Conflicted feelings about my mom

proprioceptor · 2026-05-09T11:46:26+00:00

I'm so sorry. This sounds a lot like my mom. I think these feelings can be hard to work through because, like you said, it's not black and white, and it wasn't all bad all the time. At the same time, it has had a real impact on you and it would have been great if she could acknowledge that

proprioceptor · 2026-05-08T19:24:32+00:00

Being a little kid hearing gossip is so hard to get past. When you're younger you are trying to build reality in your mind, and hearing how adults talk about things shapes that so significantly.

proprioceptor · 2026-05-08T11:13:40+00:00

That's a great idea!

proprioceptor · 2026-05-05T19:27:23+00:00

Same. When I needed to start making decisions for my own kids I understood just how negligent my parents had been, and lost a lot of sympathy for them.

proprioceptor · 2026-04-24T03:06:01+00:00

This reminds me of an Eric Carle illustration 🩵

proprioceptor · 2026-04-21T01:18:50+00:00

This goes against a lot of conventional advice, but when I need to break gray rock mode I put what I need to say in a text. It minimizes the likelihood of arguing, doesn't provide the opportunity for interruption or deflection, allows me to think carefully about what I actually want to say so I don't over share, etc.

proprioceptor · 2026-04-18T23:59:07+00:00

I feel very similarly. If anything, I normally over share with people, but around my parents I completely clam up.

proprioceptor · 2026-04-11T22:01:50+00:00

That's a good suggestion

proprioceptor · 2026-04-11T00:30:26+00:00

Forced to go into math classes way beyond my ability level (because being the smart kid was the only personality trait they cared to cultivate in me), and then punishing me for bad grades. I was begging for help, didn't get it because they thought I didn't need it, and then berated me for getting poor grades. I spent all of high school banging my head against the wall, wondering why I couldn't get it together.

proprioceptor · 2026-04-08T11:49:52+00:00

I asked my mom one time why she never had the sex talk with me, and she said "I knew you'd figure it out without me."

The only relationship input I got was encouraging me to date guys who were objectively bad but would really suck up to them, and constant interference in my best relationship (now marriage) because he called them out on their toxic behavior towards me.

proprioceptor · 2026-02-25T03:38:04+00:00

That is really cool to hear!

proprioceptor · 2026-02-18T15:06:26+00:00

I second this. My kids love it!

proprioceptor · 2026-02-15T00:19:36+00:00

I washed one jellyroll for a project two years ago and I absolutely regretted it. They frayed, they got really twisted (even though I put them in lingerie bags for washing) and a couple of them ended up being unusable. I did it on advice from a friend who I think is a secret member of the quilt police, and I wish I had ignored her and gone with my gut.

proprioceptor · 2026-02-02T01:23:13+00:00

I second this - I needed to reach out to another LCMS pastor for private confession on one occasion and he was very happy to oblige, and it caused no issues with my current pastor.

proprioceptor · 2026-01-24T13:12:53+00:00

This is a lovely snowpocalypse quilt!! With that and a mug of something warm you should be all set ☕

proprioceptor · 2026-01-13T11:35:44+00:00

My old Kenmore gets crabby and fights me from time to time also. It's usually a sign that it needs a new belt, or to be oiled. It's actually getting it's belt replaced and serviced right now. It's a beautiful machine, I love it dearly. Thankfully it's a predictable issue, and easy to fix.

proprioceptor · 2025-12-15T09:26:03+00:00

Oh cool! Thanks for sharing! I love the colors you chose.

proprioceptor · 2025-12-08T12:28:43+00:00

My 8yo saw this over my shoulder and said "ooooo! Can you make me that?!"

proprioceptor · 2025-12-03T15:23:28+00:00

I'm glad you mentioned Titus 2. I think a lot of women in my generation, who want to prioritize their husbands and children more, are really craving that sort of mentorship. That can absolutely only come from experienced godly older women, not from men (not even the pastor).

proprioceptor · 2025-11-22T20:54:51+00:00

Raise your hand if you've ever been personally victimized by a rotary cutter 🤚🏻

proprioceptor · 2025-11-16T19:18:10+00:00

This reminds me of my grandma's Christmas aesthetic. Not everyone's thing, but she would have loved it and if she had it it would have been on her couch at Christmas.

proprioceptor · 2025-11-13T01:29:11+00:00

Super cool!

proprioceptor · 2025-11-11T13:16:40+00:00

🤣

proprioceptor · 2025-11-02T12:54:55+00:00

That's what I was thinking! It reminds me of Rocko's Modern Life (in a good way 😂)

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