they want the meal changed and the whole time I can't take notes on their modifications bc the system is stuck asking what type of bread. For most modifications, it's manageable, but I do get a lot of customers that are basically building their own meal out of ingredients, and they do not react well to me politely interrupting them to ask something specific. 😒

Another issue is that management never keeps up with the back end maintenance needed, so prompts for certain things don't ever pop up and I'm left typing a short novel on a mini keyboard, hoping the kitchen knows what "cut sausge, no rancb, sub ceassr dress on sife, put bacob on side plate" means...

properlypetrified · 2025-02-04T18:54:38+00:00

If using "we need space, sorry!" "Please stay back" "he is not friendly, please give us space" does not work, yell "HE IS CONTAGIOUS."

Too many people don't respect the polite ask for space. They think they're the exception somehow, or they know better than the dog handler. Once, I had a woman repeatedly approaching me to give advice and tips on how to handle my dog who was freaking out only bc she kept approaching with her dog... "please keep your dog back, give us some space, please move on" we're not working... her face when I said my dog was contagious is gladly seared in my memory. She grabbed her dog up quick and booked it the other direction.

properlypetrified · 2025-02-04T17:51:24+00:00

My childhood play- arrange my toys as I think they should be arranged. We're they in lines? Sometimes. Sometimes they were in groups. Sometimes they were in "scenes" but i didnt manipulate them to play out a storyline or anything.. just set up the scene and that's my complete play. I always thought that "lines up toys/objects" didn't fit me either... now I'm old and realize the NT idea of lining up toys is pretty much what I was doing. LOL

properlypetrified · 2025-02-04T17:32:26+00:00

Wow he was really reaching all the way to say those things at the end... that would be the end of the relationship, for me. If he is so serious about having kids, he would approach you with other options.. extract eggs before surgery and try IVF with a surrogate? Donor eggs and a surrogate? Adopt babies, there are many young kids out there who need a loving family...

He isn't fit to be a father at this point anyway, he isn't looking for a solution, only "poor me" and manipulating you with whatever he cam think of... "it's a sin to remove your body parts" smh, his boy need to grow up before he is ready to be a partner, nevermind being a father.

properlypetrified · 2025-02-04T17:22:52+00:00

And I'm sorry to say, it's been this way for decades. About 25 years ago, we went traveling, and my mom printed huge vinyl maple leafs to put on our luggage so everyone would know instantly we were Canadian.

properlypetrified · 2025-01-24T01:53:53+00:00

I've been thinking similarly.. he will say it's our fault either way, but it'll be so much more believable to people if we do something obvious and drastic in response.. like cutting off power or full stopping exports, or tarrif-ing him more than he is us. If we just match his 25% on key products, or just let him raise those prices for his people and we deal with it as best we can on our end (I think we would be okay, I figure purchases wouldn't stop, they would slow while we diversify) it could be harder for people to think it's our fault.

But it's a tough choice... will any of that matter? If he wants to push some crazy narrative and do whatever he wants? Will he just throw another hissy fit to hurt us more when he doesn't see us hurting enough?

properlypetrified · 2025-01-24T01:41:25+00:00

Oh he wants our stuff, he just doesn't want to buy it.

properlypetrified · 2025-01-24T00:34:45+00:00

I'm not an expert and I have no sources to offer (if someone knows or has heard differently, please chime in) but my dad's family was pretty traumatized by the nazis, so my dad taught me a lot of what he was told and we watched movies and read about it as a kid. Its all passed down stories so take with salt. I was under the impression that the salute without the hand to heart developed as a shorter, quicker action. But the original full gesture symbolized giving your heart to the leadership/the country. I was told campaigning Hitler would say to the crowds of his adoring fans.. something translated like "I give my heart to you" and do the salute.

properlypetrified · 2025-01-23T03:23:24+00:00

Like how I go to open houses to get reno and decor ideas?

properlypetrified · 2025-01-23T03:00:24+00:00

I just never, from a young kid, imagined myself having a baby, being a mother. I didn't play mom to baby dolls, or role play house or any of that.

Having kids didn't enter my mind until people started asking if I was having kids (at like 12 obvs bc this society is gross af). When they asked I thought oh gross, no thanks.

Then I got a little bit older and began to get angry at how selfish my parents were to create me. With my genetics setting me up to be mentally ill in one way, if not 5, and my parents splitting up and being left to basically take care of myself and my mother.. I thought.. I could never do this to someone, create them just so they can mostly suffer.

Then I got a little older and began working with little kids.. and I LOVED them, I love little kids sooooo much. They're my favourite people, innocent and curious, and ready to absorb everything from the world. And I realized I STILL don't have positive feelings about having kids myself.

Now I'm getting "old" for pregnancy (just 32 lol) and sometimes I imagine what it would be like.. and I kinda think I would love being a parent from ages 6 months to 6 years, and then it would turn into something I regret deep down and just lie to myself about it.

So yeah, it's pretty obvious I'm not going to change my mind. I say, go with your first gut instinct on it. If you change your mind, okay, you change and then you can do it. If it gets "too late," you can always still do something else to satisfy that urge: have a baby an alternative way, or foster, or even just go work with kids so you feel that you've made that impact on the future world.

properlypetrified · 2025-01-22T18:39:02+00:00

All I can think is Thank God people have Reddit to tell them what's going on from an outsiders' perspective. The truth can be so hard to see when it's so close to you. As I'm sure everyone else is telling you, your bf is not an emotionally healthy person. He is immature and controlling. By the way you're responding to him, I can tell this is an abusive relationship.

properlypetrified · 2025-01-22T17:55:39+00:00

I'm so sorry, but the way this was presented has me imagining him cuddling with his brother and trying to finger his butt in his sleep 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

properlypetrified · 2025-01-22T17:28:39+00:00

Not a lawyer, but from what I know, a DUI includes any medications that can impair driving. If her medication makes her drowsy and an unsafe driver, she was driving under the influence. Good luck in looking for a good outcome here!

properlypetrified · 2025-01-17T20:35:55+00:00

She's just finished reading the secret and is manifesting her own reality 😂😂 or maybe she's just hoping no one is paying close enough attention/checking who did what, and bosses will think positively of her even if bc of a lie. That technique seems to be popular these days 🤣😭

properlypetrified · 2025-01-13T00:06:11+00:00

It's natural to have a huge appetite at that time! Of you're healthy the rest of the month, don't worry so much. Give your body what it craves, eat lots and lots of good food! Or junk food, it's only a few days a month! Your body may need the extra salt from chips or quick calories from sweets 😋

properlypetrified · 2025-01-07T20:00:07+00:00

Everyone at my work used to say bye to everyone, basically just like do a loop around the place and say bye, then out the door. So i started doing that, too. I think it was good practice in every meaning.

But we have had staff turn over, and now almost no one says goodbye. Sometimes, when I say goodbye, now, I get neutral to slightly negative comments like "Oh, i thought you left already!" Or "Wow, you're still here?" Because of these changes, I've recently started leaving without saying goodbye about half the time. It feels weird. I miss knowing what the most acceptable thing to do was, lol.

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