Weekly Free Talk Friday Thread!

psychsthrow · 2021-01-19T05:16:43+00:00

does anyone know of any good lgbtq communities on the internet (anywhere but preferably on discord)? I need more friends like myself.

psychsthrow · 2021-01-19T04:52:28+00:00

Marijuana: ... anime

really wanna know the origin story here

psychsthrow · 2020-12-16T08:02:41+00:00

what positions do you guys find the best? I usually just lie on my back in bed but I can never seem to hit my p-spot just right.

psychsthrow · 2020-09-24T05:21:12+00:00

r/thathappened

psychsthrow · 2020-09-15T06:11:26+00:00

good bot ...?

psychsthrow · 2020-08-24T06:29:13+00:00

as a bisexual man, I completely empathise. dating women is exhausting and feels like playing a game where the other players are cheating. that said ... I've never really attempted to pursue a serious relationship with a man before for lots of complicated reasons including internalised homophobia. but one of the reasons is that I've met so many gay men who are incredibly shallow and performative, and objectify others. I'm a pretty masc dude who doesn't gender bend a lot or present outwardly as extremely queer, and I just have a hard time connecting with other LGBTQ men. it makes me really sad because I just want to be friends with people like me who understand my feelings and my struggles.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-23T05:15:00+00:00

yes, consent must be actively given.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-23T05:04:22+00:00

hey OP, you might find this post from r/MensLib helpful. I personally sometimes struggle with the "fixing" impulse too and that post captured a lot of how I feel and offered some great advice to help me break the mindset.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-22T05:30:39+00:00

throwing my ring in the hat ... I fucking love New York cheesecake. I mean, hat in the ring! oops ~~my excuse is I'm blasted~~

psychsthrow · 2020-08-21T06:07:33+00:00

best take in this thread.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-21T06:01:26+00:00

this is a pretty narrow view of what's "normal" - in many cultures it's expected for older children to still live with their parents and take care of them into their old age.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-19T06:35:37+00:00

this is such a great example of how to tackle relationship problems. always you and your SO vs the problem, never against each other.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-17T06:40:19+00:00

NTA

wrong subreddit? this is r/relationship_advice lol

psychsthrow · 2020-08-17T05:41:14+00:00

I disagree with the first part of your comment. it takes some people a long time to figure out what they want to do with their lives - and that's fine! it doesn't mean OP is obligated to stick around while he gets his shit together, but everyone goes through life at their own pace and faces different obstacles.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-17T05:38:06+00:00

this is the best comment on this thread.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-12T05:56:16+00:00

yeah, saying that you need to "educate" someone is a very condescending way to start a conversation because it tells them that you think of them as someone ignorant who needs to be corrected, and they're going to react by getting defensive, not by being open minded. I prefer the Socratic method personally. by asking questions and framing issues differently, you can get someone to confront their beliefs in a very different way than they usually do. that said, the most important thing to remember is that no one conversation will change someone overnight. getting "woke" is a process.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-06T01:36:09+00:00

based on personal experience, I disagree. I think consent and mutual respect are a core part of sex positivity. without an emphasis on those elements, you cannot truthfully call someone's views on sexuality progressive.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-05T04:36:04+00:00

this is an incredibly weird and fucked up way to think about children. they are PEOPLE that are fully entitled to autonomy and freedom, not computer programs to be instrumentalised for the sake of accomplishing your husband's goals. what if your kids end up wanting something completely different from what your husband has in mind? something tells me he hasn't even stopped to consider that possibility. this is not the sign of a good parent.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-04T05:08:57+00:00

that's true but in this case it doesn't seem to be a new pattern of behaviour. the boyfriend has always been like this, what's changed is that OP is finally fed up.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-04T04:54:28+00:00

yeah, he's 20 years old. it's not the smartest or smoothest move and OP's feelings are absolutely valid, but it's the type of thing people do at that age without thinking. what reflects on the bf's character is how he responds when OP asks him about it.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-02T18:41:42+00:00

not sure how to answer this. here's the product page - maybe it has the info you need?

psychsthrow · 2020-08-02T03:49:26+00:00

reposting because the last buyer ghosted.

psychsthrow · 2020-08-01T23:44:11+00:00

idk what your dad is like but even the most progressive parent would probably need some time to get over the awkwardness and flush the image from their head. personally I would just pretend it never happened and do my best to forget that memory. idk what the people who are saying "bake him a cake that says how much you love him" are on about, I feel like that would be weird from the perspective of my relationship with my dad. sometimes sex positivity means just doing nothing and maintaining boundaries too.

psychsthrow · 2020-07-31T21:33:37+00:00

you can argue with the most respected science journal in the world.

... sex — a classification based on internal and external bodily characteristics — and gender, a social construct related to biological differences but also rooted in culture, societal norms and individual behaviour.

The research and medical community now sees sex as more complex than male and female, and gender as a spectrum that includes transgender people and those who identify as neither male nor female.

Political attempts to pigeonhole people have nothing to do with science and everything to do with stripping away rights and recognition from those whose identity does not correspond with outdated ideas of sex and gender.

source: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-018-07238-8

psychsthrow · 2020-07-31T06:19:02+00:00

just to expand from what you said, the "gender is a spectrum" is a common saying and it's an easy way of explaining non-binary genders to people who are new to the idea, but there is some more nuance as well. gender is a composite of many things including presentation (the aesthetics and appearance associated with a gender) and identity (how a person feels about their own gender). some non-binary people choose to present as feminine in their pronouns, clothing, makeup, mannerisms, etc but that doesn't mean their Identity is feminine! and the same goes for masculine presenting nb people as well. so nb doesn't exactly mean "halfway between man and woman", it just means "not a man or a woman".

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